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VOLUME XVI ISSUE NO.3 | MARCH 2024

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Breakthrough
"Productive insight; clear (often sudden) understanding of a complex situation." Free Dictionary

Pop the bubble of conditioned thinking and emerge into the creative realm of "no absolutes," continuous change, uncertainty and unlimited possibilities.

Then, there can be innovation, adaptation and optimal performance.
Performance and Open-minded Mindfulness
Open-minded:  questioning everything, accepting diversity and uncertainty.  

Mindful:  consciously aware; concentrated. 

Foundation for blending process, project, engagement and knowledge management into a cohesive approach to optimize performance.

Manage Distractions to Keep Your Focus

By George Pitagorsky

“The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.” — Bruce Lee



A primary task of getting along well in life, and finding optimal wellness, no matter who you are or what you do, is to direct attention and focus.

If you intend to improve your well-being and the well-being of those around you, you take on the challenge of overcoming distractions and paying focused attention to self-awareness (your behavior, and your inner workings), and to the people and things around you. This attention expresses itself as emotional and social intelligence. It fuels optimal wellness, healthy relationships, and optimal performance.

 

Attention, Focus, and Distraction

Attention is picking out an object, it might be a task, thought, sound, sensation, or anything that you see, feel, etc., while ignoring distractions. When we pay attention to something we focus on it.

 

While paying attention there will be distractions. Thoughts, sounds, sensations, or anything that you see, feel, taste, or hear are potential distractions. Your attention can be drawn to any of them. The most and least pleasant get the greatest attention. Neutral ones are ignored.

 

If you are attracted to or repulsed by a potential distraction, it becomes a distraction.

When distracted, you lose focus on your previous point of attention. It can return naturally or when you intentionally bring it back. Or you may never go back to it.

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Coaching – Wellness, Mindfulness, Self-Awareness, Performance


If you feel that you can be happier and more effective but something is in the way, consider coaching by George Pitagorsky.

 

Whether it is a session or two, or a longer or more structured program, George can help you breakthrough the barriers and transform you life.


Schedule an appointment to explore whether a coaching relationship is right for you.

www.self-awareliving.com


Check out my book The Peaceful Warrior's Path: Optimal Wellness through Self-Aware Living

Managing Distractions

If losing your focus doesn't matter, then just go with the flow, and let any distraction become the object of attention, to be replaced by another and another, as one thought triggers another and a new sound triggers other thoughts, and on and on.

 

If staying focused is important to you, then manage distractions.

Managing distractions is the key to being focused.


It is a life skill that increases your ability to perform optimally, have healthy relationships, enjoy a meal or performance, and be well and happy.

 

Commit to cultivating intentional focus. That means committing to making conscious choices when you are faced with a distraction.

 

Here's an example:

During your day there are activities - tasks, conversations, meditations, whatever.


Let's say that you choose to work on cleaning up a mess. You have started the work, intending to dedicate at least an hour to it.


The phone pings, a text has been received. If you heard the ping, it is a distraction. It has momentarily taken your attention from the work. At that moment, you can just bring your attention back to your cleaning.



Or you can choose to check to see who texted you and what it was about. If you do that, you become more distracted from your task. Even if you don't look at your phone, and you think about who it might be from, your focus on the cleaning is no longer “laser-like”.

 

If you decide to answer the text and get involved in a conversation, you are even more distracted from your task. You are now focused on the conversation, as long as it keeps you more interested in it than in some new distraction, including the guilt about not doing the cleaning.

 

When your conversation ends, you can go back to cleaning or let a new distraction become your next point of attention.

 

If you are committed to an activity and motivated to focus on it, you will be more likely to stay with it if you can.

 

Can You Stay Focused?

To stay focused, you need mindfulness to make you aware that you are distracted, the concentration power to bring your attention to where you want it to be, and the resolve to do it.

 

That resolve is motivated by the knowledge that when you are focused you can perform more effectively, more thoroughly enjoy pleasure, and be better able to work through challenges.

 

To stay focused requires mindfulness and concentration. You can improve both by using meditation techniques. At first, it requires lots of patient effort. After a while, mindfulness and concentration become useful habits, until mindful awareness becomes natural and effortless.

 

More on that in a future article. Or if you can't wait, go get my book "The Peaceful Warrior's Path: Optimal Wellness through Self-Aware Living" https://a.co/d/97LpYib. Chapter 23 Training the Mind: Meditation explores attention, focus, mindfulness, and concentration. Chapter 24 Exercise: Meditation Practice offers techniques.

 

 



Emotional Support for Ukraine  
       
To support people experiencing the horrors taking place in Ukraine, we have published and wish to distribute freely

"How to Manage Difficult Emotions and How to Support Others"

in English and Ukrainian. Please pass the toolkit on to anyone who can benefit from it or can distribute it further.


Emotional Support for Ukraine is a small ad hoc group of coaches seeking to help relieve the suffering of those under fire, refugees, and helpers across the world. 
How to be Happy Even When You Are Sad, Mad or Scared:

How to be happy...How to be Happy Even When You Are Sad, Mad or Scared is available on Amazon.com. It is a book for children of all ages (including those in adult bodies). Buy it for the children in your life so they can be better able to “feel and deal” - feel and accept their emotions and deal with them in a way that avoids being driven by them. You can order the book at https://www.amazon.com/How-Happy-Even-When-Scared/dp/1072233363
Performance and Open-minded Mindfulness
Open-minded: questioning everything, accepting diversity and uncertainty. 
 
Mindful: consciously aware; concentrated. 

Foundation for blending process, project, engagement and knowledge management into a cohesive approach to optimize performance.

By George Pitagorsky

Success is measured in how well and how regularly you meet expectations. But what exactly are expectations, and how do you effectively manage them when multiple priorities and personalities are involved?
Using the case study of a Project Manager coordinating an organizational transition, this Managing Expectations book explores how to apply a mindful, compassionate, and practical approach to satisfying expectations in any situation. George Pitagorsky describes how to make sure expectations are rational, mutually understood, and accepted by all those with a stake in the project. This process relies on blending a crisp analytical approach with the interpersonal skills needed to negotiate win-win understandings of what is supposed to be delivered, by when, for how much, by who, and under what conditions.

Managing Conflict in Projects
By George Pitagorsky

Managing Conflict in Projects: Applying Mindfulness and Analysis for Optimal Results by George Pitagorsky charts a course for identifying and dealing with conflict in a project context.

Pitagorsky states up front that conflict management is not a cookbook solution to disagreement-a set of prescribed actions to be applied in all situations. His overall approach seeks to balance two aspects of conflict management: analysis based on a codified process and people-centered behavioral skills.

The book differentiates conflict resolution and conflict management. Management goes beyond resolution to include relationship building that may serve to avoid conflict or facilitate resolution if it occurs.
 

The Zen Approach to Project Management 
By George Pitagorsky

Projects are often more complex and stressful than they need to be. Far too many of them fail to meet expectations. There are far too many conflicts. There are too few moments of joy and too much anxiety. But there is hope. It is possible to remove the unnecessary stress and complexity. This book is about how to do just that. It links the essential principles and techniques of managing projects to a "wisdom" approach for working with complex, people-based activities.


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