"Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves."
 
Romans 12:10
   

 

"If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, 

live at peace with everyone."

Romans 12:18

 

Bullying has been a hot topic in recent years, and it seems that more children than ever are saying that they've witnessed or experienced bullying. As a parent, you don't want to think about your child being bullied--or even being a bully--but statistics show that you and your family need to be prepared to talk about bullying. 

 

It can be heartbreaking to learn that your child has been bullied, but as a parent, your reaction to bullying is just as important as your child's reaction. Even in hard situations, you are your child's spiritual leader; point your child to Christ through those difficult times and help them explore how Jesus would have them react. Guide your child in praying for those who may treat him/her poorly. As a parent, pray for the parents/home-life of the bully (you never know what situation that child is coming from). Create a positive, loving environment in your home. Encourage and build up your child every chance you can. Remind your child that God loves him/her and has a special plan for his/her life. 

 

Your child may not have been bullied, but, odds are, they've witnessed someone else being bullied. Encourage your child to stand up for and befriend those who are bullied. Set the example for your child by showing him/her how to treat everyone equally and fairly.


As Christians, God has called us to love one another, even when we are not treated with love. Bullying, however, is never okay, and we hope that this email equips your family to understand  what bullying is and how your child can make a difference by standing up against bullying.
 

 

In Him,
Cliff Cary & Sarah Stevens



Check out these Parenting Resources:
Blog by  handinhandparenting.org

Article by KidsGrowth.com

Published by California State University, Sacramento

csus.edu

 

 

 
Bullying:
--a form of intimidation or domination toward someone who is perceived as being weaker

--a way of getting what one wants through 
some  sort of coercion or force

Types of Bullying:
-- Physical: tripping, pushing, hitting, kicking,
taking or breaking someone's things

-- Verbal: teasing, name-calling, threatening

-- Emotional: embarrassing, leaving out 
someone   on purpose
 
 Think your child is being bullied?
Watch for these signs:
 
Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry
Unexplainable
injuries 
Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness
Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork, or not wanting to go to school
Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations
Feelings of helplessness or decreased
self esteem



We don't want to think about our child being the bully, but watching for these signs can let you know if you need to talk with your child about being a bully:

--Have friends who bully others
--Have unexplained extra money
or new belongings 
--Blame others for their problems
--Are increasingly aggressive and/or
get into physical or verbal fights

 
My child has been bullied...
what do I do now?


Validate their feelings.
Assure your child that whatever he/she is feeling is normal. It's okay to feel scared, angry, or embarrassed.

Find a trusted adult they can go to for help.
If bullying is taking place at school,
help your child find a teacher who can help when you're not there.



WWJD?
Talk with your child about how Jesus would want us to treat those who treat us poorly.
S tart with Romans 12:17, Romans 12:21,
& Matthew 5:44. What other verses or  Bible stories can you find about how we should treat others?




"Dear friends, since God so loved us, 
we also ought to 
love one another."

1 John 4:11
 


Help Kids Understand Bullying
Talk about what Bullying is and how to stand up to it safely. Make sure kids know how to get help from a trusted adult.

Keep Lines Of Communication Open
Check in with your kids often. Listen to them. Know who their friends are,
ask about school, and understand
their concerns.



Encourage Kids To Do What They Love
Special activities, interests, and hobbies can boost confidence, help kids
make friends, and protect them from bullying behavior.



52% of teens have been bullied online

Only 1 in 10 teens tell a parent if 
they have been a cyber bully victim

As technology continues to advance, your child will have more and more access to online programs and activities. As a parent, you are responsible for monitoring your child's online activity. 

In our last email about Technology, we gave some specific ways you can help protect your child online: 

1) Set up parental controls on all computers, 
tablets, and smartphones

2) If you allow your child to have a phone, use a Family Media Contract to establish clear guidelines about how they  are to use their phones

3) Cyber Bullying can even take place on video games and apps. Some of those allow players to chat while they play. Monitoring your child's screen time and keeping all phones, tablets, and computers in an open area of the home
can help prevent cyber bullying and exposure to inappropriate material.

Check out our Technology email here!


 

We are here for you!
Please call or email us if you have any questions, 
would like additional resources, etc.


             Cliff Cary                                 Sarah Stevens
    Minister to Children        Associate Minister to Children      cliff@firstamarillo.org            sarah@firstamarillo.org

FBC Amarillo
1208 S. Tyler
(806) 373-2891
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