October 2017       
    הקשר HaKesher  
                                                 "The Connection"      

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OCTOBER Celebrations
TBT Board Members
Board Officers:

   Jeanne Freeman

 Vice President:
   Sheila Luber
   Mary Jane Eisenberg
   Lester Dober

   Marilynn Jacobs

   Chuck Shattuck
TBT Commitee Chairs
 Adult Education
   Mel Siegel

 Bikkur Holim
   Suzanne Schlosberg
   Evie Lerner
 Calendar Keeper
   Ann Rosenfield
 Chevra Kadisha
   Ralph Uri
 Communications & PR
   Ann Rosenfield
   Mark Schindel
   Chuck Shattuck
 Finding Our Connections
   Sheila Luber
   Kerrie Zurovsky
   Char Dimond
   Beverly Adler

 Membership & 
 Member Engagement
   Vivian Freeman
   Andrea Casey
   Julie Geveshausen

   Sara Charney Cohen
   Jan Freeman Bauer
   Alex Charney Cohen
 Religious Education
   Kathy Schindel
 Social Action
   Lynne Connelley 
   Mark Schindel
 Youth Group
   Naomi Chudowsky
        --- and---
   Jillian Frankl

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Temple Beth Tikvah is pleased to welcome our newest members:

                 JoAnna Abrams & John Dalfonsi
                          and their children, Rachel and Sophie.
                      David Savelle & Barbara Seipp
                          and their children, Hershel and Porter.

                      Rochelle & Adam Heyman
                           and their daughter, Dalia.

                      Sami Fournier & Jon Hansen
                           and their daughter, Iris.
October Calendar of Events 

   Oct.  1   10:00 a.m. - Sunday school
   Oct.  3     3:30 p.m. - TBT Board Meeting
                 4:00 p.m. - Hebrew school
                 5:00 p.m. - Religious school
   Oct.  7     3:00 p.m. - Sukkot Celebration
   Oct. 10    4:00 p.m. - Hebrew school
                 5:00 p.m. - Religious school
   Oct. 11    5:00 p.m. - Simchat Torah Celebration
   Oct. 14  10:00 a.m. - Adult B'nai Mitzvah Service
   Oct. 15  10:00 a.m. - Sunday school
   Oct. 17    4:00 p.m. - Hebrew school
                 5:00 p.m. - Religious school
   Oct. 18    7:30 a.m. - Back Door Cafe
   Oct. 19    7:00 p.m. - "Single-Handed" Author Event
   Oct. 20    5:30 p.m. - Tot Shabbat
   Oct. 24    4:00 p.m. - Hebrew school
                 5:00 p.m. - Religious school
               11:59 p.m. - Nov./Dec. Newsletter deadline
   Oct. 27    7:00 p.m. - Erev Shabbat service
   Oct. 28  10:00 a.m. - Bat Mitzvah of Katie Jackman

   November 4th - Breakfast and Civil Discourse program
   November 10th - Shabbat@Home
   December 15th - Chanukah event

OCTOBER School Activities
All activities at Shalom Bayit unless otherwise noted.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m: - 10/1, 10/15
Hebrew School 4:00 p.m: - 10/3, 10/10, 10/17, 10/24

For more details about any TBT events, see our complete schedule of Services, School activities, and Events online:


TBT Highlights
Sukkot Celebration and Potluck
Oct. 7th, 3:00 p.m.
At home of
Marlis Beier & Dean Sharpe

Please join us as we celebrate and observe Sukkot on Saturday, October 7th. Come and decorate the Sukkah, shake the lulav, smell the etrog and play some games. Then join us for a potluck supper. All ages are welcome!

please respond to the Punchbowl invitation that you received. For questions email Marlis Beier at mbeiermd@hotmail.com.
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Family Simchat Torah Celebration!

dancing with Torah

October 11th, 2017
5:00 -8:00 p.m.
Fellowship Hall at FPC

Take a tour through the Torah! Help us unroll the Torah as far as we can all around the room...

We will stop to notice interesting quotes and special letters and spacing as we unroll. We will read from the end...and begin again at the start!

