November 2018      
 
    הקשר HaKesher  
                                                 "The Connection"      
  



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Celebrations
TBT Board Members
Board Officers:

 Co-Presidents:
   Sheila Luber  
   Ann Rosenfield 
   
 Secretary: 
   Mary Jane Eisenberg
   
 
  Treasurer:  
   Lester Dober

Past President:
   Jeanne Freeman
   
 Members-at-Large:
    
   Paul Jacobs

   Kerrie Zurovsky

TBT Commitee Chairs
 Adult Education
   Mel Siegel
   
 Bikkur Holim
   Suzanne Schlosberg
                -and-
   Evie Lerner
                -and-
   Linda Brant
   
 
 Calendar Keeper
   Kathy Schindel 
 
 Chevra Kadisha
   Ralph Uri
    
 Communications & PR
   Kathy Schindel

Facilities
   Mark Schindel
   
 Finance
   Chuck Shattuck
   
 Finding Our Connections
   Sheila Luber
     
 Fundraising
   TBD
  
 Membership & 
 Member Engagement
    Jeanne Freeman
             
 Music
   Julie Geveshausen
   
 Newsletter
   Eileen Katz
   
 Onegs
   Jan Freeman Bauer
     
 Rituals
   Alex Charney Cohen
     
 Religious Education
   Sara Jo Slate
 
 Social Action
   Lynne Connelley 
     
 Webmaster
   Mark Schindel
  
 Youth Group
    Jillian Frankl
   
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Temple Beth Tikvah is pleased to welcome our newest members:
                   
Debbie Siegel and Amy Lawrence 
  and their child Toby Siegel-Lawrence
 
In 
Memoriam
                   
It is with deep sadness that we advise you of the passing of our congregant Gary Reynolds, founding member of TBT
                           
                                                                           
November Calendar of Events 

School Activities
All activities at Shalom Bayit unless otherwise noted.

Sunday School 10:00 am: - 11/4, 11/11
Hebrew School 4:00 pm: - 11/6, 11/13, 11/27, 

Other Events and Activities

    November 2,   2:30 pm -  Family Kitchen
   November 3,   9:00 am -  Breakfast and Discussion
   November 6,   1:00 pm -  Board Meeting
   November 9,   7:00 pm -  Erev Shabbat Service
   November 11,  7:00 pm - Adult Education -                                                           What Would Moses Do?
   November 15, 7:00 pm -  INCO Interfaith
                                         Thanksgiving Service
   November 17, 9:00 am -  Torah Chanting
   November 17,10:00 am - Shabbat Torah Service and                                             Study
   November 21, 7:30 am -  Back Door Cafe
   November 27,10:00 am -  Adult Education-
                                         Writers Workshop Planning
    
Torah Study
Weekly-Friday 10:00 am at Evie's: 11/2, 11/9, 11/16, 11/23, 11/30

ON THE HORIZON

   December 7  - Chanukah Party and Shabbat
  
For more details about any TBT events, see our complete schedule of Services, School activities, and Events online:
 https://bethtikvahbend.org/events/
TBT Highlights
Breakfast & Discussion

When:   Saturday, November 3, 
             9:00 am - Noon
             Breakfast at 9:00 am 
             Discussion at 9:30 am
Where: Well-Being Room 
             First Presbyterian Church
             Park in lower lot for easy access

In light of the horrific shooting at the Tree of Life synagogue, we are seeing this Saturday's Breakfast and Discussion through a different lens and our focus has changed. As Rabbi Johanna says, we are practicing "planned happenstance" as she and Bryn are prepared to facilitate our dialogue in whichever direction we lead them.
 
Please come for breakfast November 3rd and stay to discuss what is in your heart and on your mind. We can discuss how it feels to be Jewish when events like this happen. We can explore ways to ensure the safety of everyone in our community. We can be there simply to support one another. And to our parents with youngsters in community Sunday school; we know that emotions are high and security a top concern. If you need community now more than ever... we are here for you.
 
Please come and contribute to the  conversation so that we may share and heal.

Contact Marilyn Shattuck to RSVP at ( mpshattuck@gmail.com   or 847/951-6598). Or go online for more information and RSVP. (Let us know if childcare is a problem and we'll see what we can do to help.)

An Adult Education Event
Adult Learning
What Would Moses Do?

Our Adult Learning evening on November 11, 7:00 pm is entitled "What Would Moses Do?"

Led by Rabbi Johanna, we explore Reform Responsa literature as it would apply to contemporary questions and challenges such as ethics in business, family, society, medicine, and scientific advancement.

