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What Are We Learning About Ourselves?
July, 2020
Quote of the month

" The greatest oak was once a little nut who held it's ground." 

by Unknown

My Services
Pre-Marital Counseling
Certified Prepare/Enrich Program Facilitator
Marital Counseling
Infidelity Issues
Self-Esteem Support
Problem-Solving Support
Renew Marital Excitement
Family counseling

Divorce Support
Redefining Life Purpose
Grief/Loss Support


I welcome the opportunity to help you work through current issues and to look at your future with a sense of hope and purpose.


Masters Degree - Applied Psychology from Seton Hall University


Post-Masters Degree-Marriage and Family Therapy from Seton Hall University


Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist


Private Practice 

since 2008


Married over 30 years


Mother of 2 

young-adult daughters 


Lived in Indiana, 

New Jersey and Texas


Passionate about 

what I do


As you read this newsletter, I hope that you are being patient with those around you, including yourself. We have no idea what this new norm is going to look like. One day we can eat in a restaurant with one set of restrictions and the next day we cannot go in at all. I believe that by reflecting for just a little bit about what we have learned about ourselves and our family during this situation, may turn up some positive things. 

I have come to the conclusion that I need to control my little world and do what is best for me and my family. I cannot change what someone in Austin or Chicago or New Jersey does. I wear a mask when I leave the house to protect others and myself. I practice social distancing because it is up to me to do what is safe for me and my family. Whether you are still at home and have not left in months or you are doing outdoor dining with those you trust are safe, we all have to do our part, not because someone else says so, but because we should do what we can to each protect our little part of the world. We are doing our part to support local businesses by ordering things online and getting take-out to help as best we can.

This is about safety and doing our part to contribute to controlling something that has affected all of our lives. If everyone thought about the greater good and contributing to controlling this, I truly believe we would be in a better place with this virus in no time.
As always, please pass along this information to anyone you feel may benefit from it's content.

Maryellen Dabal, MA, LMFT
305 Miron Drive
Southlake, TX 76092
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From The Positive Perspective.......
What are you learning about yourself or your family as you journey through these months? I am hearing from many families that they are spending more time together....quality time....and they are learning more about balancing Mom or Dad's job AND being a teacher to their kids. 

I am hearing that parents are realizing that their kids are so much more responsible than they thought with regards to helping around the house and getting along. I laugh when I hear that a spouse had no idea what their partner did for work...well they know now. Haha. Kids are having a lunch break with Dad and using that time to have a picnic in the living room. People are being more creative than ever before. Some introverts are telling me that they truly miss their coworkers and are not as much of an introvert as they thought. I am hearing that when family or friends can get together safely, they are truly realizing how important these relationships are. One person I know is saving 3 HOURS a day in commuting time. Wow!!!

I am a "hugger" and very much miss hugging my family and friends. Do you miss something that you were able to do before? Tell people about that. I tell my friends that while we can see each other on Zoom, I really miss hugging them when we say hello. Tell people you miss seeing them in person. Tell grandma that you miss that funny smell of her hairspray. Tell your daughter that you can't wait til we can eat at our favorite restaurant and have those long "talks" that we always have. Be vocal to those around you. Let them know what you miss about them. It's nice to be missed. It's nice to know that someone misses being with you.

I know that there are many tragedies happening out there as well and if you just put on the news, you can be made aware of all of them. The purpose of my newsletter this month is to remind you that there are good things happening through this.  You won't hear that on the news. Help each other to see some good in this. Help each other to be responsible in your actions. Reflecting on some things that are better can help with your overall outlook on this time in life. If we work together and support each other, we can make a difference...all of us...one person at a time.

People are still getting cancer during COVID and dealing with it. People are still passing away during COVID and those individuals are being mourned. I feel for all those who have to deal with major tragedy.....and COVID. If you are one of the lucky ones who only has to deal with COVID at this time.....you are blessed. Appreciate that. COVID will pass....someday....but other tragedies happening will not go away so easily.

I would enjoy hearing back from you as to what you are learning about yourself or your family dynamics during this challenging time.

Stay well.

Try to look at the situations in life
From the Positive Perspective
and we can work through anything!
I welcome feedback regarding the newsletter or questions about my practice.  I can be reached at maryellen@dabalmft.com .  I cannot, however, give advice through email. For more information on my practice please visit my website: www.dabalmft.com

I wish you well...

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