SUPPORTING LOVED ONES EXPERIENCING
APATHY CAUSED BY DEMENTIA:
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IDENTIFY WHERE THEY FIND JOY. Art can be a great way to engage. Favorite music played or sing-along can be helpful.
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REMINISCE AND ASK QUESTIONS ABOUT THE PAST. Photos from childhood and trips and vacations from the past can stimulate interest as well.
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INTRODUCE SMALL AMOUNTS OF ACTIVITY AT A TIME. If an activity seems overwhelming, learn to be flexible and adjust it. Short periods of time that involves engagement can be quite rewarding if one is in tune with a pace that is responsive to the moment. Coming back to it later can also be effective. Sensitivity to interest level is key.
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EMPHASIZE THE PROCESS OVER THE OUTCOME. Help them to initiate and allow them to enjoy the process. Working on a puzzle, as an example, can be collaborative and mutually enjoyable. The goal to keep in sight: quality of connection and engagement as the end-game. Collaboration over competition.
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HAVE PATIENCE: Avoid expressing frustration or disappointment. Be clear in communicating, use a gentle tone. Focus on what they CAN do, not what they CAN'T.
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PROVIDE POSITIVE FEEDBACK: Set them up for success. Focus on what they like to do and what they are good at doing. Make sure they feel included and rewarded for trying to participate.
These strategies can help the person experiencing apathy related to dementia feel less alienated, more valuable, and more productive. It is important to take into consideration the cognitive and physical functioning variables of each individual. "Flexibility in the process, with a willingness to experiment using gentle engagement, can be mutually rewarding. Above all, we must be mindful not to set them up for failure, which can further the experience of apathy," Garrison said.
It is essential to take a person-centered approach and emphasize individualized, meaningful activities tailored to a person's strengths and interests. When they do withdraw, try to distinguish the difference by figuring out if the person with dementia is withdrawing from an activity as the result of apathy or because they cannot actually engage in the activity anymore. "Meeting the person where they are is key to ensuring that we consider their dignity and worth above all else," Garrison emphasized.
It is another example, often stated in our DayBreak Support Groups: "We must be willing to step into their world when they can no longer step into ours."
— Karen Kelleher, MA
Family Caregiver Support Coordinator at DayBreak
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