We will be moving our exploration of the historic platforms of Reform Judaism to this literature as it applies rabbinic ethical decision making to present day questions.

This event will be held at a private home.  
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Adult Learning
Writers' Workshop Planning
Mel Siegel, Chair

Calling all TBT Writers of Prose and Poetry! 

Come to a planning meeting on November 27, 10:00 am to discuss the format of the Writers' Forum scheduled for Erev Shabbat March 22, 2019. At the Forum in March, we anticipate that the TBT writers will briefly read something he/she wrote followed by panel and audience questions and discussion. 

The March event format is flexible and open to change based on the preferences we hear from you at the November 27 meeting.

For more information contact Mel Siegel at  mws@cmu.edu
 
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                   Message From  Co-Presidents  
Sheila Luber and Anne Rosenfield

We are happy to report that the board has finished working on its goals for this coming year with a focus on member engagement and organizational development.

One of our most important goals for the congregation is to develop a special TBT High Holiday Prayer book (Machzor) and songbook. Rabbi Hershenson and Alex Charney Cohen, ritual committee chair, are looking for members to join their subcommittee to help develop the format, write a little, edit a lot, and price and produce the prayer booklets. Please email Rabbi or Alex if you're interested in joining this fun and interesting project!

In addition, the ritual committee will soon begin planning a series of special Shabbat and holiday services with temple members of all ages participating from different segments of our community. Imagine a sweet service prepared and presented by the Sunday school students and their parents. Another with the COJY kids or the BBYO teens. Or another involving new members, the men's group or mahjong ladies.

For our organizational development goals, the board plans to address future board positions, revisit our bylaws, and determine whether to hire an administrative assistant. Our last goal is to expand our budget planning and have it finalized well before the end of the fiscal year.

The board is dedicated to the success of our temple and the satisfaction of our congregation. Our work keeps us busy and productive, yet it pales against the backdrop of the true meaning of our community. When one of our own grieves or hurts so do we all. We supported Terry and Gary as they made the most difficult journey of their 47 years together. We called and cooked. Visited and encouraged. Laughed and cried. Held hands and held Terry to bolster her strength for Gary. We gave as much of ourselves as they both could accept in our efforts to ease their pain. Now, with Gary's passing, our community will continue to comfort Terry as her new life takes shape. Now that's what really matters.

L'shalom,
Ann and Sheila

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Divrei Tikvah  RJohannaHeadShot
From Rabbi Johanna Hershenson

As the month of November ushers in the colder nights and crisp, sunny days, of Autumn, I find myself waking from the stupor of loss and and existential angst stirred up by the death of our friend and Temple Beth Tikvah founding member, Gary Reynolds. It was just May 20 th that a quorum of us cheered Gary on as he earned his eighth ceramic mug for his impressive finish in Pole, Pedal, Paddle. A month and a half later we all learned about his rare and aggressive brain cancer. And three months later we buried Gary, promising to ourselves we would do our best to comfort Terry as she comes to terms with the immense loss of her lifelong love.
 
Viktor Frankl wrote in Man's Search for Meaning that a person's "suffering is similar to the behavior of gas. If a certain quantity of gas is pumped into an empty chamber, it will fill the chamber completely and evenly, no matter how big the chamber. Thus suffering completely fills the human soul and conscious mind, no matter whether the suffering is great or little. Therefore the "size" of human suffering is absolutely relative."
 
Frankl's observation suggests that we need to proactively "fill our chamber" with pleasant experiences, intimate interpersonal interactions, and purpose for being so that there is less space for the grief and anger to expand. We can live even when death and disease are present in our experience.
 
Ultimately I think Temple Beth Tikvah, itself, is a manifestation of the shared effort of individuals in our community to create a venue in which we can practice noticing and celebrating life's profundity and pleasure as well as hold space when loved ones among us need to be reassured that the pain and suffering they are experiencing in a given moment does not preclude the existence of compassionate presence and purpose. Our mission is to celebrate the rites of the Jewish calendar in their season, engage in lifelong learning and reflection rooted in the sacred literature of our ancestors, and build a loving community that cares for its members and humanity at large. To that end, I believe part of our healing process in the wake of Gary's death is to attend to our shared efforts to create safe, sacred space and a meaningful way of being in the world.
 
