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Should Dismas Avoid Celebrating Holidays like Family Day and Valentine's Day?
It just so happens that Cambridge Dismas this year lands on "Family Day." Anticipating this, our group had a brief discussion about how to handle it. One of our regulars piped up "We should celebrate it! Dismas IS my family!"
Sometimes we make things more awkward by steering away from celebrations like Family Day, Valentine's Day and even Christmas. But I think all we need to do is "tweak" these themes to fit the needs of our communities.
So instead of making people feel sad that they are separated from loved ones one Family Day, why not emphasize the positive that we have others in our lives who have become our family. Or consider adjusting Valentine's Day to celebrate loving friendships and use the gathering as an opportunity for folks to express gratitude for their close friends.
Yes, there are some holidays that may trigger negative emotions. Like Christmas. I remember years ago a newcomer to Hamilton told me "I hate Christmas!" It was because he had nobody to celebrate it with. Now, he is one of the happiest celebrants of the Yuletide Season and looks forward to Dismas festivities and fellowship.
Personally, I think if we shy away from holiday themes we may be robbing our members of an opportunity to find new context and new ways to enjoy community!
Paul Tuck, Community Coordinator
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