January 2022
Martin J. Schreiber • Executive Editor
"If there's one thing worse than Alzheimer's, it's ignorance of the disease." -- Marty Schreiber


How to Help Yourself Live Your Best Life Possible

My friend Abraham Lincoln once said, “We’re just about as happy as we make our minds up to be.” That’s quite a statement coming from a man like Lincoln, who experienced challenge after challenge. This manner of thinking—of making your mind up to be happy—may not strike a chord with everyone. But as an Alzheimer's caregiver, it resonates deeply.

As caregivers, we try to figure out how to handle our challenges by making the best choices possible for our loved one and ourselves. It’s incredibly difficult, because sometimes we’re so struck with worry. But like Lincoln said, we have to make our minds up to control that worry. It’s not easy. In fact, it’s a daily job—a daily decision we have to make.

The care of our loved one is, in itself, a challenge. The behaviors of the person with Alzheimer’s are the direct result of the disease and cannot be cured, delayed, or prevented. These symptoms are non-compromising. A given. Out of our control.

But let’s talk about what we can control—that is, our own thoughts and actions. We can work to control our thinking—what we think, when we think it. Irrational irritability, frustration, and anger seriously undermine our ability to be the best caregiver possible. It’s not only wasted energy, it negatively impacts our health. 

When we give in to negative thoughts, we aren’t able to hear the birds sing or see the flowers bloom. In this new year, let's do right by Honest Abe and focus on making our minds up to be happy. To choose a positive thought, and to notice moments of joy when they come our way along our caregiving journey.

For questions or more information about Alzheimer’s and services or programs, visit alz.org or call the Alzheimer’s Association 24/7 Helpline at 800-272-3900.


Marty is the primary caregiver for his wife Elaine, for whom his book is named. He compassionately promotes the value of learning about Alzheimer's and caregiving via personal appearances and serving as a media source. You'll enjoy his honesty and even his humor.

Upcoming Events

Thursday, January 27, Marty is heading west and will be at the following locations:

St. Luke's Lutheran Church, Middleton, WI
Renaissance Senior Living of Hilldale
602 North Segoe Road, Madison, WI
at 4:30 pm for a presentation and book signing.
Please RSVP to 608-949-7550 or email kkay@renaissancehilldale.net for more info.


And everyone is welcome and ENCOURAGED to participate in the Alzheimer's Association
2022 Virtual Advocacy Day
February 8 from 12:00 pm - 1:30 pm.
For more information, contact Michael Bruhn at mlbruhn@alz.org or call 608-318-4057.

Email authors@mytwoelaines.com to schedule Marty as a presenter for your in person or online activities or to purchase books for your 2022 events.

Learn more at mytwoelaines.com