In coming weeks Temple Beth Tikvah's leaders offer events, programs, and practices to facilitate our community building.
  • During the first Shabbat morning in November, Adult Learning/Connections will facilitate a workshop during which we will have the opportunity to share with one another the blessings and curses we have experienced trying to build a multigenerational Jewish community in an age of distraction. Following time for listening to one another's stories we will break up into small groups to brainstorm strategies for building Jewish community in the world we live in today.
  • Our Adult Learning evening this month is entitled "What Would Moses Do?" We move our exploration of the historic platforms of Reform Judaism to Reform Responsa literature. This literature applies a rabbinic ethical decision making model to contemporary questions and challenges such as ethics in business, family, society, medicine, and scientific advancement.
Of course we will meet for Shabbat celebration, Torah study, feeding the hungry, as well as November's annual Interfaith Network of Central Oregon Thanksgiving service and pie fest. There are also committees engaged in ongoing work strategizing and preparing future programs and initiatives as well as tending to our institutional health and growth.
 
Feeling down? Feeling like you need to engage in something meaningful outside your day in and day out concerns? Attend! Get involved! Life happens. Our task is to build a vibrant foundation that can withstand the storms while sheltering us when we feel vulnerable. The Talmud says: It is is not up to us to finish the project, neither do we have the right to abstain from engaging.

~~ Rabbi Hershenson's office hours are by appointment. If you would like to set up an appointment, please contact her by email at: johannahershenson@gmail.com, or by phone at 541-213-9880.

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Board and Committee News
TBT Board Notes
Next Board Meeting:  November 6,  1:00 to 3:00 pm 
Location:  Stonebriar Apartments Clubhouse
                 21255 E. Highway 20, Bend
Your TBT Board meets monthly and members are invited to attend. Dates and times of Board meetings are on the TBT calendar at:  https://bethtikvahbend.org/events/

If you would like to read minutes of previous board meetings, you can request a copy from Board Secretary, Mary Jane Eisenberg  maryjanee112@yahoo.com.
 
 Oneg Update   
  Jan Freeman-Bauer  

 Thank you to Evie for the lovely October          Shabbat oneg. We enjoyed your                      homemade family recipes
 
Our next Shabbat oneg, November 9, will be sponsored    and hosted by Jeanne Freeman and Burt Litman. 

If you would like to sponsor an oneg, please contact        me  by email: 


Social Action Updatetikkun olam earth
Lynne Connelly

Our October 5 build for Habitat For Humanity was a huge success! The Habitat crew loved the progress we made and our volunteers got a huge sense of accomplishment and a good dose of fun, especially in handling power tools.  Burt Litman and Jeanne Freeman, Steve and Char Dimond, Bob Pollack, Steve Katz, Ralph Uri, Mel Siegel, Ed and Lynne Connelley participated.  We look forward to future builds with Habitat.  Thank you to our volunteers! 

Please contact Lynne by 11/26 to participate in the Assistance League's Secret Santa program in which we purchase and wrap in gift bags items from low income seniors' wish lists. The gifts will be anonymously delivered to senior care facilities in Redmond, Bend and LaPine.  

Quick reminder of our ongoing Diaper Drive for Mt. Star Family Relief Nurseries.  Call Lynne at 541 408 6720 or email  lynne@mybendproperty.com
Youth Group Happenings
Fisher Isenberg


We are Shalom Teva BBYO #5029, the Jewish youth group of Bend, Oregon. Our chapter is part of the Evergreen Region. BBYO is the leading pluralistic teen movement aspiring to involve more Jewish teens in more meaningful Jewish experiences. As a chapter, we participate in community service, fun events, team bonding activities that help us grow closer together, and events that teach us about our Jewish heritage. BBYO and Shalom Teva provides our members with a way to connect with each other and make lifelong friends along with providing a Jewish experience from the post B'nai Mitzvot adolescence into adulthood. One goal of our chapters is to provide a safe and enriching environment for the teens involved in this organization.  
  • Kehillah, Fall Convention - November 9th - November 11th
  • Speed Dating Hanukkah Harry Event - Saturday, November 17th
  • Business Meeting - Sunday, November 25th
  • Community Service Event - Wednesday, November 28th
  • Global Shabbat/Hanukkah Event - Friday, December 7th
  • Chapter Elections - Sunday, December 16th. 
To contact us email:
Natalie Devina-Goldberg, Chapter Mazkirah (Secretary)
natalie@thedgpfamily.com


Be a Shopping Hero

The holiday season is almost upon us. Whether you are shopping online or locally, you can support TBT with Smile.Amazon.com and Fred Meyer - and it costs you nothing extra!
 
