October 2017

24/7 Hotline:
(516) 542-0404
Every Home A Safe Home
Thursday, October 19, 2017

This year's Gala honored 
Sandy Oliva
for her 32 years of service as Executive Director and her commitment
to our community. 
Together, we raised $232,000
to continue that commitment!
 The David S. Taub Award was accepted by Paul Fleishman, Vice President/ Public Affairs and Dale Cole, Community Affairs/ Project Manager on behalf of Newsday Charities.
The Safe Centers Board Of Advisors Were Recognized for their years of Support and Commitment to The Agency.
Thank you to everyone
who helped us celebrate the accomplishments  
and bright future of The Safe Center!
Special Needs Fund
In Honor of Sandy Oliva
To commemorate her many years of dedication to keeping those in our communities   safe and free from harm, The Safe Center has established The Sandy Oliva Special Needs Fund in cooperation with The Judith C. White Foundation who has generously pledged $5,000 a year for five years to begin this fund .    
Donations desi gnated to this fund will directly support expenses incurred annuall y to purchase basic necessities for Safe Center clients and their families.  
Approximately 4,400 survivors and families are served by The Safe Center annually.  
Being able to assure the victim that we can provide such support to them and their family during a difficult time is so important to the overall healing process.
If you would like to pay tribute by making a d onation in honor of
Sandy's incredible work with victims of violence and abuse, please contact
Francine Medaglia at 516.465.4748 for more information
or visit to make an online donation 

Please indicate Sandy Oliva Special Needs Fund in the memo line.
Restoring Hope: In Their Words
We are excited  
to share this video featuring four remarkable stories of  
from survivors  
at The Safe Center.  

You won't want to miss this powerful project created by
Dynamics of Domestic Violence

This Power and Control Wheel shows the primary tactics and behaviors abusers use to
gain and maintain POWER & CONTROL in their relationships.

The wheel highlights the connection of physical violence to other forms of abuse.
The Annual   Nassau County Domestic Violence Awareness Ceremony presented by The Nassau County Executive's Task Force on Family Violence and The Safe Center was hosted at Hofstra University  on October 11th .
The event aims to educate the community about the realities of domestic violence, honor those fighting against it, and offer resour ces for those affected by these issues.  
Our red "silent witnesses" represent  
those lost to domestic violence.  

Students stop to read these stories.
His resiliency, streng th and continued support from The Safe Center have all helped him on his journey of healing. Today, he recognizes the importance of this support and hopes to be an advocate and a voice for young people experiencing abuse.
Anthony recalls a specific time where he recently reconnected with an old neighbor. The neighbor admitted that in their town, they knew of the torment that Anthony and his family were undergoing,
but chose not to say anything.  The takeaway, says Anthony,

How can you tell if your relationship is abusive, as opposed to just challenging, difficult, or even unhealthy?

Experts agree that abusive relationships all have one thing in common: an unequal distribution of power between the abuser and the partner they are abusing.

Abusers work to gain and then maintain power and control over their victims and can accomplish this with a variety of tactics, physical violence being only one.
Often victims blame themselves, thinking if they changed their behavior, things would improve. That is a common misconception in an abusive relationship, and one that the abuser relies on to continue to take power away from his victim.

Here are some common things that may occur in an abusive relationship.
If you are experiencing any of these things, your partner may be harming you. There is help.
An Abusive Partner:
  • Calls you names, puts you down often, tries to humiliate you
  • Hits you, intimidates you, threatens you
  •  Isolates you from family, friends or work
  • Shows unreasonable jealousy or possessiveness
  • Withholds or restricts your access to money
  • Forces you to have sex or perform sexual acts you do not consent to 

This is not a complete list of the dynamics of Intimate Partner Abuse.    

Why Does He Do That:Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
is an excellent resource if you're trying to find out more about the dynamics of abusive relationships.

Mr. Bancroft was the keynote speaker at our 2017 Many Faces of Family Violence conference and is regarded as one of the foremost authorities in the United States on Intimate Partner Abuse. 

The Safe Center was featured on News 12 Long Island
speaking on the  #METOO social media movement
in support of sexual assault and harassment survivors

The Safe Center was proud to participate in #OneIslandGivingDay   on October 26th 
Along with over 90 Long Island-based Nonprofits working together to create a stronger Island for ALL Long Islanders.

THANK YOU to our friends, families supporters  
and champions for helping us raise $3,328 .  
Splashes Of Hope
Thanks to the generosity of
Astoria Bank
3 beautiful hand-painted murals were installed this mon th at The Safe Center.

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" It is our hope that these local, sooth ing scenes  
bring c omfort to all that view them. "    
A Look At Our Month
Walking for Harmony...
On October 22nd 
We joined our partners  
at their annual walkathon against  
Domestic Violence at Eisenhower Park 

provides culturally sensitive and linguistically diverse services such as counseling, connections to resource information, referrals and emergency assistance to survivors of domestic violence.
Domestic Violence Awareness Month may have ended,
but our fight to eliminate family and sexual violence continues
November 2017
Enough Abuse Training: Strategies for Your Family and Community      
  November 8th
at The Safe Center. Open to the public.

Holiday Gift Card Drive 
  Going On Now
We are requesting gift cards in $25 denominations
or monetary donations for purchase of gift cards.
Send gift cards to:
The Safe Center
15 Grumman Road West
Bethpage, NY 11714
ATTN: Debbie Lyons

Champions* for Charity Shopping Benefit
  November 30th - December 3rd
Participating Americana Manhasset and select Wheatley Plaza stores  
and restaurants will donate 25% of designated full-price pre-tax
purchases to the local or national charity of the customer's choice.

*Champion Card is complimentary but required.
Already registered in 2016? No need to sign up again.  
If you need to replace a lost card, or forgot your account number,  
please contact: Fran Medaglia. 
Shop Well & Do Good
 Going On Now through August 31st    
Fortunoff Fine Jewelry will donate
20% of your pre-tax purchase to The Safe Center.
Use code SAFE17 in store or online.

  November 28th is Giving Tuesday.
Make a donation In Honor of Sandy's Retirement.
Money donated on this day will go towards The Sandy Oliva Special Needs Fund.

Nassau County Women's Bar Association
 Now Until December 4th
Make a donation to the Nassau County Women's Bar Association Annual Mittens Drive.
Net proceeds from this event support legal services offered to adult and child victims of abuse.

December 2017 
The Magic of Winter Shopping Event  
 December 7th
Come shop with us at Port Pop-Up Boutique on December 7th from 6-9pm.  
A percentage of your full-price pre-tax purchase will be donated to The Safe Center
Port Pop-Up Boutique is located at:  
142 Main Street
Port Washington, NY

Toiletries and Clothing Drive
 This Holiday Season
Our client families are in desperate need.
The Safe Center is requesting toiletries, supplies/paper goods, clothing,  
baby care items, and cleaning supplies, to be given to the families we serve.  
We cannot accept any used items or clothing.  
For questions or to donate,
please contact our Housing Case Manager, Joanne ,