Six months ago, I shared my story for the first time—a story of pain, fear, and survival. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and tomorrow, on Purple Thursday, we recognize the strength of survivors and raise awareness about domestic violence.

If you see me wearing purple in my photo, it’s not just for fashion. It’s a statement. It’s a symbol of solidarity with all those still fighting their way out of abusive situations and a reminder that you don’t have to do it alone.

I want to take you back to when I broke my silence after keeping it hidden for 15 years. I had hidden bruises, silenced cries, and covered emotional wounds that no one knew existed.

Two years ago, my life almost ended at the hands of my ex-husband. But what I didn’t realize then was that surviving that night would mark the beginning of a different battle—the battle to reclaim my sense of self. In those moments, I wasn’t just fighting for my life; I was fighting for the woman I had lost along the way.

This newsletter isn’t just about my story. It’s about the journey so many women are walking—the path from surviving to healing.

If you’ve ever felt trapped in silence, I’m writing to you.

Breaking free from domestic violence is just the first step. The real work begins in the healing that follows.

Here are some actions you can take, whether you're in the process of leaving or walking through the aftermath:



Domestic violence isn’t just physical. It often starts with emotional manipulation and control. Recognizing the signs early on can be lifesaving. Here are a few red flags to look out for in an abusive relationship:

Extreme jealousy: An abusive partner may constantly question your loyalty or accuse you of infidelity without reason.

Insults and shaming: They might insult, demean, or shame you, making you feel unworthy or belittled.

Pressuring substance use: Forcing or encouraging you to use drugs or alcohol to control your actions or decisions.

Isolation tactics: Preventing you from spending time with family, friends, or anyone who might offer support.

Destruction of belongings: An abuser might destroy things that are valuable to you as a way of exerting control.

Recognizing these signs is the first step toward getting help for yourself or someone you know.

If you’re feeling trapped, know this: you are not alone. I invite you to reach out, even if it’s just to say “I’m not okay.” The first step to healing is acknowledging where you are. Together, we can take the next steps, however small they may be. God loves you, and so do I. You have the strength to reclaim your life.

It’s estimated that 1 in every 3 women and 1 in 4 men will experience physical violence by a partner.

Each year, around 12 million people are affected by domestic violence, yet many cases go unreported.

While 85% of victims are women, we all need to know how to help anyone facing abuse.

If you or someone you know needs help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233) for confidential support 24/7/365.

Healing takes time, but every step you take is a step toward freedom.

Whether you’re still in the storm or beginning to feel the warmth of peace, know that you are stronger than you realize.

Keep moving forward, keep your faith strong, and never lose sight of the love and hope that is waiting for you.