ARTICLE OF THE MONTH: "How to Assert Yourself When You're Dismissed" by Selena Rezvani from Be Leaderly
Have you ever sat in a meeting and felt ignored or utterly unimportant? Perhaps you offered up an idea that someone else seized upon. Maybe you inserted yourself into the conversation but no one gave you their eye contact or their attention. Whether you're the youngest in the room or the one from a department no one respects (or you're just not getting your due for unknown reasons), you can learn these four strategies to re-assert yourself.
Get Back In There: If you're getting jangled by rude or demeaning dynamics, resist the the urge to disengage from the conversation and be silenced. Frame a relevant idea in your mind and then build off someone else's idea starting with, "Yes, and..." Barbara Pachter, a business etiquette expert and author, even advocates for strategically interrupting when you're being talked over. Says Pachter, "In some situations, if you don't interrupt, you won't get to speak. The easiest way to interrupt is when the other person takes a breath. You then speak up quickly, acknowledge what the person said, and add your thoughts."
"The Five Dysfunctions of a Team" by Patrick Lencioni - BookReviewed by TLP Cohort #5 Member
This book was an excellent, very fast read. I found that it was very hard to put down once I picked it up.
The Five Dysfunctions of a Teamreally expressed some great points on leadership, including the importance of having everyone in upper management positions on the same page; how important communication is; and that the person directing staff does not always need to know everything about the system they are working with, but more importantly needs to know how to manage a group of employees together.
This story, even though it was made up, was very easy to relate to. I could picture myself in the shoes of each person described in the scenarios. I think this is an excellent book for any employee who is either looking to try to enter a leadership position or already in a leadership position.
"The Art of Active Listening" by Glenna Fulks
It's absolutely true, listening is an art. And sadly, it has become a lost art. Few actually do it well. It would seem to be a pretty simple concept, but there are several deterrents that get in the way.
Many of us are guilty of starting a conversation and putting a thought or question out there. Instead of giving the other individual time to formulate a response, we immediately re-phrase the question or remark and answer it ourselves. In other words, we don't give ourselves a chance to listen since we never stop talking.
Dates Set forTLP Cohort #5 Final Project Presentations
On August 16, 2018 and September 26, 2018, the members of the TLP Cohort #5 will be giving their final project presentations.
TLP Alumni are invited to join the group for any/all of the presentations. Mary McCarthy will be finalizing the schedule, please let her know if you are interested in attending and she will share with you. We welcome your participation in supporting your fellow TLP colleagues.
"Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence."
- Sheryl Sandberg,
COO of Facebook
2018 Training Opportunities
We will continue to update the schedule with dates and locations, so check in with us regularly.