Issue: 4 
Winter  2014  
In This Issue
Staff Spotlight
Book Recommendations
Group Services
Research Watch
Recommended Resources
Author Alert!
Loriene Honda, PhD
'The Cat Who Chose to Dream' is available this month!

With the inclusion of therapeutic relaxation and visualization techniques, Dr. Loriene Honda demonstrates how the imaginative mind can prove to be
one's most powerful tool in surpassing adversity.

Book Reviews
Book Fact Sheet
Ordering Information
Recommended Article

'The Lack of Gentle Platonic Touch in Men's Lives is a Killer,' Mark Greene

Mark Greene explores how in American culture, men avoid all contact rather than risk even the hint of causing unwanted sexual touch...



They say time flies when you're having fun and no truer words were spoken when it comes to our first full year of Gil Institute operations. Gil, Goldin, and Shaw oversaw a seamless transition with few disruptions in services to our clients. Our offices were remodeled and reconstructed to accommodate additional office space. Most importantly, we are now at full capacity with the addition of two new full-time therapists, as well as several part-time contractors and residents and interns.

Dr. Gil and Dr. Shaw co-authored a book on working with children with sexual behavior problems which was published this year through Guilford Press. We were proud and excited to do a book-signing and an Open House we hosted in December of 2013. In addition, Elizabeth Konrath, Myriam Goldin, Jennifer Shaw and Heather McTaggart Bryan co-authored a chapter on Integrated Play Therapy for a book edited by Crenshaw and Stewart expected to be out in early 2014.  

Dr. Gil was also beyond proud to have co-authored a chapter with her daughter, Teresa Dias, published in a recent book edited by Malchiodi and Crenshaw on the use of the Expressive Arts for Attachment Problems...
GITRE's Year In Review 


Top, Kevin O'Connor, Paris Goodyear Brown, Lisa Staab Shadburn, Phyllis Booth, & Helen Benedict. Bottom:  Sue Bratton, Eliana Gil, & Jennifer Baggerly


Professional Friendships: Unique and Rewarding

I have found it consistently difficult to define and explain "work friendships." They appear to be in a category all their own. These are friendships built over the years, with memorably "moments" of shared passion. Case in point: I met Garry Landreth a million and one years ago. We got to know each other first at Board meetings, then in after-Board meeting dinners, then over breakfasts, and lunches. He then invited me to come speak at University of Texas, which I was really surprised about because I was not then, and I'm not now, primarily a child-centered play therapist. I thought it magnanimous of him to invite me to speak on different types of play therapy that were more directive and integrated. And he sat through them, which caused me no lack of stress!!! Over the years, I have seen Garry at most of the APT conferences, or other such conferences. I have gotten to know him over scrambled eggs and orange juice while we discussed all things play therapy and share our professional focus.  


Ours was not a friendship built at school, pouring over homework, or on a tennis or softball team. We did not meet as young parents to share stories of our kids. We met because we do similar work and regard our work as highly important and useful. Garry is one of my "work relationships," and I don't see him for dinner at my home, and I don't know where he lives and what kind of other life activities he loves. But I love him just the same, and I feel close to him every time I see him, as if time had stood still.


Work relationships are unique that way and we all have them. We experience events such as co-presenting, answering audience questions, discussing power points, and from giving each other honest feedback. In my life, my work relationships are at a par with my other very intimate personal relationships but the boundaries seem different and the amount of time spent together is limited in quantity but not quality....Read more from Dr. Gil 


Jodi Cobb and Autism Spectrum Disorders 

Jodi Cobb is currently a Resident in Marriage and Family Therapy. She holds graduate degrees in the areas of school psychology, marriage and family therapy and autism spectrum disorders. She is currently a doctoral student at University of Louisiana at Monroe in the Marriage and Family Therapy Creative Systemic Studies Program. Jodi offers Gil Institute over 20 years of experience.

ELIANA: Jodi, I'm wondering if you can say a little about working with parents of children on the autism spectrum and what might be important for clinicians to know about being helpful.

JODI: Families impacted by autism spectrum disorders are often under a tremendous amount of stress. Activities that many families take for granted, such as a simple trip to the grocery store or eating in a restaurant as a family, may require intense planning and in some instances may not even be possible given the obstacles presented.  


I often hear parents lament, "People without ASD children really have no idea just how difficult it is." These feelings of isolation and exclusion can become magnified for some parents, and professionals need to be especially sensitive to this. I believe professionals supporting families impacted by ASD should ask about a whole range of daily routines including: sleeping schedules and disruptions, concerns about safety due to elopement/wandering, food sensitivities or special diets, child-care or respite care arrangements, the availability of alone-time for parents, opportunities for family members to pursue individual interests, sources of support separate from the professional or ASD community, etc. I also think it is important for professionals to ask what the family does for fun, how they play together, and what kinds of activities bring them joy...Jodi's Full Interview with Dr. Gil 



children-reading.jpgAs professionals we are equipped with many tools to help children, adolescents and caregivers address and cope with many different issues. Creative stories, vibrant pictures, innovative characters and child friendly language have proven to be an extremely effective way to help our clients understand the issues that they are faced with on a daily basis. Gil Institute staff share some of their favorite books for children that address issues of adoption, anxiety, attachment, bullying, sexual abuse, identification / regulation of emotions, anger management and loss and grief.  


When ordering books, please remember Self Esteem Shop a bookstore interested in books for children and a favorite resource of Dr. Gil and the staff of Gil Institute.



Girls with a History of Sexual Trauma 

Boys with a History of Sexual Trauma

Children of Divorced or Separated Parents

Boundary Project: Children with Sexual Behavior Problems


Adolescent Girls with a History of Sexual Trauma

Adolescent Boys with a History of Sexual Trauma

Self-Esteem Building: Group for Adolescent Girls 


Circle of Security - Parenting Program (COS-P)-English & Spanish

Support Group - Parents of Abused Children-English & Spanish

Support Group - Parenting after Separation / Divorce 

Boundary Project: for Caregivers of Children with SBPs


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