News Sense

September 2015


"Play tennis as if it's the most important thing in life...but realize it's not."
Raphael Nadal, 14-time Grand Slam winner, prior to his 2014 sports tour throughout Spain.

"When I was first starting out as an actress, everybody compared me with my Dad. It was frustrating and heartbreaking. He told me, " I raised you to be a thoroughbred, and when thoroughbreds race, they wear blinders to keep their eyes focused straight ahead, with no distractions from the other horses. They run their own race. That's what you have to do. Don't listen to anyone comparing you to me or anybody else. You just run your own race."
  Actress, activist, Marlo Thomas, on advice from her father, famous comedian, Danny Thomas. 
More, 2014

It's good to be the CEO! The median pay package for the leader of a large company just passed the $10 million mark . A chief executive now makes about 257 times the average worker's salary, up sharply from 181 times in 2009.

Best Inspirational Quote:

"Put as much into your head as you can, because no body can ever take that away from you. "

Holocaust Survivor who spent the last part of World War ll in the Terezin Concentration Camp in Czechoslovakia 

...Bits from Barbara

Welcome to our latest newsletter

It's early FALL! 
Time to look ahead with anticipation and enthusiasm.
Our Main Essay, "For Goodness' sake...Just Apologize!" focuses on the time-honored personal and professional action: the art of apologizing.Those who do it well, usually escape the mess into which they put themselves. Those who don't: don't. Also included in this issue is our customary assortment of quotes, musings, sightings and our BEST JOKE--- all in an effort to inform and entertain you. 
Barbara shot


Best Sighting

"Die with memories, not dreams"

Seen on a residential door, in Lisbon, Portugal 
March, 2015

For Goodness' Sake.... Just APOLOGIZE!
I've always believed in the benefits of an apology.  It's like applying soothing  balm on a wound. It makes people feel better and allows them to move on.
In business, as in our personal lives, one of the most important  things to do after you've erred is to say you've made a mistake and you're sorry.
If you continue to deny there's a problem, or let the wound fester, chances are it won't disappear--but grow bigger.
It took GM years to admit it had an ignition switch problem that may have been responsible for more than 20 deaths. The company lost market share, billions of dollars and its reputation was shattered. Finally, its new CEO, Mary Barra, came clean and apologized for all those years of willful denial.
GM's sales have rebounded.
Brian Williams, one of TV's most respected and well-paid news anchors, repeatedly exaggerated the danger to him while reporting on the Iraq war.  After evidence proved he misrepresented his war experiences, Williams finally admitted he lied. He lost the anchor chair, a lot of support and was suspended for six months. But he will be back on TV on MSNBC.
We often hear jurors say, " I just wanted him to say he was sorry"...after a criminal refuses to do so before sentencing. Jurors often describe the refusal to apologize as sheer agony - as if the crime has been committed again.
It's amazing how three little words - I am sorry - have so much power to heal.
There are, of course, "good apologies" and "bad ones."
It's not a good idea to say you're sorry  without explaining why  you did what you did, or without putting it into some context.
And when you apologize, you have to mean it. People can tell right  away  whether you're truly sorry, or whether you're faking it.  
Timing is also important.  
At first, Hillary Clinton sidestepped the question of whether she used a personal server while overseeing the State Dept. After months of obfuscating, she finally admitted she used a private server and a private email account as Secretary, but wished she had used two accounts, like other politicians in the past. One wonders why she just didn't say so in the beginning. Now this story will linger and sting long after it should have.
Donald Trump's  supporters say they love him , "because
he tells it like it is!" So far, he has called women pigs, labeled Mexicans rapists, accused Huma Abedin, a long-time Hillary aide, of willfully sharing classified information with her husband, Anthony Weiner, who Trump has branded a pervert. He's called his fellow GOP candidates losers, clowns and dummies.
He has refused to apologize for any of these statements.
But offending so many people in so many ways will take its toll. If his words don't sink him, his rivals will, by putting together an explosive TV and Internet reel reminding voters of his cruel and uncontrollable mouth. 
When Tiger Woods finally  apologized for his cheating ways, it didn't revive his flagging golf game, but it did attract  all the sponsors who initially ran from him like the plague. He may be losing--but he's not losing money.
Of course, taking the high road and admitting one's errors is not without risk. It can  result in bad things happening. For example, if you fess up to having an affair, you could lose your significant other. If you take responsibility and apologize for making a bad corporate decision, you could get fired.
On the other hand, that could happen to you anyway.
When colleagues fess up to messing up - they generally fare well. It all depends, of course, on how  you say what you say. 
If you're too slick, you will be mistrusted and then canned.
If you're too wimpy, you will be ignored and never promoted.
But if you admit  your mistake, explain  why it happened, apologize for it and appear sincere  and introspective , chances are you will survive your mishap. 
You might even thrive.
After all, there's nothing Americans love more, than second chances. 


A nice, calm respectable lady walked into a local pharmacy, 

looked straight into the pharmacist's eyes and said, " I would like to 

buy some Cyanide."
The pharmacist asked, "Why in the world  do you need Cyanide?"

The lady replied, " I need it to poison my husband."

The pharmacist was incredulous as his eyes got big, his stomach 

heaved, and he  exclaimed, " LORD HAVE MERCY!"  I can't give you 

Cyanide to kill your husband!
  That's against the law.  I'll lose my 

I'll get thrown into jail and that will be the end of it. 
Absolutely not!   
Under no circumstances whatsoever. You CANNOT 

have any Cyanide."
The lady, with exquisite precision, slowly reached into her 

purse and pulled out a  picture of her husband in bed with 
the  pharmacist's wife.   She handed it over to him. 

The pharmacist studied the picture for a few seconds, swallowed 

and  replied, 

 " You didn't tell me you had a prescription."