Hello from Glen and Shawn and our family here in Arkansas! We love sharing this update with you AND we also are very thankful for your prayers for us!

We sincerely hope that each person reading this update has a great month of March! May each of us walk closely with God and love others with the love He has given us!
From "I Do" to "I'm Done"

My wife and I recently met a young couple from our church. In March of 2017, this husband and wife declared their commitment to God and to each other in front of family and friends here in Arkansas. But now, the high emotions and undying love they promised on their wedding day has somehow evaporated. One spouse shared that they didn't think their relationship was “fixable”.

And this young couple is not alone. We are seeing more and more couples married 3 years or less in serious marital distress. Adjusting to married life is just plain hard! And this “not fixable” feeling is not limited to young marrieds. Lots of couples who have survived the first five years now find themselves at a point where they have lost hope that things can be different, or in a place where one spouse wants out.

How can this happen? How does any couple, especially a committed Christian couple, get from saying “I Do” on the wedding day to “I'm Done” at the divorce lawyer? And, more importantly, when you find yourselves there as a couple, what do you do?

When a husband or wife has lost hope for their marriage, they need to do some real “heart-searching” in two areas. And both of these areas are critical to honestly evaluate.


We hear this phrase all the time in counseling circles: “I love my spouse but I'm just not in love with them any more.” Just like the young couple from our church, they find themselves in a place where their lack of feelings for their spouse has led them to the conclusion that their marriage is dead. And while I understand the feeling, I counsel those couples to re-think what love really is.

The world has done a terrific job of defining love. The problem is that the world's definition is wrong. Here is what author and counselor Rob Green says about worldly love: “Three things characterize love from a worldly perspective: 1) love is a warm, fuzzy feeling, 2) love is about physical attraction, and 3) love is about having fun together. But if your definition of love is little more than warm fuzzies, physical attraction, and the ability to have fun together, your relationship may demonstrate not how much you love the other person, but how much you each love yourself! What you have found is a person who helps you love you better than anyone else has!”

Ponder what Rob Green shared a second time. Coming to realize that I have embraced the world's definition of love may be hard to admit, but it is the first step to moving from the selfish love that the world sells to a “more excellent way” of love. If that is where you honestly are, take a moment to confess that to the Lord in true humility. Repentance is always God's first step toward real change.

So what does God have to say about this thing called “love”? God has a lot to say about love in the Bible. You may be familiar with passages like 1 Corinthians 13 or even Ephesians 5. Those verses give us a view of biblical love, but check out these verses from 1 John 4:

This is how God showed His love among us: He sent His one and only Son into the world that we might live through Him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 1 John 4:9-11

As you and I read those verses, we hear God showing us His view of biblical love. God's love is giving, other-centered, and self-sacrificing. Biblical love sees a need and gives, serves, and sacrifices to meet that need, with no thought of the personal cost involved.

Notice also that God's love is action-oriented. It does something! Biblical love moves beyond good intentions to action, even when it is hard. We must all remember that real, biblical love is not what I profess with my mouth – it is what I do in the small, seemingly insignificant moments of life. We all profess love for our spouse on Valentine's Day, but what about February 15th. Did my actions on February 15th back up my words from February 14th?


Understanding and embracing God's definition of love is vitally important. But beyond that, a second necessary step is honestly assessing where you are looking for your hope in this life and in your marriage. Keep reading by clicking here...


This is how God showed His love among us: He sent His one and only Son into the world that we might live through Him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.

1 John 4:9-11

Emerson Eggerich: "Not Wrong, Just Different"

March Resources to Help You or a Friend

We want to share some resources that we think will be helpful for you or a friend. We are sharing two new ones this month. So please send us feedback, positive or negative. We'd love to hear from you. Just click the Contact Button at the bottom of this page!

Resource #1: Many couples deal with infertility issues. We have some good friends now who are in that season. If you are in that season, or know a couple who is, check out the linked article below and share it with them.

Resource #2: One thing that we ALL need in marriage and other relationships is the ability to listen well. As we all know, hearing and listening are NOT the same thing! Check out this powerful but short article on listening.

What Do I Do Now? My Credit Card has changed!

Many of our Ministry Partners give their monthly donations by credit or debit card. And the question always comes up, "Hey, Glen and Shawn, my card number (or expiration date) has changed. How can I get that updated so that my gifts continue for y'all each month?"

The answer is easy. Simply contact us by email, phone, or text to let us know your situation. You can also click the "Contact Glen and Shawn" button at the bottom of this update and share that way. And FYI, our donation system cannot update your card info, so we simply de-activate your present recurring gift and send you a link to set up a new gift. It's that easy.


OUR TEAM: Please pray for our Marriage Revolution Team in Houston, Dallas, and Little Rock - that God would be working deeply in our lives, marriages, and families. And that the overflow of that deep work would be life-transforming ministry to others. Without Him, we can truly do nothing!

NEXT GENERATION: You may have heard someone say "We are in a battle for the next generation". We believe that is true and the battle is one that we should be fighting as Christ-followers. Please pray with us for God to raise up Godly leaders in the next generation - the Billy Grahams and Bill Brights that will continue to unashamedly share the Gospel. Let's do our part in prayer!!

TRAVEL THIS MONTH: Shawn and Glen are headed to the wedding of a good friend's daughter in mid-March near Austin, Texas. In addition to the wedding, we also plan to see some of our Ministry Partners in that area. Please pray for both safe travel and great connections at the wedding and with our Ministry Partners.

OUR FAMILY IN 2021: Shawn is celebrating her birthday this month! Don't know exactly how we will celebrate, but thankful for your prayers for Shawn. Giving thanks for another year of life and God's goodness and grace in the midst of the ups and downs of our lives!

FIRST LOVE AND COMMUNITY: That we would never lose our "first love" for Jesus Christ and the pursuit of a deeply abiding relationship with Him. And after that, we would continue to make it a priority to be deeply connected to Christ-centered community in and outside of our local church. 

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