Pizza and soft drinks provided.

Bring a salad and/or sweet to share!

Keep an eye out for an email invitation and please respond there so we can estimate for pizza!
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An Evening with Daniel Cohen Author of "Single-Handed" Oct. 19th
Two Twisted Sisters Productions and Temple Beth Tikvah present author Daniel M. Cohen, discussing his book Single Handed and the extraordinary life of its hero, Tibor "Teddy" Rubin - the only Holocaust survivor ever to receive the Congressional Medal of Honor.  
Thursday, October 19th at 7:00 p.m. in the Event Hall of St. Charles Medical Center (located directly off the Main Entrance of the hospital at 2500 NE Neff Road, in the Center for Health & Learning Conference Rooms). Doors open at 6:30 p.m.

Your   tax-deductible donation   for tickets may be purchased in advance or at the door.
TICKETS: Adults - $20 in advance (with credit card) or $25 at the door; Students $10 (online with credit card or at the door)

After being captured by Nazis at age 13 and surviving the horrors of the notorious Mauthausen concentration camp for more than a year, he later volunteered for service in the Korean War. After many acts of heroism, he was captured. As a POW, he helped his fellow GIs survive for two and half years in captivity. After returning to the US, over 50 years passed before Tibor's adopted homeland recognized this Jewish immigrant for acts of valor that went "beyond the call of duty." In 2005, at age 76, he was invited to the White House and given the Medal of Honor by President George W. Bush.  
Drawing on eyewitness accounts and extensive interviews, Daniel Cohen presents this inspiring story and gives us a stirring portrait of a true Jewish immigrant American hero!
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Bat Mitzvah of Katie Jackman  

 Please join
Rose and Joe Jackman
in celebration
of their daughter
becoming Bat Mitzvah.

Saturday, October 28th, 10:00 am

All TBT members are welcome.
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Adult B'nai Mitzvah Service   
Sat. Oct. 14th, 10:00 a.m.

Torah w/star (color)
Please join in support and celebration as eight of our adult TBT members become B'nai Mitzvah.
Adult B'nai Mitzvah students are:
Jan Freeman Bauer, Jo Booser, Linda Brant, Sara Charney Cohen, Victor Chudowsky, Tully Ellsberg, Julie Geveshausen, and Marti Fields Johnson.
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Tot Shabbat   
Oct. 20th, 5:30 p.m.
Tot   Shabbat  and potluck family dinner. For location and more information, please contact  Jessica  Hammerman at  jesshamm@gmail.com  .

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Divrei Tikvah  RJohannaHeadShot
From Rabbi Johanna Hershenson