The Amazon Smile and Fred Meyer Community Rewards programs donate money to Temple Beth Tikvah based on a percentage of your purchases. There is no cost to you and you continue to get any and all discounts that you are already signed up for with both companies.
 
Hanukkah is early this year, beginning on Sunday evening, December 2nd. Share the season's cheer....every time you shop at Smile.Amazon.com or locally at your Fred Meyers store.
 
Click Here  for information on how to sign up for both rewards programs!  

December Newsletter Deadline:  November 24th  

This newsletter is emailed to both members and non-members each month.  If you have something you want to include in the newsletter, please e-mail it to Eileen Katz:   eileentam@aol.com by the 24th of each month for the following month's publication.  As always, you will continue to receive "e-minders" before important events take place.

Shalom,
Eileen
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Community News
INCO's Interfaith
Thanksgiving Service
"Building Bridges to Unity"
 
Thursday, November 15 th at 7:00
Followed by the Pie Fest
Plan to come, and invite your neighbors
 
Held this year at
First Presbyterian
230 NE 9th St, Bend, OR 97701
 
More details shared soon via email and Facebook  
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Taizé Service
Next Taizé:  November 1st

All TBT members are invited to Taizé - an evening of Interfaith prayerful meditation, peace, and silence. Taizé services are held the first Thursday of each month, October through May, 7:00 p.m. at St. Clare's Chapel, St. Francis Catholic Church, 2450 NE 27th St. in Bend, OR. Everyone is invited to attend and participate. Sponsored by the Sacred Art of Living Center and the Interfaith Community of Central Oregon.

 

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TBT Tributes
Temple Beth Tikvah gratefully acknowledges the following contributions:
  • Alyson Belcher in memory of Jerry (Joseph) Belcher
  • Mary Jane Eisenberg in memory of Mina Eisenberg
  • Phyllis and Gerald Greenbach in memory of Murray Gurvitz
  • Jerry and Phyllis Greenbach In honor of Michael Rosenfield's Birthday
  • Chuck and Marilyn Shattuck in memory of Richard Shattuck
  In memory of Gary Reynolds:
  • Jeff and Beverly Adler
  • Andrea and  Rick Casey
  • Ed and Lynne Connelley
  • Gary Cooke
  • Lester and Diane Dober
  • Tully Ellsberg
  • Vivian Freeman
  • Mike and Mickey Freundlich
  • Anne Goldner
  • Jerry and Phyllis Greenbach
  • Gene and Shirley Hudson
  • Steve and Eileen Katz
  • Marijane Krohn and Mel Siegel
  • Susan Krouscup
  • Paul and Liz Levinson
  • Evelyn and Neil Lewinter
  • Jay and Sheila Luber
  • Mary McSwain
  • Ron and Bonnie Ruby
  • Mark and Kathy Schindel
  • Roberta Spiro and Wendell Brown
  • Zac and Randi Zlatkus

Donations listed above were made to the Temple's general fund unless otherwise specified.

You may honor the lives and achievements of friends and relatives via a tribute with a donation to TBT. You can do this online, or by sending a check and the name and address of the person being honored to TBT at P.O. Box 7472, Bend, OR, 97708.

Donations may be designated to a specific fund, including:
   - the Youth Education Fund,   
   - the Music Fund - including Adopt-a-Musician, 
   - the Rabbi Compensation Fund, 
   - the Rabbi's Caring Fund, 
   - the Social Action/Tzedakah Fund, 
   - the Corrie Grudin Memorial Fund,
   - or to the General Fund.

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About Temple Beth Tikvah

For Jewish families, retirees and singles at every level of faith in Central Oregon, Temple Beth Tikvah provides a comforting embrace for the soul of your DNA. We are a dynamic Reform Jewish congregation with friendly, giving, active people drawn to Bend and Central Oregon because of the active lifestyle we find here.
 
We come together in different ways, inspired and informed by our common thread of Jewishness. Whether you were born Jewish, love someone who is Jewish or choose to be Jewish. Practice Judaism a little, a lot or not at all. TBT can serve as the heart of your vibrant, connected life.
 
We can be your primary source of friendship, purpose, spiritual and intellectual pursuit. Or a side note adding flavor and dimension how and when you want. Whichever you choose, TBT offers an inclusive, communal foundation on which to build your relationships, experiences and practice. From social activities to social action, worship to study, participation to leadership. It's your choice, in this community of yours.  

Please contact us at 541-388-8826 or info@bethtikvahbend.org for more information.
 
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