A common habit now is to look at your email on your phone or computer first thing. Sometimes even before we get out of bed. I have come to realize what a GIGANTIC MISTAKE this is. I read an article that said if the first thing you do is read your email your day will likely be about other people’s priorities. No truer words were ever spoken. How many times do we look at our email first, start responding and before we know it an hour or two is gone. And of course more emails come in while your responding to the first two and you are off to the races of living for other people’s priorities.
There is no greater sense of frustration than getting to the end of the day and feel like you have gotten “nothing done”. What we really mean is we got none of
our priorities addressed. This sense of running in mud can and often does go on for days. But really it’s our fault. We set our selves up to react to what others want from us, first and often our needs never make the list.
Susan and I always set goals for the year both personally and for the business. Then what? Well this is now how I am beginning of my day; I read through my goals first thing. It does shape my day. Not 100% but WAY more than it would have been had I jumped on email first, way more! I some times stop and flesh out one of the goals, maybe adjust it a bit. And actually think. Yes think about what I want out my life.
Next I listen to the EMDR download Calm and Confident by Mark Grant. I used to listen to this amazing work of genius years ago when I felt overwhelmed and did not know which of my 50 “A” priorities I should attack. This download gets you into deep states of relaxation. It leads you through a process of using EMDR technology that is unique. In my 44 years of practice I have never seen anything that produces the result this does. I have recommended this same CD when you having sleep issues and I know from your feed back it has great results.
So often our days now begin with frenzy, near panic and a flurry of activity from some one else’s upset or goal. And off the day goes careening out of our control, till we crumple at the end of the day frustrated and exhausted.
The cost for regaining control is free to $1.98. Stop and get the “email needle” out of your arm (free) and buying the “Calm and Confident” download by Mark Grant from Amazon or iTunes (that’s the $1.98).
Our 36 year old son’s first sentence was “I do it myself mommy, who’s life is it anyway?” So there’s your challenge. Whose life is it anyway? Who is running your life; you or email?
If you can’t do, all of the above, at least do something. Write your goals (personal and career) down for the year. Review them once a day or once a week. Download Mark Grant’s bit of genius. Listen to it once. Listen to 10 minutes of it. NEVER IN THE CAR, though, it will put you to sleep if you are sleep deprived as many of us are. Always with head phones or ear buds so the EMDR technology can work its magic.
As Charlie said “whose life is it anyway?”
As always we invite your comments especially if you have tried any of the above.