It's been that kinda week, so apologies for getting this out so late!

As you probably know by now, I am always talking about how the inner reflects the outer and vice versa. With all the dis-information, misinformation, manipulation, disclosure, alternative narratives, and overt and covert censorship in all forms of media that seem to be getting more confusing and extreme by the day, knowing what is true or who to believe can be overwhelming to say the least. So we might want to clean up our own inner messaging and make sure we know fact from fiction in our own lives, as I believe our individual mental pollution and propaganda are part of the problem. Today's PGG is a new essay that expanded on my Instagram from yesterday that I hope helps you with that part of the equation.

The PGG Video of the Week offers other ways to deal with overwhelm, stress and anxiety and this week's Instagram post is about when the world looks dark, to look at a flower - or you can just feel the vibes from a jedi-master-in-the-making with this IG story of Baby Yoda for a little chuckle ;)

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Lilies, Loops & Lies

Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin.... Matthew 6:28
Whatever occupies your mind the most becomes your god. Worries, if indulged, develop into idols. Anxiety gains a life of its own, parasitically infesting your mind. ~ Sarah Young

There is no need to seek the truth - just put a stop to your opinions! ~ Seng-Ts’an

I, like most humans, have my days of self-doubt and worry, lamenting about the past or catastrophizing the future, tying myself into all sorts of knots and getting into quite an unrelenting tizzy. However, because I practice what I preach and read what I have written, I have developed a certain level of self-awareness, self-regulation, trust and acceptance, so I don't experience those kinds of days often. But when they do occur, boy are they doozies!

I have finally noticed though that when this happens, it's pretty much always the same things that come up and cascade into a ridiculous (but not in the moment!) shame spiral, thinking I am worthless, haven't accomplished anything, that I am literally alone on this Earth, etc., etc. I realized when this happens it's like a switch is turned on that puts me into a very particular loop that keeps going 'round and around. And because it's a loop with well-worn grooves, it's hard to get out of and you feel like it's reality. But it's NOT. (BTW, there is neuroscience about this, but not my job to explain here....)

When such states arise, my go-to tools to release and get myself out of that condition like crying, movement, or sounding don't always cut it. When you're specifically dealing with a deeply ingrained loop, what I discovered is that you can't be gentle - you need to forcefully INTERRUPT THE LOOP. Just saying something like "NO, I'm interrupting the loop!" seems to work. You need to short-circuit that sh*you-know-what.

You have to be tough. Don’t be fooled by your mind with all the stories it’s making up, the judgements it has about you and others, the past it’s holding onto, the present it’s trying to control and the future it thinks it can plan. When coming purely from our ego or wounded child, they are all LIES!

So like my aforementioned interrupting the loop tactic, when these falsities and self-sabotaging stories come up, just forcefully say - out loud, with force (and maybe even a finger point) - LIES! LIES! LIES! Yes, I realize this might sound and feel a bit odd, but if it works, who cares?! Sometimes our system needs a shock to get results and break out of a pattern. I would prefer to be the shock to my own system thank you very much....

No matter what the scenario you are dealing with, be sure to stick with your breath, be here now, tune into Nature. A tree doesn’t complain, a bird doesn’t compare, a flower knows it will bloom and one day whither and die but thinks no less of itself at any point in the journey. None of them worry.

Trust yourself, the deepest part of yourself, which is connected to something greater than yourself. Do something every day to help you access that more and more, as it takes effort, attention and practice - until it doesn’t.

We need these reminders often (well, at least I do!) to discern what is true and what is false about ourselves and the world around us. Remember who you are.

Not sure how to separate the wheat from the chaff in that mischievous mind of yours? Give me a buzz and I'll help call out the lies and liberate you from your loop, so you can become that beautiful peaceful loving lily you were born to be.

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