Family Law: Taking the First Steps
1. Gather your financial documentation.
This includes bank statements, credit card bills, retirement accounts, school loans, real estate, and car loans. Gather three years of tax returns.
2. Open a checking and savings account in your name at a new bank.
3. Make a list of your debt: everything you owe individually and as a couple.
4. Keep track of your debt.
If your spouse is spending recklessly or is withdrawing substantial amounts of money from joint accounts consult a lawyer to assist in limiting your responsibility and to track any dissipation of marital assets.
5. If possible, create an emergency fund.
6. If you are a stay-at-home parent, create a list of all the expenses on a day to basis for the household and the children’s care.
7. Do not post anything about your divorce on social media.
8. If you have children, they should be front and center in the decisions regarding how to proceed in the divorce process in the healthiest way.
9. If your children or child have special needs that will require additional planning and financial consideration be prepared to ask about this in your initial consultation with the attorney.
10. Do not involve the children in the conflict. They should not be encouraged to take sides or weigh in on adult decisions.
11. Meet with an attorney to discuss your legal options. Schedule a consultation. All divorces are not the same.
12. Prior to the meeting with a lawyer, write down your legal questions about the divorce.
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