October, 2019 Newsletter from
The Marriage Education and Resource Center (MERCY)
David and I, and our Coupletime group, are going through Gary Thomas' study called Cherish. I think it gets to the heart of what so many women particularly long for in marriage. Men want to be cherished too, but as a woman I want to speak more from her perspective. Here's a quote from the study, "Men your wives don't want you to just 'love' them in the sense of being committed to them; they want you to cherish them."

Love is celebrated in 1 Corinthians. Cherish is showcased in the Song of Songs. Cherishing lifts marriage above a commitment to a precious priority.

The following article by Shaunti Feldhahn alludes to this idea of cherish.
To read it, click here

We are looking forward to what else we will be learning in this study.

Grace and peace,
Penny and David
Love and Laughter Date Night

Friday, November 8, 6:30 - 9:00 p.m. (Doors open at 6:00 p.m.)

Ballardsville Baptist Church
4300 South Highway 53
Crestwood, KY 40014
Date Nights have the potential to take your ho-hum marriage and make it fun and meaningful again. So head on over to the link below and plan that date now.

Jeff and Debby McElroy are one of the most sought-after marriage and family conference speakers across the country.

Cost: $35 per couple
Childcare: $5/child, $15 maximum

Note: If you attend a church but know of a couple who doesn't and you would like to invite them, once you register, you can have them come with you and attend free. Also, military and first-responders are free. The only cost to them would be if they need childcare.

To register or for more information: click here
Did I Marry The Wrong Person

Dave and Ashley Willis of "Marriage Today" talk about the conflicting question some people find themselves asking, "Did I marry the wrong person?"

To watch their video, click below.
(Note: You will first see a short ad but you can skip it.)
Love and Lordship Website
Welcome to a new website called "Love and Lordship," with Greg Williams from Kentucky Marriage Movement. The "Love and Lordship" message and ministry exist to help you know who you are in Christ and build strong, healthy relationships. . . friendships, marriage, family and Church. Navigate the site to find videos, podcasts and written resources to help you build every relationship on the Love and Lordship of Jesus! To view this website: click here
Upcoming Marriage Events
IAMwe Marriage Summit

Friday, November 1, 7:00 p.m. - Sunday, November 3, 12:00 noon

The Summit Hotel A Dolce Hotel
5345 Medpace Way
Cincinnati, OH 45227
The IAMwe Marriage Summit is centered around the Great IAM being at the heart of all covenant relationships.

This event will include:
  • VIP Welcome Reception
  • Fun and Laughter
  • Live Praise and Worship Music
  • Engaging, Evidence-Based Sessions
  • Materials for use during the summit, the days ahead and much more.

Cost: $199/per couple for event. Then, couples are responsible for room reservations, Saturday evening date night, hotel and meals.

For registration and additional information: click here
Weekend to Remember

November 1 - 3
Friday, 7:00 p.m. - 9:35 p.m.
Saturday, 8:00 a.m. - 4:40 p.m.
Sunday, 9:00 a.m. - 12:15 p.m.

Hyatt Regency Louisville
320 W Jefferson St
Louisville, KY 40202-2906
Weekend to Remember helps you and your spouse escape the distractions of life and focus on your relationship. Learn about God's plan for healthy marriage from leading experts.

Cost: $175 per person - However, if you use our group name MERCY a couple can save $100 off their registration.

To register, click here

Hotel room rate is $145 per night. Hotel phone is: (502) 581-1234.
November 8-10
Rough River State Resort Park

Registration cost: $250 (BOGO for two couples.) This means if two couples sign up at the same time, both couples will get the half price rate of being able to attend for $125 each.

Couples, however, are responsible for their own lodging and all meals.

Whether you are the ideal, average or the struggling couple, this retreat is designed to take your marriage to the next level of closeness.

Contact Todd Claypool for Registration - 502-321-9587 or
Email: capernaumretreat@yahoo.com or www.capernaumretreats.com

For Rough River lodging call 270-257-2311
How to Change Your Relationship
for the Better
Well respected counselor and author, Gary Chapman, tells us trying to change another person is likely to fail. He says, "It's not only frustrating, but it can be incredibly exhausting. If we force an issue long enough we may be able to enforce change on someone, but it will never change their heart. It's much better to focus our energy on something we have more control of: changing ourselves."

When you change yourself, you fundamentally change your relationships.

Here are three questions Chapman suggests to help you focus on yourself:

  • What is more important to me: the relationship or my way of doing or seeing things?
  • Are my responses and reactions creating a healthy, positive atmosphere for effective communication and negotiation?
  • If the other party never changes, what can I do to alleviate my frustrations over our differences?