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Some of the most inspiring reading I am doing this season is self-reflective. By this, I mean that the author takes a deep and hard look at the unspoken assumptions of their own beloved identity group. To explain why I find this work so meaningful, I need to take a brief (and hence quite simplified) detour into the psychoanalytic theory of Melanie Klein.
Klein was Freud’s student and an influential theorist. She discovered that from our earliest conscious life, our psyches are grounded in a bifurcation between pleasant and unpleasant feelings and experiences. Good things like comfort, nourishment, human warmth are seen as fully distinct from bad things, like the cold wetness of an unchanged diaper, the pain of an empty stomach, or the feeling of helplessness when a needed caretaker is not available. This early dichotomy structures a way of thinking that she calls the P-S position. The letters stand for paranoid-schizoid, which sounds harsh. But what she means by it is that from this position, our experience is fragmented. It’s all good or all bad—there’s no capacity for nuance. The bifurcated quality of our experience is akin to what someone might experience in a paranoid or psychotic state.
As we grow, and assuming we have good enough caretakers to support our development, we are able to develop a second position. This is the D position and it is characterized by our capacity for ambivalence and complexity. From here, we can see that the same object can have both pleasant and unpleasant parts. The same caretaker who makes me angry by her absence can make me feel safe by her presence. The bottle or breast can be a relief or a demand depending on my hunger level. D stands for depressive because Klein recognized that such a state requires an ability to mourn the loss of the partial supposedly wholly good experience. The emotional depression of mourning gives this position its (deceptively negative) name.
Unlike developmental stages, each of which is superseded, Klein’s positions remain with us throughout our lives. We move between the P-S and D positions, accepting nuance and complexity on the one hand, but then reverting to a more binary way of thinking when under stress or in extreme circumstances. Unless we are in the grip of mental illness, we have the capacity to move between these positions and to accept a fluid and even dialectical relationship between them. It is from the D position that we make healthy relationships, engage in learning, and foster democratic values. It is from the P-S position that we respond to immediate dangers or idealize our romantic partners as we fall in love.
In a healthy society, leaders encourage this mental flexibility and support the D position except in rare situations. But we live at a time when P-S leadership is ascendent. Encouraging a regression to binary thinking and its consequent paranoid erasure of “them” and over-inflated idealization of “us” has fostered ugly societal divisions. When P-S takes the lead in our politics, violence and oppression are the result. A healthy adult society, like a healthy adult, learns to tolerate the complexity of the D-position even as it recognizes the pull and even some of the psychoanalytically primitive joys of the P-S position.
Much of the content we read today emerges from the P-S position. It focuses on half-truths and part-objects. It is inherently binary. It speaks from the moral certainty of the imagined purely good. It speaks with equal certainty of the imagined purely bad Other.
It’s refreshing then to read the in-depth, self-reflective thinking that emerges from a sophisticated balance of the D and P-S positions. It takes great courage to think and write this way since you are at risk of criticism from your friends as well as your supposed enemies. But when it is done well, it can be world changing. I admire writers who can take on the tenets of their own identities with deep love and at the same time with a deeply critical eye. This isn’t the shallow critique of “three things my political party should have done differently” or “why I am no longer a member of this club.” Nor is it the writing of the politically expedient who see the winds shifting and rush to flee a sinking ship. And finally, it’s not wishy-washy bothsideism. I am talking about the kind of writing that affirms a great and ongoing love for a way of being human and at the very same time, sees the deep often unspoken ways that P-S thinking is built into its marrow. This is writing that takes a moral and intellectual stand yet preserves the messy truth, even of the writer’s own identity, enemies, and desire. It’s tough to think and write this way. It’s even tough to read this way. Three examples of such thinking I’ve encountered recently: Afropessimism by Frank B. Wilderson III, Haifa Republic by Omri Boehm, and Embracing Alienation by Todd McGowan. I would love to hear additional suggestions from newsletter readers.
At a moment when the P-S position is culturally dominant, we will only see a way beyond our present troubles when we can more widely embrace the D position. It’s all too easy to believe we must start with our enemies. They are the ones in the wrong and the ones that need to change. But even if that is pretty much true, we can only ever start with ourselves and with those we love.
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