The High Holy Day season continues after Yom Kippur with Sukkot this first week in October, and it concludes with Simchat Torah on October 11th.
We dressed in our finest, gathered together in synagogue, heard the shofar call us to wake from our slumber, and felt Kol Nidrei and Yom Kippur lift last year's mistakes and regrets from our shoulders and psyches so we could start anew.
We start anew in recognition of the abundance (harvest) we enjoy despite the fragility, (the sukkah is temporary and airy,) of life, and our situations in life.
And from there, we finish reading last year's cycle of the Torah and begin it again. Just like every year before this one, through the opening words of Genesis, we read new meaning into the coming-into-being of the universe and our place in it.
This year, as I've mentioned throughout the High Holy Days, in addition to studying counseling at OSU-Cascades, I am studying mussar. Mussar is the Jewish discipline of character development.
The way mussar practice works is that one studies Jewish texts around a particular character trait: generosity, greed, humility, pride, unconditional love, tough love, etc. In addition to study, one creates simple daily exercises practicing some aspect of the trait.
For instance, if I am working on generosity, I may have a daily exercise of giving away a dollar. If I am working on patience, my daily exercise might be practicing a yoga pose that is not particularly comfortable and holding it for a minute or two - or five.
Over time, the idea is that one begins feeling more authentic and effective in daily life because he or she is paying attention to his or her behavior on a regular basis. We are nicer and more generous when we pay attention. In fact, I imagine most of our regrets stem from apathy rather than ill-will.
It is my hope that as I share my mussar learning with you this year, and offer a mussar practice group next year, we will begin to see a transformation in our congregation.
What sort of transformation am I looking for? As it is, we know we support Temple Beth Tikvah because we want to share Jewish social, intellectual, and ritual experience. We feel just ever so slightly different and want Temple Beth Tikvah to be the haven in which being Jewish is normal.
I'd like us to get more out of being a congregation. I'd like it if being part of Temple Beth Tikvah actually made us better people living more fulfilling lives. I'd like it if we examined the qualities of our characters that make us similar to one another and those that make us unique. I'd like it if we supported one another in the sort of personal growth one can't get at school or work, or even in a therapist's office.
Synagogue should be the place in which we have conversations about what makes a person a good person. Fellow congregants should have shared language to talk about growth and development as a lifelong process. We should practice together, celebrate each other's successes, and understand each other's pain.
We talk a great deal about being a warm and loving community. It's true, we are...for many of us. But not for all of us. Some of us aren't yet integrated into TBT's demographic patterns. And our demographic patterns sometimes feel like multiple congregations within the one. Young families. Empty nesters. Social. Religious. Educational. Tikkun Olam.
Our challenges are similar to synagogues all over the world in this day and age. And mussar practices seem to be making a difference in the manner in which people relate to one another in congregations, and feel relevance between Judaism and the rest of their lives.
During the week of Simchat Torah, look for an email link to a venture called "Our Rabbi's Ramblings." Every Monday, I will offer a brief teaching and a prompt for personal reflection or practice. Consider it digital spiritual education.
Transformation is a slow process. Nothing will seem different overnight or even because of a passive adult learning experiment. But you have to begin somewhere.
"Finding our Connections" is introducing us to the best practices in building community through improved communications. We are learning to listen to each other's stories, and in early November we'll be working on broaching difficult conversations.
Adult Learning is kicking off a psycho-educational first offering on Monday evenings, October 30th - November 13th, called "Daring Greatly." How do we fully show up in life and life situations?
Over time, and through deliberate offerings, I believe we will further develop into a synagogue that is even more relevant than we are now in an ever-changing world. Temple Beth Tikvah is ours to define and mold into what we want it to be. I vote for TBT to be meaningful and purposeful in the lives of our members!

~~ Rabbi Hershenson's office hours are by appointment. If you would like to set up an appointment, please contact her by email at: johannahershenson@gmail.com, or by phone at 541-213-9880.

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President's Message
From TBT President Jeanne Freeman  

It was a beautiful High Holy Days season for us at Temple Beth Tikvah. The sanctuary and Tashlich were full with members, guests, visitors, and newcomers to Central Oregon. We heard how welcomed people felt by all of us, and some of those new to the area are already looking forward to more time with their new friends at TBT.
As we continue to grow, and to address our future needs, there are two initiatives that I ask for your participation and support with - Emerging Leaders and Member Engagement.
The Emerging Leaders program from the URJ was introduced and refined a few years ago. We are using that carefully-crafted program as the basis to develop a TBT-inspired leadership training program. Initially, we are inviting the current board members and committee chairs to participate. But acceptance of a board or committee position is only one path for admittance to the program. If you have a desire and willingness to participate in synagogue leadership, then we want you involved.
If you want to develop your own leadership style and qualities, and you have an interest in serving our Jewish community, please let me know: jgfree925@gmail.com. Our goal is to create a cohesive team that develops a set of objectives for our community's future. We cannot grow and fulfill our destiny without the leadership to take us there.
The second initiative is Member Engagement. Bringing in new members and making them feel welcome falls to every one of us. Each of us is an ambassador of this community. People join an organization, a community, a synagogue. It is up to us who are already members to invite those new people in, to turn them into active and involved members, into participants, into volunteers, into leaders.
Be the host and greeter for a Shabbat evening. It's an opportunity to enjoy Shabbat and the potential to make new friends. Introduce yourself to a newcomer at a Service, an Oneg, an Adult Ed, a Tot Shabbat. Engage them in conversation. Find out more about them and tell them about yourself, and about TBT. Make a Connection.
These, and all of our programs, are about keeping Judaism alive. It is what we do as a community when we come together - in prayer, in celebration, in learning, in social action, in play. Raise your level of consciousness about Judaism and the need that the world has to see our commitment.
In a world that sometimes seems to have gone mad, it is more than important, it is imperative, that we continue the works of Judaism, that we offer a voice for peace, for getting along. We are a voice for community; we are a voice for people working together. By coming together, we prove that the haters aren't going to win.
This synagogue is worth your time and effort. A community isn't about any of the individual "me's" in the room; it is about "we" - me helping you and you helping me. It is all of us working together.
Open yourself up to the opportunities that being a member of this community give you and get involved. Call me if you're not sure where to start, I'll help you find your fit.
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Board and Committee News
TBT Board Notes
Next Board Meeting:  November 7th, 3:30 p.m. 
Location:  Stonebriar Apartments Clubhouse

