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How to Deal with Divorce at Work
The last few months of living in a COVID-crazy world have clearly shown us that the intersection of our personal and professional lives can cause a lot of stress. Anyone working from home with children as “co-workers” can tell you it’s tough! And when you add a divorce into the mix, it can be difficult to keep your home life separate from your work life -- unless you follow these tips on how to deal with divorce at work:

Know whom to tell.

Your entire office does not need to know your personal business, but there are a few people you should tell about your divorce. Since there will be times during the work week when you will need to schedule meetings with your attorney, participate in mediation, or go to court, you should let your immediate supervisor know so he or she can anticipate these necessary absences. And since your divorce can affect your benefits plan, your HR department should be notified as well. You don’t have to share all the gory details; you only need to say that your marriage is ending and leave it at that.

Simplify the process.

Divorce is difficult enough by itself, which is why you want to find a divorce attorney you connect with and who you can rely on to give you the information you need to feel more in control of the process. You will need to know what lies ahead so you can manage your work schedule. Also, knowing what to expect will help you manage stress at home and at work.

Simplify your workload.

When a personal crisis hits, many of us tend to sublimate our feelings by taking on more at work to keep our minds off our problems. However, this can backfire if we can take on more than we can handle. During this highly emotional time in your life, give yourself permission to decline taking on additional tasks that will increase your stress levels.

Leave drama at the office door.

When there is upheaval in your personal life, it can be hard to focus on work. The best thing you can do to remedy this is to leave divorce drama at the office door. This can be difficult since so many of us work with people we consider friends. Those friends will probably want to help by encouraging you to talk about your divorce, but tread lightly. Yes, keeping your personal life private may be a bit difficult, but try to come up with a general answer that will discourage these discussions in the workplace. 

Try to reduce your stress level.

Emotions can run high even in the most amicable divorces, which can cause you to get upset over even the smallest irritation -- something you don’t want to happen at work. Finding even small ways to reduce your stress level at work -- taking regular breaks to just get up and walk around, listening to your favorite music, or simply go outside during lunch -- can help you focus better on your work rather than your divorce.
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We at Koenig|Dunne are proud to have served the LGBTQ community for many years and will continue to be fierce advocates to our LGBTQ clients, family, and friends.
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Excitement is building with news of states opening back up after the initial wave of COVID in our community. That old familiar feeling of what can only be explained as bubbles swirling in my stomach and heart on the precipice of bursting. I put pen to paper this week planning those first steps back into what we hope will be “back to normal life.” It is my responsibility to prepare the action plan for my team.

Sometimes I think this shouldn’t be my job. Patience has long been a virtue that I have failed time and time again to achieve. Add that to the headstrong and stubborn Taurus traits I have wielded my entire life and the core of me can be a disaster waiting to happen when “phasing-in” and steadiness are required.

I recall another slightly exhilarating but ultimately terrifying re-entry I was to make after my divorce decree was signed and entered. In that time, the prospect of new love, owning a home on my own, and caring for my children no longer with my partner both overwhelmed and excited me. It was trying on my old, but now new again, name.

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It took me nearly nine years to clean one closet. After John died and most of his clothes had made it to the men’s shelter like he’d asked, I attempted to clear it but mostly kept it crammed with everything from seldom worn jackets to supplies for making vision boards.

Unlike me, John delighted in getting rid of things. Because his journey from a terminal diagnosis to the day he left this earth spanned over a decade, I watched him part with everything from business receipts to a beloved acreage in the country. He had room for morning meditation, calling faraway friends, and playing cribbage. 

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For over 35 years, the Koenig|Dunne team has been helping people pick up the pieces of their life to make a new start. Bringing a family business back from the brink of financial ruin. Sheltering a child from the conflict of a custody battle. We do this work because its work we know matters.

Whether an amicable collaboration or lengthy litigation lies ahead, we’re the team who will empower you on your path to a better future, from start to finish. That’s a promise. We promise you – we will see you, hear you, and stand by you. Learn More
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