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VOLUME XIII ISSUE NO. 1 | JANUARY 2021
Mindfulness, Meditation, Self-Awareness

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Modern Life
Our fight, freeze, or flight response has been with us for millions of years. Its purpose is to protect us from immediate danger. When we imagine a dangerous future, anxiety kicks in.
 
Modern life can trigger chronic anxiety. For example, some imagine the dangers of slipping into an abyss of unhealthy nationalism, fascism, communism, or anarchy, the dangers of an increasingly damaged environment, or of vastly unequal distribution of wealth.
 
Add to that the certainty of old age, sickness and death and the risk of having a terrible life with no partner, no job, etc. There is plenty to worry about. Worry feeds anxiety, anxiety feeds worry, prolonging the anxiety. (See the November article on Worry at https://www.pitagorskyconsulting.com/articles/article/8934954/194260.htm).
 
Let anxiety wake you up so you can do what you can do to eliminate or moderate the perceived threat, if possible. To avoid chronic anxiety, apply remedies, prevention, and awareness.
 
Remedies
Simply recognizing and accepting anxiety can immediately dissolve it. If that doesn't happen, then skillfully apply a personalized remedy using meditation, mindful dis-identification with the feelings, contemplation, therapy, analysis, displacing or hiding the feelings of anxiety with a mantra, thought, prayer, or by eating, drinking, drugging, or smoking.
 
Remedies, used skillfully, help. They avoid chronic anxiety and soften or even eliminate symptoms. Though, too much of a good thing becomes harmful. By-passing and suppressing emotions is unhealthy. Some remedies (drugs, over-eating, etc.) can harm physical and psychological health.
 
For a healthy remedy, Thich Nhat Hanh explains, “... mindful breathing brings us back to our fear so we can embrace it. We look deeply into the nature of our fear to reconcile ourselves with it… transform it.”
 "Breathing in, I calm body and mind. Breathing out, I smile. Dwelling in the present moment I know this is the only moment.” Thich Nhat Hahn
 
Prevention
To some extent, you can prevent, as opposed to remedy, anxiety. For example, by desensitizing - the way a phobic becomes incrementally more comfortable in situations that produced fear or anxiety. You change the programming that transforms a particular set of conditions into anxiety.
 
Become conscious of the arising of anxiety before it takes hold by cultivating mindful awareness. Observe anxiety. Neither identify with it, nor push it away. Allow it.
 
Over time and with the practice of mindfulness, you dissolve anxiety by gaining insight into its nature – the impermanent result of a continuous flow of causes and conditions.
 
Radical Acceptance and Awareness
Radical acceptance is the fierce practice of simply being aware of phenomena. Not pushing away, not grasping. The most interesting phenomena are your sensations, feelings, and thoughts. They may be pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral. They feed on one another in a continuous interactive flow.
 
When anxiety comes, greet it with friendliness and interest, but don't invite it in and serve it tea.
 
When even the observing itself and the observer become phenomena, then there is an experience of dynamic peace and clarity. Maybe it lasts a moment, maybe longer. You acknowledge it and continue. Then, you experience fewer instances of anxiety and when they do arise, they do not stay long.
 
The remedy and prevention are the same - accepting whatever comes and skillfully applying remedies when appropriate. 


How to be Happy Even When You Are Sad, Mad or Scared:

How to be happy...How to be Happy Even When You Are Sad, Mad or Scared is available on Amazon.com. It is a book for children of all ages (including those in adult bodies). Buy it for the children in your life so they can be better able to “feel and deal” - feel and accept their emotions and deal with them in a way that avoids being driven by them. You can order the book at https://www.amazon.com/How-Happy-Even-When-Scared/dp/1072233363
Performance and Open-minded Mindfulness
Open-minded: questioning everything, accepting diversity and uncertainty. 
 
Mindful: consciously aware; concentrated. 

Foundation for blending process, project, engagement and knowledge management into a cohesive approach to optimize performance.
By George Pitagorsky

Success is measured in how well and how regularly you meet expectations. But what exactly are expectations, and how do you effectively manage them when multiple priorities and personalities are involved?
Using the case study of a Project Manager coordinating an organizational transition, this Managing Expectations book explores how to apply a mindful, compassionate, and practical approach to satisfying expectations in any situation. George Pitagorsky describes how to make sure expectations are rational, mutually understood, and accepted by all those with a stake in the project. This process relies on blending a crisp analytical approach with the interpersonal skills needed to negotiate win-win understandings of what is supposed to be delivered, by when, for how much, by who, and under what conditions.

Managing Conflict in Projects
By George Pitagorsky

Managing Conflict in Projects: Applying Mindfulness and Analysis for Optimal Results by George Pitagorsky charts a course for identifying and dealing with conflict in a project context.

Pitagorsky states up front that conflict management is not a cookbook solution to disagreement-a set of prescribed actions to be applied in all situations. His overall approach seeks to balance two aspects of conflict management: analysis based on a codified process and people-centered behavioral skills.

The book differentiates conflict resolution and conflict management. Management goes beyond resolution to include relationship building that may serve to avoid conflict or facilitate resolution if it occurs.
 
The Zen Approach to Project Management 
By George Pitagorsky

Projects are often more complex and stressful than they need to be. Far too many of them fail to meet expectations. There are far too many conflicts. There are too few moments of joy and too much anxiety. But there is hope. It is possible to remove the unnecessary stress and complexity. This book is about how to do just that. It links the essential principles and techniques of managing projects to a "wisdom" approach for working with complex, people-based activities.