We’ve experienced many severe storms both literal and figurative over the past couple weeks - whether out of control fires, floods, heat waves, tornadoes, hurricanes, shootings and protests, and all the upheaval in our educational, healthcare, entertainment and sports worlds, culminating in the political conventions for the upcoming presidential election, in which each side painted the other in the most apocalyptic way.

As the famous line from Lincoln's speech goes, "A house divided against itself, cannot stand." This sentiment was in response to the very literal Black and White issue in our nation at the time, i.e. slavery and the division it caused in our union. We are very much continuing to deal with the repercussions of that era, which are coming up very loudly at this moment to be confronted and healed in a more profound way than ever before.

And in the broader context, it's important not to get sucked in to the polarity, the absolutism of everything, the duality of good vs. evil and us vs. them. Right now it's especially easy - with all the propaganda from both sides - to get into a catastrophic or doomsday mindset. I'm not saying that things aren't challenging or that people, property, businesses and ways of life are not dying and/or permanently changing, but when we accept that this is all part of the much bigger transformation I've talked about here many times, you can switch into a less extreme, more detached, attitude towards it all in order to be a constructive rather than reactive part of the process.

And we must get there, because when each of us individually are divided within our mind, body and spirit, we cannot stand collectively as a whole and healthy society. Or in other words, when we are divided, we are much more susceptible to being conquered. And I don't know about you, but I'm not interested in being conquered on any level. So how can we resist becoming a casualty of the conquest? We need to start with ourselves, hence this week's PGG.

In my interview last week, Rick Young started out of the gate by asking me if I was speaking at DNC convention what would I say?! I was a bit caught off guard since I had no idea what he would ask prior to the hour+ interview, which meant all of my answers were off the top of my head in the moment, and here's how I responded.

Today's PGG Video of week is a clip from my talk this past February, right before the world got turned upside down. I talk about how some days are good, some days are not so good, and how we need to listen to ourselves and learn to go with the flow of life.

Thanks to everyone who attended an encore presentation of Self-Care in the Midst of Sea Change on Monday; you can see two micro-clips in this Instagram post. where I talk about what the current external circumstances are asking us to do internally. Stay tuned for more Zoom talks in the Fall - it's really a great way to feed yourself with positive, motivational and productive content while connecting with others of like mind.

And remember that since last week was my 13th Anniversary as a professional coach it's your last chance to take advantage of my special annual anniversary offer which expires THIS MONDAY August 31st (but can be scheduled through 9/15).

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And in case you missed these, you can read my PGGs that specifically address the current crisis: Quality Control: How to make the best of these times of quarantine and questioning, How to cope with (and benefit from) what you can’t see during the time of corona, United We Stand and Anatomy of Awareness. You can also check out The Pain of Being, which talks about the George Floyd/BLM protests. Feel free to share those links (or any others) with anyone who could benefit.
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Perfection is the enemy of good. ~ Voltaire

Unlike what Fox News, ISIS, PETA or Kanye might have you believe, there are very few absolutes in life, and extremism in thought, word or deed is never the route to go. Like the Buddha says of a string on the sitar, if it’s too tight it will break, too loose and you won’t get any sound from it. Either way, the music dies. Life does not exist in black or white, but in fact is found in the many shades between.

Everyone has ways to escape or numb, whether from current circumstances and the daily grind, or from unresolved pain of the past. And when there is no awareness around the suffering and its source, the turmoil is turned inward as unhealthy behaviors, addiction or abuse, or directed outward as jealousy, hatred or violence in its many forms toward “others.”

In this era of plasticsurgery-photoshopping-selfie-celebrityworshopping-heylookatmyfabulouslife culture, it’s easy to think the grass is always greener, or that everyone but you has their act together or has an easy-breezy life. As someone who works intimately with hundreds of folks for a living, I can tell you that no one has it all together. Everyone has issues. It’s just which issues, in which department (relationships, money, sex, career, family, physical, mental and/or emotional health), and to what extent. And if you didn’t have the issue you have, you would have different one. But you’d have one. Or two, or three, generally all connected. It’s just the way it works.

The question is: How well do you acknowledge, accept, and then begin the process of addressing them?

The idea that there is some level of “perfection” that we can attain in our lives, in our mates, our work, our bodies, our lifestyle, is fiction. It doesn’t exist. No one is perfect. The mere fact that we are human beings means that we exist in order to heal and grow. It means that we are inherently flawed and are expressly alive to learn certain lessons and make whole the various parts of our mind, body and soul that are dis-eased.

When you come to terms with the fact that you are a beautifully imperfect being and become aware of the imperfections, love yourself in spite of them; then with compassion and discipline, set out to improve or change what you can. Then, and only then, are we able to start accepting one another: our family, our neighbors, our enemies, or anyone who is simply different from us in color or creed. Remember that fellow humans might be having a harder time recognizing and dealing with their own problems and pain right now — we all wake up to our humanness at our own pace, sometimes not of our own choosing. This is why we need a steady flow and heaping amounts of patience, empathy and kindness in our world.

Just as the journey is more important than the destination, the striving is more important than the actual perfection. It means we are constantly evolving into the best, most kick-ass, peaceful versions of ourselves, accentuating the positive and mitigating or transmuting the not-so-positive. The daily choices we make, the love that we give and receive, the joy and the sadness and anger and passion we allow ourselves to feel, knowing that it is not going to be the same emotion every day all day. There are sunny days and there are cloudy days, and we appreciate both equally. As we experience our challenges, we know that victory is right around the corner, and in those moments of happiness we know at some point we will again feel sadness or disappointment. It’s just the way it works.

How can we move toward a balanced, healthy life without knowing where we need to focus in order to heal and grow? Use this time the way a med student would study the body, inside and out: Truly see all of who you are and embrace it. Accept it. Love it. Then take a look at those around you and do the same. Then you can make an honest assessment about what needs a little therapy, a little remedy, or perhaps even surgery.

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