FOCUSED and Inspired:
You're a Complex Human!
October 16, 2018
Insights from Lisa Mitzel

I recently began working with a college soccer player. She had been struggling for months and, unfortunately, her problems intensified. Confidence and self-esteem are big issues, and it’s clear that hard physical work is not helping. Following the coach’s decisions is not helping. Nothing is helping. Except considering that she is a whole human being with thoughts and feelings that keep her down. I’ve introduced mental training techniques from Focused and On Fire , but especially how to integrate self-awareness, daily, and acknowledge her true value as a person, which I emphasize in Focused and Inspired. She is now addressing her psychological and emotional needs— to like, love, and value herself .  Soccer has suddenly improved, she's playing more minutes, inspiring her team, and growing in confidence! Athletes need to process their thoughts and feelings. They can not do this alone. They need our guidance.  
Sneak Peek - from FAI:
Chapter 3 - You're a Complex Human!
Lift Up Athletes through Essential Psychological & Emotional Needs

There is a delicate balance to strike in training with physical, mental, and emotional elements. By learning how to integrate the Humanistic Approach, you can boost athletes’ confidence, self-esteem, and performance. The Humanistic Approach focuses on each athlete as a whole and complex person who has essential needs, including psychological and emotional. Let’s apply and reinforce these concepts as new habits. These make all the difference!

Essential Needs for Athletes

Every athlete in every sport has significant inner needs, especially in connecting with coaches and parents. In their training program day in and day out, we must speak to them and build them up! Their psychological and emotional needs will be met when you follow these tips:

1.   Person-centered - every person is different; trust their experience and instincts; allow the athlete to take the lead sometimes and discover their own solutions.

2.   Effort and strengths - put attention on the effort (not results); look for, salute, and celebrate personal assets as positives in the training process.

3.   Athlete’s thoughts and feelings - ask about their thoughts and feelings, acknowledge them, and listen. Do they feel safe? Do they feel useful and included? These are vital.

4.   Open communication - empower athletes to be leaders and speak honestly, even when it’s uncomfortable. They need to feel valued and that you will respect them and work with them.

5.   Strategize together - talk together, keep adjusting and find new approaches and ways to achieve goals. As they feel heard, and see their progress, their confidence builds.

Through the Humanistic Approach, athletes are more apt to tackle difficult challenges and commit to training standards. Listening to athletes is key. Listen to every voice, seek deeper understanding, and you will be on that high road creating an important human connection for both safety and success.
 
Next week’s FAI Sneak Peek - from Chapter 4: Let’s Be Partners.  Learn the “Partnership Model”—the athlete’s trusting relationship with you is the heart of realizing their goals.
Spotlight:
FAI Endorsement from Dr. Sally Harris, Pediatric and Adolescent Sports Medicine Specialist

At Stanford University, I was blessed as a head coach to have Dr. Harris as our team doctor. She is highly ethical and has always advocated for the athletes and aptly attended to their health and well-being. She endorses FAI to teach us how to protect young athletes: “Developing athletes with emotional intelligence is not only wise, but necessary for their health and well-being. In  Focused and Inspired,  Lisa illuminates the crucial topic of safety and shows us that young athletes feel pressured, overwhelmed, and don’t have the ability to identify abuse. Children are not merely small adults. It’s time for the sports world to pay attention—this vital education is for you.” Thank you, Dr. Harris!
Focused Tour in Northern California & Santa Barbara
I’m coaching at Liberty Gymnastics in Concord, CA, this week and selling books! Also, presenting a parent-coach seminar at Spirals Gymnastics at UCSB; we’re utilizing sponsor funds, and I’m selling my books. I’m happy to add your program any time! Join our Sponsors: When programs cannot afford all of the expenses, funding is vital. To spread positive, healthy coaching & safety education, go to GoFundMe. Learn more here: https://www.gofundme.com/athlete-safety-education-tour
Lisa’s Videos: Take-a-Breath Tuesdays.  
My short videos spotlight parts of my books, share news, and support YOU in developing self-awareness and being an effective coach or support in guiding athletes. Follow me on: FB, IG @mitzel_coach, and Twitter.
Focused and Inspired is dedicated to every athlete who has ever been hurt by the misuse of power in sports, and especially dedicated to the athlete-survivors of sexual abuse, who are still healing, and who spoke up and shared their stories. You are so brave! Thank you for helping others to speak up and begin to heal.
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