August, 2021
House of Ruth Happenings!
Healthy Relationships

Relationships with others are a natural part of life. From birth we are connected to our caregivers and begin to establish our earliest relationships. As we grow, we continue expanding our circle and develop more connections outside our family unit. We engage in family, school, friendships, romantic and other relationships. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, it is estimated that 1-15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence a year, and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence. Sadly, when subjected to an unhealthy or toxic family environment, you are likely to repeat these learned behaviors with new individuals in your life. To prevent domestic violence from occurring we must first educate individuals on healthy relationships and boundaries. Many survivors and people who harm haven’t had healthy relationships modeled to them and are unaware they are repeating the cycle of violence with others. This article will compare healthy, unhealthy, and abusive relationships to better understand the relationship spectrum.

Healthy Relationship:
  • Assertive communication
  • Good listener
  • Mutual respect
  • Equality
  •  Nonjudgmental
  • Mutual trust 
  • Freedom
  • Safety
  • Supportive of other healthy relationships
  • Respects boundaries
  • Clear communications/shared understanding about finances
  • Healthy, consensual sex

Unhealthy Relationship:
  • Passive or Passive aggressive communication 
  • Lack of respect
  • Dishonesty
  • Trying to take control
  • Monopolizing time
  • Untrustworthy
  • Pressure into unwanted activities
  •  Dependent relationship
  •  Poor communication about finances or misuse of finances 

Abusive Relationship:
  • Mistreatment
  • Accusatory
  • Aggressive communication
  • Loss of identity
  • Physical, emotional, verbal, sexual abuse, such as hitting, punching, name calling, gaslighting, sexual assault or coercion 
  • Financial Abuse such as one partner controlling all the finances, using partners name/identity to take out loans, ruining partners credit score, not allowing partner access to finances, etc.
  • Controlling
  • Isolating partner
  • Manipulation
  • Crossing physical or emotional boundaries

If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse in a relationship and they need support, call our 24-hour hotline at 1(877) 988-5559.  

House of Ruth Wins
2021 Purple Ribbon Awards
We are proud to announce House of Ruth has been named best of the best for making a substantial positive impact on the lives of survivors and victims of intimate partner violence., Theresa’s Fund, and other experts in the domestic violence field developed the Purple Ribbon Awards, honoring the impactful work domestic violence service agencies accomplish during the year. Non-profits throughout the country submitted nominations for various categories and House of Ruth is pleased to announce we were awarded for outstanding work in the following areas:
Outstanding Awareness Event
During Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month in February, the Prevention Team hosts a yearly Teen Art Awareness Event showcasing meaningful artwork created by our local teen activists portraying their experience with teen dating violence and healthy relationships.

Thank you to the Prevention Team for coordinating this wonderful event and creating a safe place for teens to express themselves. (Elyse Severson)
Outstanding Fundraising Event
The Moveable Feast fundraiser has been a community favorite for several years due its distinctive uniqueness and enjoyable atmosphere.

Thank you to the Development Team for organizing this successful event. (Rhonda Beltran, Kathy Ashman, Sophia Weidner, &
Brenda Olivas)
Brian Kraatz, Board Member of the Year
Board Member of the Year was awarded to Brian Kraatz for serving on the Board of Directors, volunteering on the hotline, and his development of a Facilities Maintenance Plan and Strategy.

Congrats Brian - we appreciate all you do for House of Ruth!
Annual Report of the Year

Every year the Development Team publishes an Annual Report highlighting House of Ruth's accomplishments, impact, and budget. We were awarded best content, design, and impact.

Shout out to the Development Team for creating impactful articles and Odin Marketing for designing the Annual Report. A special thanks to Sophia Weidner, Eleanor Brown, & Susan Castagnetto for your outstanding editing skills. (Rhonda Beltran, Josiah Lorsung, & Brenda Olivas)
Thank you to all the wonderful staff, board members, volunteers, and supporters for your dedication to House of Ruth’s mission. We couldn’t do it without you.
Upcoming House of Ruth Events
Tacos & Brews:

  • What: Join us for some delicious food, drinks, opportunity drawing, and entertainment at House of Ruth's annual Tacos & Brews fundraiser. Proceeds raised will benefit House of Ruth.
  • When: September 28, 2021 from 5-9 pm
  • Where: Last Name Brewing located at, 2120 Porterfield Way Upland , CA. 91786

  • Tickets: Event ticket link coming soon
Lift Your Voices Crowdfunding Campaign:
  • What: Support House of Ruth's Lift Your Voices crowdfunding campaign to ignite public awareness and broaden conversations on domestic violence prevention in the community. While raising funds for House of Ruth.
  •  When: October 1-31, 2021
  • Where: Virtually
  • How: Stay tuned for more information
Annual Candlelight Vigil:
  • What: October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and House of Ruth will be hosting our Annual Candlelight Vigil in remembrance of those who've lost their lives to domestic violence and celebrating survivors living free from abuse.
  • When: October 14, 2021
  • Where: Virtually on House of Ruth social media channels and website

Immediate Client and Shelter Needs!
We need your help with the following brand new items:
  • Twin size bedding
  • Pillows
  • Bath Towels
  • Reusable water bottles
  • 24-28 inch Smart T.V.'S with wall mounts. (10-15 total T.V.'s) with built in DVD players.
  • Folding chairs
  • Folding tables
  • Fast Food gift cards
  • DVD Players
  • Baby monitors
  • Planners
  • Diaper Genie
  • Water toys
  • Children ride on toys
  • Journals
  • Small white boards
  • Kitchen towels
  • Cookware/bakeware
  • Cutlery
  • BBQ grill
  • Microwaves
For more information or to schedule a donation drop off, please email Rhonda Beltran at [email protected]. Thank you for your support.
** Please Note: We are currently not accepting gently used items at this time. All gently used items can be donated directly to, Acts Thrift Store, 232 E Foothill Blvd Pomona CA., 909-491-3199. House of Ruth will receive store credit that can be used by House of Ruth clients. Just let them know House of Ruth referred you.