Thinking about Step Eight
"Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all."
Step 8: Defective relations with others have nearly always been the immediate cause of our woes. Taking a look backward and try to discover where we have been at fault; next we make a vigorous attempt to repair the damage we have done.
"The first part of the Eighth Step is neither difficult to understand nor hard to go through with. As a matter of fact, if we have written out our Fourth Step inventory, we may already have the list of persons we have harmed." Grapevine in 1967. "Some of the most common amends are with people we owe money: wives, parents, children, relatives, and friends we has mistreated, employers, employees and business associates we have harmed."
When making an amends we do not need to crawl or go on about how sorry we are, just simply need to acknowledge that we are at fault and humbly ask them to pardon, and walk away without false pride. They, too, may have been at fault, but we are not their God nor their conscience. This step does not need to be tedious nor a burdensome undertaking.
Webster's New International Dictionary defines the word amend:
"To make better, especially in character: to repair, to restore; to free from faults, put right, correct.
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