One of the great joys of being a host couple for a Marriage in Christ seminar is telling stories about the work of the Holy Spirit in our marriage. It is so helpful for us that about once a week we ask, “if we were hosting a seminar this week, what story would we tell?” Our stories are usually about where he had been at work, sort of like seeing the Holy Spirit in the rear view mirror. However, something new and rather delightful happened the other day.
Adella and I had gotten a little out of sync with each other. I was annoyed with something she was doing or saying (I’m sure it was trivial because I can’t recall what it was). Just before I said the wrong thing, I heard the Holy Spirit ask me, “What kind of story do you want to tell? How I reconciled with my wife? or how I avoided a potentially hurtful argument?” I was tempted to say, “give me a minute, Lord,” but I decided that I wanted to tell a story about how we avoided a potentially hurtful argument. So, I heard the Holy Spirit say, “then don’t hurt her with your words.” That broke the tension I was experiencing, and I laughed. I experienced the Holy Spirit in “real time” not just the past tense.
Since then, when we are tempted to be cross with each other, we ask with a smile “what kind of story do we want to tell?” That is our new code for how to diffuse an argument!
In the Pentecost PTA we are experimenting with a new idea.
We have inserted stories that attempt to answer the question
what does the work of the Holy Spirit look like in our marriage?
We have supplied some questions to help you come up with your own stories. We encourage you to share the stories with others. It is a great way to remain accountable and intentional and to witness to the Lord.
Bill Wacker, Director