Your TBT Board meets monthly and everyone is invited to attend. Dates and times of Board meetings are on the TBT calendar at:  bethtikvahbend.org/calendar

If you would like to read minutes of previous board meetings, you can request a copy from Board Secretary Mary Jane Eisenberg  maryjanee112@yahoo.com.
Religious Committee News
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The Religious/Ritual Committee has a new Chairman: Alex Charney Cohen.

We have a busy month, with 5 Ritual Events:
1. 7 Oct. 3:00PM:  Sukkot Celebration at the Home of Marlis Beier and Dean Sharpe
2. 11 Oct. 5:00PM: Simchat Torah at Fellowship Hall (FPC)
3. 14 Oct. 10:00AM: Adult B'nei Mitzvah at FPC
4. 27 Oct. 7:00PM: Erev Shabbat Service at FPC
5. 28 Oct. 10:00AM: Bat Mitzvah of Katie Jackman at FPC

If you have any suggestions, questions, or constructive criticisms relating to services or our congregational ritual practice, please send an email to: alexcharneycohen@gmail.com
Your interest and input is greatly appreciated.
Liaison/Mediation Committee

Have you ever been in an uncomfortable situation where you want to speak up to someone who is in a position of authority but you don't quite know how to do it? It's not easy to give constructive feedback or air a grievance, especially when the person you wish to address holds a position of authority. Like our Rabbi.
If you have something to share with Rabbi Hershenson and are uncomfortable voicing your question or concern, there is an alternative means to communicate. Temple Beth Tikvah has a Liaison Committee to resolve issues that TBT congregants might have with the Rabbi or that the Rabbi might have with congregants. Our purpose is to facilitate a productive process, positive communication, and meaningful solutions.
The Liaison Committee, which, like all committees, reports to the TBT board, was created in 2013; however, we realized that many of our members were unaware of its existence.
The committee is comprised of members on the board of directors and includes the current president, vice president and either the past president or one other board member. This year's committee members are Jeanne Freeman, Sheila Luber, and Chuck Shattuck.
If at any time you have a concern or problem, w e encourage you to speak directly with the Rabbi. You will find her incredibly open, willing to listen, and eager to serve you well. She is a no-nonsense straight-shooter and prefers to tackle problems head-on. In fact, she welcomes you to contact her so that you can work together to solve your issue and move forward in peace.
If you cannot speak with her directly for whatever reason, then please bring your question or concern to one of the Liaison Committee members. (You choose which one.)
To expedite communication with either the Rabbi or the Liaison Committee, we ask that you initiate your contact by email and briefly describe:
1) your question or concern and why
2) what you would like the Rabbi to do
3) any additional, relevant information or background
Your email may be shared with other Liaison Committee members and the Rabbi, unless you indicate otherwise.
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Beverly Adler, Library Curator

Do You Have Unused Space in Your Home That You Might Give to TBT?
The TBT library needs a new home.  We need enough space to accommodate no more than 2-3 tall shelves which we will provide. Please contact Beverly Adler at fiberartist@bendcable.com if you can help.
TBT Piano Needs a Home

Do you have kids who'd love to take piano lessons but you don't have an instrument for them to play? TBT has a Wurlitzer Spinet piano and bench that is in need of a home.  We'd love to share with one of our families who can enjoy the music, but we would also appreciate just having the storage space. If you are interested or have the space, please contact Jeanne Freeman at jgfree925@gmail.com.

