From The Positive Perspective.......
We are all very good at pointing out what is not good about ourselves. Some of us believe we are too short or too tall or have the wrong hair color or have the wrong skills to be successful in life. Do you ever take the time to really look inside yourself and acknowledge what is good? I have heard many people say to me in session that if they acknowledge good things about themselves they feel they are being boastful, conceited or self-absorbed. Well, there is a fine line there. If we go around all day telling others how good we are and looking for a response, then, yes, that is being boastful. But is there a happy medium between ignoring what is good about you and being boastful about it? Absolutely. Let's explore that.
Take a moment to think about some comments you have heard about yourself lately. Others might tend to say that you have a great smile or that you are very giving in nature. Some might comment on how organized you were through the holidays or how beautifully you wrapped your presents this year. Do you believe them? Can you simply say "Thank You" to the comment or do you discount what they say? Happiness needs to come from inside our souls and we need to truly believe that we are all good in some way. By recognizing the good in us, we take control of our emotions and of our life and we don't leave it in the hands of someone else. While it is wonderful to be influenced by others from time to time, we need to be in control of our own destiny. We can do that by looking in the mirror and telling ourselves that we love and accept who we see in that mirror unconditionally. Try it.
By finding the good in us without saying the "but", we can enhance confidence in ourselves and believe that deep down we are a good person. For example, "I cooked a wonderful holiday dinner for my family", not "I cooked a wonderful holiday dinner for my family but the turkey was a little dry." Just say the positives and leave it at that. It takes practice but I know you can do it. The more we say it, the more we will believe it. Take the good things that you find about yourself and find a way to share them with others without expecting anything in return. Share just because.......
May you all have a wonderful start to 2013 and may you be able to find the best YOU.
Loving yourself for who you are allows you to look in the mirror, smile and say, "I will love you and accept you From The Positive Perspective."