We are so honored to share with you what we have been up to and how your support is making an impact in the community of our homeless and at risk population.
In This Issue
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Upcoming Events
Christ Church Green Show  
505 E. Buck Rd. Greenville
December 5, 2015
10:00 a.m.-2:00 p.m.
Click for more info!

The Spirit of Christmas
New Castle Presbyterian
Church
25 E 2nd St, New Castle
December 12, 2015
9:30 a.m.-5:30 p.m.
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Annual Fundraiser Event 
Save the Date!
February 5, 2016
At the home of Chris and Penny Saridakis
More details to come! 
Fun Facts
Did you know?
We hosted 6 interns this Fall semester for a total of 1,600 hours!

We average over 350 volunteer hours gifted to us each month!

It costs us $1 for every pound of clothing we give to the community.

It costs almost $4,000 a day to run Friendship House and our many ministries.

We touch over 10,000 New Castle County residents every year through our day centers, clothing bank and housing programs!

We use about 175 pounds of coffee a month during our winter months.

December, 2015

With gratitude and thankfulness, we are happy to send you our Fall electronic newsletter. So many wonderful things are happening at all of our locations that we wish we could share them all here. We hope you enjoy the stories we have chosen for this newsletter. You can follow us on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram to see more of our amazing stories and pictures.

As December rolls in and starts the process of another year coming to an end, it is hard not to lament the goods and the bads of the past 11 months. For us at Friendship House, that often means thinking of the clients who came to us for help. Whether it was a young family who relocated and needed help securing a better paying job or inviting another 25 year old, homeless for the first time, into Winter Sanctuary; or seeing a Friendship House graduate we hadn't seen for a while telling us how great and secure her life is since she got her new apartment, to hearing of yet another life taken too soon to an overdose. Friendship House is so fortunate to be able to touch someone's life in a meaningful way. And, we are able to do this because of your support. Whether it be a financial gift, one of time or of prayer, we are so grateful for all you have done to make this ministry possible. Thank you.
Spring's Promise in Winter's Death
At 7:30 PM on Veteran's Day, Dewey Lister, a formerly homeless vet and a Friendship House client for more than twenty-five years, went home to God. One of the first residents of Andrew's Place, our shelter for the elderly, Dewey was an iconic figure in the Friendship House family - famous for his quiet dignity, fierce independence and remarkable peace of spirit. Dewey's departure is symbolic of an end of an era of Friendship House ministry.  

Like people, non-profits have their life cycles. Ministries are born in response to specific social crises. If successful, these ministries prosper, developing effective programs and infrastructures. Whatever their level of success, however, non-profits also inevitably age. A new generation of clients with different needs and priorities come seeking help. The programs and policies  once so effective become out of step with changing times. As they approach their thirtieth anniversary, many non-profits have lost their vitality and are struggling to survive. A special few, however, have made strategic planning a part of their corporate DNA and have the capacity to renew their ministry and effectively serve the next generation of people in need.

In 2017, as Friendship House celebrates thirty years as a nonprofit and I celebrate my seventieth birthday, I will step down as Executive Director. Of the four generations of homeless clients served by Friendship House over this time, Dewey's World War II generation have almost all past away and my own Baby Boomer generation are mostly senior citizens. The two newest and fasting growing client populations are working class families and young adults under thirty-five. While survival needs of the homeless haven't changed, the challenges impeding their recovery are new and diverse. For Friendship House to fulfill its mission to this new generation of people in need, survival is not enough.

Four years ago the Friendship House board and staff initiated a six year strategic plan of renewal and transformation. In response to a dramatic increase in the number of suburban homeless and at risk clients, Friendship House re-engineered its programs to serve all of New Castle County. Rather than short-term crisis interventions, these modified programs emphasize empowerment and ongoing communal support. Recognizing that it needed to recruit a new, younger generation of staff and volunteers, Friendship House expanded its intern program and introduced new volunteer opportunities for students and families. To develop the next leadership team, Friendship House recruited and hired new middle managers to understudy with the current senior staff. Internally, Friendship House dramatically upgraded its properties, equipment, infrastructure and digital footprint.

As its thirtieth anniversary approaches, Friendship House courses with new life, blessed with a new generation of passionate ministers ready to bring good news to their peers.

Bill Perkins
CEO and Executive Director
(to see Bill's full article, visit our website here.) 
Andrew's Place
Andrew's Place was founded in the winter of 1989 at the initiative of the vestry of St. Andrew's Episcopal Church to provide night-time winter sanctuary to homeless, elderly men. Over the years, Friendship House has gradually extended its season, increased its operating hours and expanded its services to include an evening meal, lockers, a computer lab and a second stage transitional housing program.
 
Since its opening, Andrew's Place has served nearly 1,200 elderly residents. For some (10%), Andrew's Place has been a loving sanctuary where they could die with dignity. For others (20%), Andrew's Place is an emergency winter haven enabling them to survive another year on the streets of Wilmington. For an increasing number (70%), however, the shelter's supportive communal atmosphere and empowerment services have served as the catalyst needed to re-establish themselves in independent housing. The current population of older homeless men are healthier, less disabled and more employable.

With these patterns in mind, Friendship House has decided to take the final step of converting Andrew's Place from a seasonal emergency shelter for elderly men to an entry-level empowerment shelter for motivated homeless men of all ages. Services will include more intensive case management and support services. The goal will be a limited stay at Andrew's Place with a clear pathway to either independent housing or Friendship House transitional housing. This enables Friendship House to reduce the number of shelter beds for seniors from twenty-two to twelve while increasing the number of transitional housing beds for the seniors from five to twelve.

