Manners & Social Skills: Not in Public School
October 14, 2020
In This Issue:
Mercy Every Minute  
Positive Socialization at Home

The very reason we decided to homeschool came long before we had any children of our own. Richard and I were Sunday School leaders for many of those years, and what we saw changed our minds forever. There was such a distinct difference between the children of the Christian families who chose public school for their children and those who were homeschooled. The homeschooled children were polite, engaged, Bible-smart, helpful, courteous, and had an innocence that stayed with them through high school.

The Christian children who were public schooled had a callousness, a loss of innocence, were always “tired,” not engaged, and didn’t know their Bibles well and didn’t care. It was quite a shocking difference for us as we watched this play out for several years. In fact, it was the influence of positively socialized homeschooled children that convinced us to home educate (See My Homeschool Story on YouTube).

It’s no surprise that homeschooled children are different, and looking at the culture around us, gladly so. Research tells us that homeschooled children seem to make the best citizens, employees, and basically well-rounded adults (www.NHERI.org). 

It all starts with the vast amount of positive socialization they receive during their home educated years. It’s no wonder that by the time these children finish high school, they are sought after by colleges, employers, communities and churches alike. They are sought after primarily because of their positive socialization skills. They study hard, work hard, are interested in people, and serve others.

The term “socialization” is defined as “adopting society’s behavior patterns” (WordNet® 3.0 by Princeton University) and “conforming with its values” (American Heritage Stedman’s Medical Dictionary) no matter how anti-social or wicked that society is. We have a much higher authority than society to guide us. We have the very Words of God on the subject. What does the Bible say about socialization? 

“He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed” (Proverbs 13:20).

“Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this . . . to keep himself unspotted from the world” (James 1:27). 

Second Corinthians reminds us to come out from among the “society” and be a separate, holy people unto our great and mighty God. To do this, we cannot and should not conform to our evil society. It is imperative that we keep our children positively and Biblically socialized, which is most definitely not in conformance with our surrounding culture. They will continue to be the best socialized children out there if they continue to be grounded in and surrounded by the good society of Godly parents and founded on the Word of God.

Socialization is what homeschooling is all about as our children learn to impact their world. Our society needs them! We teach our children to give of themselves, care for their neighbor, love their God, and serve their community all in a polite manner. We are doing what’s best for a better society by keeping them Home. Where They Belong.

~Deborah

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The Plain and Simple Truth

Hey, Mom, there's a pervasive thinking that goes something like this: kids who spend their time surrounded by a bunch of other kids learn better social skills than those who do not. Of course, that is soooo not true!

I can tell you from firsthand experience that homeschooled kids have better social skills and manners than those raised in a school setting.

I have the pleasure of speaking all over the country to homeschool groups, and occasionally they ask me to speak to the teens. While that terrifies me and takes me to a place where I feel way less comfortable, I'm always intrigued by the audience I speak to.

Remembering what I was like as a teen, I'm blown away by the teen audience participation and the thoughtful comments after I finish speaking.

"Thank you, Mr. Wilson. That was a great talk."
"I had a point of clarification on point two. . ."
"I was challenged by your presentation, Mr. Wilson."
"You were great, Mr. Wilson."

I've also had the opportunity (I didn't say pleasure this time) of speaking to non-homeschool teen groups. Almost without exception, there is at least one disruptive teen in the crowd . . . and afterward, when I finish speaking, no one says anything except an occasional fist bump coupled with a "Dude."

So here's the takeaway: Your kids are amazing and have great social skills and manners that most don't BECAUSE they were taught at home . . . and BECAUSE they were not surrounded by a bunch of teens all day long.

That's the truth . . . plain and simple.

Be real,
Todd

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Lee Binz, The HomeScholar
Manners and Social Skills for the Win 

When my kids were in third and fifth grade, I felt like a failure. My children had horrible social skills. One was a bully. The other was painfully shy, quiet, and withdrawn. One teacher said, “You shouldn't homeschool because he is already lacking social skills.” Yet every public-school report card barely mentioned academics and focused on my children’s socialization. I knew I could solve the problem. 

I homeschooled them, and that's how they learned social skills. 

I remember my first day of homeschooling. We went skating for PE during homeschool skate hours. As I watched the middle of the rink, a toddler fell down and started to cry. No mother in sight, the entire group of teens on the rink suddenly swooped in to comfort and care for the fallen child. I was shocked to see teenagers helping a young child. 

Social skills are caught more than taught. 

Instead of learning the norms of elementary school kids, homeschooling taught my children how to interact with everyone appropriately. People often confuse knowledge of pop culture with socialization. However, true socialization is consistent character. 

Manners and socialization matter most in adulthood. 

Fast forward to senior year of high school. My children had both earned full-tuition scholarships to their first-choice university. Of 110 applicants, two of the ten chosen were my homeschoolers. They were invited to the competition because of academic skills, but that's not why they were chosen. 

They were chosen for full-tuition scholarships because of socialization. 

During the competition, all the applicants were carefully observed for socialization. How did they interact when nobody was looking? Could they relate to both students and staff well? Could they demonstrate manners in the dining hall and with others? My homeschooled children earned $184,000 in college scholarships because they were well-behaved and properly socialized. 

Students learn manners and social skills with consistent daily practice. 

One benefit of homeschooling is our ability to provide consistent encouragement and feedback throughout the day, gradually shaping and molding behavior over time. Instead of mere minutes each day, we can provide instruction on manners and social skills every day, which is of course why homeschooling is exhausting . . . and worth it!


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Insulin is like a truck that carries the sugar out of your blood stream and delivers it elsewhere. It cleans up and delivers after every meal you eat. Insulin has to do this because if our blood sugar is too high for too long, it can cause our bodies to shut down. Therefore, if you eat too many blood sugar spiking carbohydrates, your pancreas will have no choice but to overreact and send out large amounts of insulin to take care of the big mess of extra sugar in your blood. For the first time in history, children at a young age are being diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes used to be called adult-onset diabetes. But now it is becoming more common in children and teens, due to an increase in childhood obesity. And left untreated, people with type-2 diabetes often have blood sugar levels above the safe zone mentioned earlier.

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