This is not a newsletter that I had written ahead of time for today. Instead I am writing it this beautiful morning of Memorial Day. I'm not sure what prompted me to get out of bed on my vacation at the beach to write this but I feel compelled to do so. When you listen to your heart sometimes it holds the most precious messages and you just have to trust the process. I am not spell checking or grammar checking this in Word - so please bear with my intent.
Today I think of many things not the least of which are the men and women of the military who stand guard over our freedom every day and those who paid the ultimate sacrifice so that my husband can come home every night for dinner when they can't, so that I can wear and say what I want, and so my children have opportunities unlike anywhere else in the world. I think of their families who think of them every day. The cost of freedom is never free and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for upholding my freedom most people cannot enjoy and keeping my family safe.
Secondly, I think of all of the people who are remembering a loved one who died and remember the people close to me who have passed away. I celebrate the high school and life memories I shared with my best friend who died far too early. I revel in the memories of going to the office with my grandmother and the evenings of playing Canasta with her friends, even though we knew they were cheating. And I embrace the intimacy my children felt when their father passed away when they could have held onto anger instead.
And last, I think about you. Today you might be remembering someone special who touched your life in a way unparalleled by any other. I rejoice that you have that feeling, even if it makes you sad to remember. Go ahead and cry. Sad is ok. It comes from an open heart that is not afraid to feel. Anger is the shield of sad. It is ok to put down the shield.
Grief teaches us that there are necessary endings in our lives. Our resiliency comes from appreciating the seasons of our lives and knowing what season we are in. How can you sew a new spring like crop with someone? What have you learned that has taught you how to play big like summer. What might need to be harvested in your life? And what can you plan for an assess like you do when winter keeps you inside.
Wishing you warm memories, necessary endings and brilliant beginnings this Memorial Day. God bless you and America.
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