Friendship House will use the remaining twelve beds to extend Andrew's Place's empowerment services to employable, program oriented homeless men engaged in a strategic plan to rebuild their lives.
First Lady Carla Markell
We were honored to host First Lady Carla Markell at Epiphany House and the Clothing Bank of Delaware this Fall. Mrs. Markell not only toured our sites but took time to talk to our residents and staff with inspiring and hope filled words. Mrs. Markell also visited our Newark Empowerment Center the previous week where Gov. Jack Markell's mother volunteers. We are so, so grateful that Mrs. Markell took time to spend with Friendship House! Picture above is of Mrs. Markell with some of our housing residents and staff Marcy Perkins (Director of Housing) and Mary Anne Matarese (Assistant Director of Housing). 
An Intern's Story
by Anna Conaway
I can start by saying that I wouldn't be writing this if I never found Friendship House. God led me to the Women's Day Center two years ago whe n I was homeless and living in my addiction. After recently being released from jail I had nothing to my name and nowhere to go. I wanted to live the "right way", clean and legally, but I had no idea where to start. In my past struggles with my addiction, feeling unaccepted and lacking a sense of security and support was always my downfall; I found these things at the Women's Center. I was living at Hope House and every morning, going to the Women's Center was as much part of my routine as eating breakfast. I would meet up with the other clients for a cup of coffee before we all went off to an NA meeting or to apply for jobs. That is how I met my best friend and learned about all of the other agencies and programs in Wilmington that contributed to my success.

Two years later, I now have a nice apartment, a car, a steady management job, financial security, my sobriety, friends, and I am about to graduate college. I wouldn't have any of this if I didn't have the other clients and case workers at the Women's Day Center to support and guide me from the beginning of my journey to independence. I chose to intern at Friendship House because I wanted to give back to the people who helped me the most and show clients that it is possible to recover from whatever situation they may be struggling with. Now, when I meet clients that don't believe they can succeed or think it's impossible to get their life back, I can tell them my story. There is no better feeling than to be able to help someone with what I learned from my experiences. Every day of my internship is something new and exciting; I get to meet and help new people every day and follow return clients through their journey.  I am amazed by the level of dedication from every employee and volunteer at Friendship House; I can't imagine what the thousands of clients and  I would have done without them.
Thank you to our Fall Interns
This past semester we hosted six interns from  Delaware Technical Community College and University of Delaware. They were dedicated, committed, and hard working. Our Women's Day Center, Men's Day Center, Clothing Bank and Housing programs benefited greatly and really enjoyed the interns. The interns we host are typically pursuing either a Human Services or Behavioral Services degree. These fields are fortunate to have such talent. Thank you Anna, Jen, Maddie, Michael, Nicole, and Shaleria. We  hope you come back and visit us! Good luck with a rewarding and bright future.
Volunteering at Friendship House
by Kendra Haffoney
What I've always envisioned for my life is creating change and making a lead to community impact and social change. It is very important for me to be a volunteer in my community because I have always been blessed with great family and friends. The statistics we hear every day about homelessness is real and not just numbers. This is the reason why I reached out to The Friendship House because I wanted to lend a helping hand in whatever I can do to contribute to my community. 
 
My experience thus far with The Friendship House has been phenomenal. I have volunteered at the Clothing Bank and Epiphany House lending a helping hand. At the clothing bank I helped with sorting the children's clothing by girls and boys in all different sizes and at Epiphany House I cooked meals for women and had an opportunity to sit down with the women to learn their stories. I love how everyone treats everybody with respect and such kindness, it really feels like a family within the friendship organization. Every family deserves a place to call home, a place to feel safe and a place to feel comfortable and that is why The Friendship House is such a great place to be and volunteer. I feel that my work here is a small contribution to a much greater cause. 
Work Groups This Fall Amaze Us!
Fox and Roach
We had an amazing work day with Fox and Roach Realtors when they came and spent several hours at Palmer House cleaning, planting, laughing and working hard all to serve our Transitional Housing Program. They planted mums and bulbs, weeded the gardens, and prepared many of our bushes for the winter months. They have volunteered with Friendship House for many years for a day of service and it is always a treat to have them.
Capital One
This amazing group of people from Capital One worked for an entire day at three of our houses: Palmer, Epiphany, and Elizabeth House. They planted, laid mulch, built a shed, cleaned inside and out, and put together shelving. It was such a gift to have this group not only for their hard work but for their fun spirit and willingness to get dirty!
Neumann Roller Blade Team
We receive so many wonderful work groups through the year at our Clothing Bank of Delaware. Most recently, we enjoyed the Neumann University Roller Blade Team where they worked on folding clothes, stocking children's  clothing and making orders. They had a great time, got a lot of work done and even tried on some clothes for us! Thank you for you team effort and hard work! Did you know our Clothing Bank of Delaware gave to the community over 150,000 pounds of clothing this year? It is a lot of work, but only possible because of the hundreds of volunteers we get year after year. Thank you!
Online Giving: Its OK, We Don't Mind!
Did you know you can give to Friendship House online through our website? We use an organization called Network for Good  (also a nonprofit!) to manage our online credit card transactions. 100% of your donation to us is tax deductible. In addition, if you opt to pay the 2.9% transaction fee on our behalf, that is also tax deductible and we get a little extra happy!

Donating online can save time for you and for us. You get an instant confirmation and receipt for your files and taxes. You can also decide to make the donation in honor or memory of someone and have an electronic card or paper card mailed to a person of your choosing.

If you haven't visited our donation page, you can click the link below. Thank you!
Friendship House | | fhkime@gmail.com | http://www.friendship-house.org
PO Box 1517
Wilmington, DE 19899