Many Thanks from High Holy Days Committee

The High Holy Days of 2017 are behind us. A new year, 5778, has begun, and many of you have shared that you enjoyed our High Holy Day services and related events. As many of you know, these services and events take a lot of planning and time and the efforts of a lot of people. We rely on volunteers within our congregation for so many of the tasks involved, resulting in beautiful and meaningful services for our members and all of our guests.
We of course all owe our thanks to Rabbi Hershenson for creating and leading such beautiful services which give deep meaning to the High Holy Day season. And what would our services be without our wonderful music? We are grateful to Julie, Jo, and Eileen for preparing the music which enhances our services and feeds our souls.
There are a number of other folks who work a little more behind the scenes to add to the success and quality of our services and events.
The Rosh Hashanah Oneg was organized by Jan Freeman Bauer. Thank you to her and all of those who baked the delicious desserts for that evening. Also, thanks to all who helped with set-up and clean-up.
The Tashlich picnic is always a well-attended and enjoyable event. Thank you to Phyllis and Jerry Greenbach for again sponsoring the picnic and taking care of all the set-up and clean-up details, as well as procuring all of the food and drink. We all had a great time!
Thank you so much Evie Lerner for opening your home for our Break the Fast dinner. The food and the company were wonderful and though a bit chilly, the weather did cooperate.
Thanks to Vivian Freeman, Andrea Casey, and Terry Reynolds for taking charge of the sign-in table and the greeters for our services. Welcoming our members and guests is such an important part of who we are as a TBT community.
Mark Schindel took care of all aspects of facilities at FPC, interfacing with their Administrator, Mark and custodian, Doug to make sure things were set up appropriately, as well as doing a lot of the sanctuary set-up and tear-down himself. Thank you Mark.
In addition to those named, there were many of you who just pitched in with set-up, clean-up, or providing rides to services and events for those who did not have transportation. Whatever your contribution may have been, it was greatly appreciated.
As the year 5778 unfolds, think about ways in which you might contribute to our TBT community. There are lots of opportunities to help and we welcome whatever time you have to give.
Again, thank you all for making our High Holy Days so meaningful.
Kathy Schindel
High Holy Days Chair

NOV./DEC. Newsletter Deadline:  October 24th 

This newsletter is emailed to both members and non-members each month.  If you have something you want to include in the newsletter, please e-mail it to Sara: sarrava@gmail.com by the 24th of each month for the following month's publication.  As always, you will continue to receive "e-minders" before important events take place.

Sara Charney Cohen
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Community News
Save the date for TBT's next special community event:
Breakfast & Civil Discourse

Picture a Jewish community where members talk with each other openly with curiosity and compassion. We discuss politics, temple affairs, health care, child-rearing and beautiful Bend with enjoyment and understanding. At TBT, we are becoming that community.
Save the date for our next special community event, Breakfast & Civil Discourse, featuring guest facilitator Bryn Hazell, a local expert specializing in "Nonviolent Communication." T he Saturday morning program promises practical lessons and dialogue to help us communicate even better, especially when we disagree. In small group interactions, we'll practice the skills we learn to shift difficult conversations from uncomfortable or combative to calm and productive. It's food for thought from start to finish. Please plan to come and grow.
                Event:  Breakfast & Civil Discourse
       Date/Time:  November 4th, Breakfast 9 a.m.
                                 Workshop 9:30 a.m-12:30 p.m.
                 Place:  First Presbyterian Bend
                                 Health & Wellness Room
Open to TBT members only, post b'nai mitzvah and older. More information to come your way.  
Presented as part of Finding Our Connections, a TBT program initiative.

