are all born inherently
with a natural inclination to be open, loving, and compassionate with ourselves and others.
However, our experiences and relationships (especially in early childhood) tend to influence us the rest of our lives. When early experiences are damaging/painful, it becomes difficult to stay aligned with the inherent qualities that make us feel good and help us become better, more loving human beings.
When we are out of alignment with our higher self, it becomes more challenging to access our
. Our culture does not teach us how to align with our
power. As a result, when coupled with our emotional wounds, it becomes more difficult to differentiate between our
power and the temporary 'rush' of power that comes from the ego.
: (Easing God Out) : 'Power' that comes from the ego is based on a personal investment (conscious or unconscious) in getting certain reactions/benefits as a result of one's words or actions. False power comes from the ego rather than the Higher Self and is likely to be manipulative and controlling. We can all think of a child who bullied us or was the bully on the playground in childhood. There may be an adult in our life currently who is a bully. Some political leaders (not mentioning any names) miss use their power and become bullies when they move into positions of 'leadership' if they are out of balance to begin with. They are likely to get further out of alignment when tempted by power and personal financial gain.
? During childhood, when we experience painful experiences, traumas etc., we start to lose our connection with our
which is where our true power lies...within.
If you were bullied/abused/neglected by one or more adults in your life as a child, you will tend to identify with both the
role. You probably don't intend to behave this way, but you may notice that you flip flop between both of these roles in your daily life. However, even though you exhibit behaviors of both, you are more likely to
with the role of victim because it is more deeply entrenched.
balanced we are more likely to come from a heart-centered place. When we come from our heart, our experiences and relationships tend to flow easily and effortlessly. We are true to ourselves and able to express ourselves clearly. We are able to set healthy boundaries and make wise decisions that are in our highest and best interest without causing harm to others.
: When we are balanced and aligned with our higher self, emotionally, spiritually and physically, we do not give our power to others or try to diminish theirs.
How Do We Become Self Empowered?
We become empowered as we heal our inner wounds and start to trust and align with our Higher Self and a power greater than our self (God, Universal Presence, Higher Self etc.). The longer painful experiences remain in our energy bodies and psyches, the more likely we are to become depressed and even hopeless. The more discouraged we become, the more we start hoping someone will come and 'rescue' us.This is one of the most significant ways we give our authentic power away
When we give our power away, we second guess ourselves and our decisions. If we continue to do this, we become less confident and less empowered.
When we heal the painful experiences and traumas accumulated over the course of our life, we find ourselves gently and naturally moving into a place of inner balance and authentic power. We feel calm, we feel good, and our lives and relationships start to flow.