** From The Positive Perspective **
May, 2022 Knowing Your Family History

We all are familiar with knowing our medical history, such as who had heart disease and who had issues getting pregnant, but do you really know your ancestors? Do you know who worked side jobs as a carpenter’s assistant so that they could make enough money to pay for a family vacation? Do you know who was the inventor in the family? How about, who in your family was on the city council and started the, now famous, volunteering program in your town?

As part of my practice, I like to know where people come from. I ask about how they grew up and what was possibly unique about their situation. Knowing what others had to experience to get where they are is so important. It is another puzzle piece to figuring out who we are today and how we got here. 

As part of my personal life, my husband and I both felt it important to know about our ancestors. I have an inventor in my background. Would not have known that without my research. Do you know what profession your grandparents had early in life? My grandfather was an accountant. He used to take payments of food or services when he would help people with their taxes, etc., during the depression when people had no money. 

I encourage you to speak to those in your family that have the wisdom of family history. Write their stories down. Learn about your heritage.  When did your family first come to the United States? How did they get here? Before it’s too late, learn these stories so that the next generation can benefit from the information. 

There are great books out there with 100’s of questions you can ask your elder family members. How did grandpa propose to grandma? Where did you go on your first date? So many great conversation starters that create a memory for a lifetime. Also using the ancestry websites to trace your past and see actual documents that your relatives signed. How did our last name get from that to what it is today? 

So much discovery to be found. You are worth the effort in finding out where you come from. I would enjoy hearing about your journey if you choose to share.

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Stay well,

Maryellen Dabal, MA, LMFT
Quote of the Month

 "There is no king who has not had a slave among his ancestors, and no slave who has not had a king among his." — by Helen Keller, an American author, disability rights advocate, political activist and lecturer.

Source: www.liveabout.com
Fact of the Month

We're all 99.5 percent alike.

Of the 3 billion base pairs in the human genome, only 0.5% are unique to us. While that 0.5% is still what makes us unique, it means we're all more similar than we are different.

Source: Ancestry.com

You're worth the effort!!!!
I welcome the opportunity to help you work through current issues and to look at your future with a sense of hope and purpose.
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I welcome feedback regarding the newsletter or questions about my practice. I can be reached at maryellen@dabalmft.com. I cannot, however, give advice through email. For more information on my practice please visit www.dabalmft.com

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