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Weekend In Quest

An Exhilarating Study Weekend in Astoria, OR on the beautiful coast, Friday afternoon through Sunday noon, March 2nd-4th, 2018

Jewish Masculinity and Femininity
in the Premodern World
Professors Rena Lauer and Yiftakh (Kevin) Osterloh, Oregon State University
Sponsored by the Institute for Judaic Studies of the Pacific Northwest
Session 1: Masculine Mythologies and Diplomatic Realities: Jewish Foreign Policy in the Days of the Hasmoneans (Maccabees)
Session 2: Jewish Manliness and the 'Effeminate' Greek: How Ancient Jews Imagined Self and Other
Session 3: How Medieval Jewish Women Fought (and Used) the Patriarchy
Session 4: Converts, Lovers and Litigants: Finding the Women in Medieval Jewish-Christian Relations
In addition to the study sessions, we will gather for
  • Shabbat services Friday evening and Saturday morning, led by Rabbi Joshua Rose of Congregation Shaarie Torah, Portland
  • five meals together: Friday and Saturday dinners, Saturday lunch, and (for those staying overnight at the hotel) Saturday and Sunday breakfasts
  • enjoyable Saturday evening program
Institute for Judaic Studies logo  
For questions and further information, visit www.weekendinquest.org or contact Mimi Epstein 503-203-2671, mimiepstein42@comcast.net.

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Taizé Service
Next Taizé:  October 5th
All TBT members are invited to Taizé - an evening of Interfaith prayerful meditation, peace, and silence. 

Taizé services are held the first Thursday of each month, October through May, 7:00 p.m. at St. Helen's Hall, Trinity Episcopal Church, 231 NW Idaho St., in Bend, OR. (Across the street from Trinity sanctuary. Please note March service will be held at Shalom Bayit.) 

Everyone is invited to attend and participate in these services of healing and reconciliation. We now have songs in more languages, and will have a 'wiggle/cry room' available at the back of the hall - with sound. The venues are wheelchair accessible.
Sponsored by Taizé Choir of Central Oregon and Trinity Episcopal Church.
For more info:  taizebend@gmail.com  or 541-815-5574.

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TBT Tributes
You may honor the lives and achievements of friends and relatives via a tribute with a donation to TBT. You can do this online, or by sending a check and the name and address of the person being honored to TBT at P.O. Box 7472, Bend, OR, 97708.

Donations may be designated to a specific fund, including:
   - the Youth Education Fund,   
   - the Music Fund - including Adopt-a-Musician, 
   - the Library Fund, 
   - the Rabbi Fund, 
   - the Rabbi's Caring Fund, 
   - the Social Action Fund, 
   - the Corrie Grudin Memorial Fund,
   - the Youth Group Fund,
   - or to the General Fund. 

Donations listed below were made to the Temple's general purpose fund unless otherwise specified.

Temple Beth Tikvah gratefully acknowledges the following contributions:
  • From Rudy Gold, in memory of his wife, Muriel.
  • From Stephen and Eileen Katz, in memory of Alice Kollman.
  • From Stephen and Eileen Katz, in memory of Walter Kollman.
  • From Stephen and Eileen Katz, in memory of Randall Katz.
  • From Mary Jane Eisenberg, in memory of Mina Eisenberg.
  • From Alyson Belcher, in memory of Joseph A. Belcher.
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About Temple Beth Tikvah

Temple Beth Tikvah is a growing Jewish congregation based in Bend, Oregon. We are affiliated with the Union for Reform Judaism and are excited to be the first Reform synagogue in Central Oregon.

Our members come from a range of Jewish backgrounds including Reform, Conservative, Reconstructionist, and Renewal. Temple Beth Tikvah welcomes interfaith families and Jews by choice. We are committed to providing a Jewish education for our children as well as stimulating educational activities for adults. We value social action and strive to provide a Jewish cultural, social, and religious experience in Central Oregon.

Temple Beth Tikvah is a warm and enthusiastic community that includes families, singles, and "empty nesters." We are a mix of long-time Bend residents and newcomers from around the country who moved here to enjoy Central Oregon's beauty, active lifestyle, and quality of life.

Please contact us at 541-388-8826 or info@bethtikvahbend.org for more information.
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