ARTICLE OF THE MONTH: "How to Give Advice or Feedback Without Seeming Patronizing" by Erica Lamberg
It's tempting to offer words of wisdom to those in your closet social circles, but it can be a delicate balance between giving advice and sounding like a "know-it-all." Even if your advice is encouraged or welcomed, it still can be tricky to pick the right message without seeming patronizing. It's even more complex to offer your advice if it's not requested.
We've asked communication pros and relationship experts to share strategies to get your advice across without the message coming across as demeaning.
Here's how to give advice without being patronizing:
#1. Ask permission first
The first step is to respectfully ask the person if they want your advice. "This is an example of boundaries," says Carrie Krawiec, a licensed marriage and family therapist at Birmingham Maple Clinic in Troy, MI. "Asking permission also gives the other person the power to accept or decline."
Furthermore, asking for permission conveys empathy and willingness to help, but also an awareness that your help may not be welcomed and there is a dilemma in sharing.
"Be aware of the other's body cues like eye rolls, sighs or disinterest and stop when you can see it's unwanted," Krawiec adds. If you are told "no," it's best to respect that and not offer your advice.
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This book recognizes some of the most successful Fortune 500 business leaders. With as much financial success they have had, they believe that this power and success should be used for the greater good. These leaders believe that the ability and power that their success has provided them, should be used to lead and improve systems that everyone can benefit from.
30 of the Best TED Talks on Leadership That Every Great Leader Should Watch
Leadership is often a skill that's self-taught.
It comes as result of being aware of the qualities you possess, the ones you lack, and the ones you respect and admire in others. And then as a result of this knowledge, working to constantly improve your leadership style through learning, self-evaluation and listening to feedback. These are crucial steps when deciding you want to lead others.
To learn what some of the most forward thinking and innovative experts have to say about leadership, check out our list of the crème de la crème of TED Talks on leadership.
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CIRMA's Excellence in Risk Management Award recognizes outstanding results by CIRMA members. Our award recipients share a strong commitment to creating better communities and public schools. Their focused efforts produce significant results and long-term reductions in losses.
CIRMA will be accepting Award applications now through August 30th. Each award recipient will receive a $2,500risk management grant for future risk management programs!
Know of a risk management initiative in your municipality or public school that has reduced losses or helped build a culture of safety? Be a champion for the team that made it happen! CIRMA urges members to download an award application and apply!
"People ask the difference between a leader and a boss. The leader leads and the boss drives."
-Theodore Roosevelt
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