8 Winning Valentine's Gifts--that Don't Cost a Cent
It's easy to get stumped about what to do to express yourself for Valentine's Day. I talk to many clients who express anxiety about the love day, and this is what I say.
Don't focus on what others are doing or buying to show their honey that they are special. Instead, think of it as an occasion to honor your love, and to convey how much you value, respect, and admire him or her. With that as your goal, celebrating this holiday is actually very easy, and it won't cost you a penny.
Here are 8 things you can do to win the heart of your valentine
1. Write down what you appreciate.
Write a list of qualities that you appreciate about your loved one, and put those words in a card, poem, or a short video of you reading the list. This can be characteristics they possess or things they have done. Include both specific and general examples.
2. Share your favorite memories aloud.
Write a list of 6 or so of your favorite, most stellar shared memories and retell the events and why they are significant for you.
3. Listen with love.
Set up a comfortable place to talk, and ask questions about life, dreams, wishes, and feelings. Just listen while he or she talks. Don't interrupt. Remind him or her that you won't share this information with anyone.
4. Step out of the box and do something different.
Take the evening off from your normal routine and do something that steps outside of the usual, like dancing in your backyard or reading a poem aloud in front of the fireplace. Maybe plan an outing to a favorite place, maybe a hike or a stroll to a new destination.
5. Let go of the past.
Valentine's Day is a great day to let go of any grudges you're holding and to accept your loved one, flaws and all. To do this, repeat over and over to yourself, "My partner is the way he is, not the way I want him to be." Or "My partner did what she did. We both did the best we could at the time." Stating these truths to yourself with conviction will help you be able to let go of the past and genuinely say and mean, "I love you."
6. Be a genie and grant a wish.
Put yourself in your partner's shoes and offer to take on a chore or an activity that would bring a smile or relieve some stress and strain. Do it in a timely manner with a smile on your face.
7. Embrace the spirit of the day.
Refrain from making negative jokes about Valentine's Day or your partners opinion about the day. Regardless of how you feel, only say positive and genuine things. It's just one day.
8. Fall in love again.
Allow yourself to fall in love anew. Conjure up feelings of a time you were full of love for your Valentine, and keep your focus there in your heart. Give up the mental score-keeping of your differences and interrupt all your complaints. Recall the way you felt when you first met.