I was a stranger and you invited me in..." 
Matthew 25:35 NIV

The NATH/Frederick Place Board of Directors are looking for volunteers to assist in a fundraiser to raise donations for and awareness of Frederick Place. The E-Cycle event will be held on Friday, June 21 from 8:00 am until 6:00 pm and Saturday, June 22 from 9:00 am until noon , at Charter NEX Films in Rhinelander. This event collects electronics that are no longer being used from around the community and recycles them. Frederick Place will receive 25% profit from this two-day event. Last year, we raised $4357.00.
 
We have 3 to 4 hour shifts available and need individuals who can lift at least 50lbs to fill some spots. We are looking for 13 volunteers for each of five, 3/4-hour shifts.
For additional information, please see and share the attached letter to businesses, informational poster, and the

SignUpGenius link to easily volunteer. 
Thank you in advance for any assistance you’re able to provide!
Are you looking for part-time employment and would like to make a difference in the lives of those experiencing homelessness? Please share with others who may be interested.
This position will typically include two to three shifts from 5:00 a.m. to 11 a.m. per week, along with typically every other weekend, 5 a.m. to 5 p.m. You would be working with a great team who are flexible and dedicated to the residents.
Director Corner
by Tammy Modic
I had the privilege of speaking to the third grade classes at Pelican School this month. Their last unit of study for reading and writing had a theme of homeless issues. They wanted to hear what homelessness looks like here in Rhinelander. As a former elementary principal and school social worker, it was fun to be able to speak with these students.
 
We talked about what they believed a homeless person looks like. Their descriptions were what one expects:
    Someone with dirty, raggy clothing
    Someone sitting on the street holding a sign
    Someone sleeping on the sidewalk
    Someone with a shopping cart full of bags
 
I then asked them what made them think of a homeless person like that, and they responded:
    From TV & movies
    I was in New York, Chicago, etc.
 
Then I explained that they were correct that the people they described from the “big cities” or “TV” do exist, but that it happens more in “urban” areas. We then talked about Rhinelander not being a “big” city, and that most of the people who called Frederick Place home are what I call “couch surfing.” They stay on people's couches for a short time and then move to another couch until they run out of couches.
 
Our next topic was about what they thought might cause someone to be homeless, and they brought up:
    Drugs & alcohol
    Divorce
    Lost job
    Accident with lots of bills
    People taking their money
    House fire
 
These kids were spot on, and we talked about the fact that although we have had over 700 people call Frederick Place home, that there are tens of thousands of people who are just one car breakdown, one job loss, or one medical emergency away from being homeless.
 
We followed up with the question of what the people who stay at Frederick Place do all day. We talked about residents having homework to do, and that just like teachers, the staff can give them the knowledge but can't do the work for them. We also talked about their “lights out” and “check in” time being important, because just like kids, if they slept all day they wouldn’t get anything done.
 
What an amazing group of thirds graders this was! Each of the three classrooms was well behaved and had excellent questions and insight into the topic of homelessness. The classes are all doing projects and will be sharing as they are completed. Students in Ms Pohnl’s classroom wrote letters to me. These letters touched my heart and made me smile. I wish I could share all of them with you, but instead I have picked a few to share. As the other projects are completed and shared with me, I will put them in future NATH Notes. Watch for them later this summer.
 
Dear Mrs. Modic,
Thank you for telling us about the Frederick Place and how homeless people get the chance to cut some slack off of being on the streets. A thing that I learned was follow the rules or you must leave which I think of as a very important rule. And I also learned that you only get three months to stay, try and get a job, or do some chores. I am very pleased to learn about this amazing logic and how I think of the rules are a total MUST and if I never heard this logic before I would have never existed.
Sincerely,
G
 
Dear Mrs. Modic,
Thank you for sharing that the homeless have a place to stay with you. I learned that you help them with food. I also learned that you feel good about what you do. I like it so much.
Sincerely,
J
 
Dear Mrs. Modic,
Thank you for coming and telling us about Frederick Place. One interesting fact is that there are no pets allowed, only fish and the dog named Quincy. I also learned that only 16 is the max for people in the house. I would give food if they need some and I would donate money.
Sincerely,
E

Dear Mrs. Modic,
Thank you for coming and talking about the Frederick Place. One interesting thing that I learned throughout your magnificent presentation is that people can only stay for 90 days and that only 16 people can stay at a time. I also learned that they have to do chores and homework to stay. I thought your presentation was very interesting and very fascinating.
Sincerely,
T
 
Dear Mrs. Modic,
Thank you for teaching us about the Frederick Place and about how you give stuff to other people. I thought that it was cool that you taught us about how poverty works. One interesting fact I learned is about how people help out the Frederick Place with food for the people and for homes for people too. Another thing I learned is that you help the community and people and that is so nice to do. I also have a thing to share with you. I like to do is help people and help the community like you guys do for people.
Sincerely,
K
 
Dear Mrs. Modic,
Thank you for coming to my classroom. One interesting thing I learned that you are a community to help the homeless. I also learned that you like helping the homeless. I enjoyed you coming. I hope you come back. Or I will want to visit you someday at 204 Frederick Place.
Sincerely,
S
 
P.S. I wish I could share them all with you.
 
Thank you, Pelican third grade teachers, for letting me come to speak to your classes. If anyone else would like me to speak to a class, club, business or group please contact me at 715-482-7727 or nathnorthwoods@gmail.com
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Board of Directors Corner
Tracey Barnes
Board Director

How long have you lived in the Northwoods?
I have lived in Rhinelander my entire life and graduated as a proud Hodag from Rhinelander High School. I met my husband, Bill in 1991 and we raised our two daughters here as well.

How long with NATH – Frederick Place?
I was employed with NATH/Frederick Place for several years as the Community Outreach and Fundraising Coordinator. More recently, I was invited to join the board this past Fall.

What made you decide to get involved with NATH – Frederick Place?
I enjoy volunteering and feel the mission of NATH/Frederick Place is a comfortable fit for my beliefs to assist others in need.

What committees are you involved with?
I am on the Fundraising Committee along with assisting in the outdoor beautification projects around the yard of the shelter.

What is your favorite memory while you have been involved with NATH – Frederick Place?
My most vivid memory was several years ago at our annual golf outing. The predicted weather was for soaking rains and thunderstorms. Arriving at Northwood, we were certain we’d have to cancel as we watched the radar in the pro-shop for an hour ahead of our start. Amazingly enough, the clouds parted and while it rained on and off most of the day, we were able to finish the outing with a great meal, raffles and fun had by all.
Ginger Chrobak
Board Director

How long have you lived in the Northwoods?   
Since March, 2003

How long with NATH – Frederick Place? 
Since before NATH was formed. Housing Focus met for a number of years investigating ways to work with homelessness in this area. NATH was then formed to be the parent organization and Frederick Place was chosen as the name of the facility.

What made you decide to get involved with NATH – Frederick Place? 
The realization that the closest shelter was in Wausau and that there were individuals and families living under bridges and in cars.


What committees are you involved with? 
Finance and Nominating

What is your favorite memory while you have been involved with NATH – Frederick
Place? 
A group of men from Trinity were working on the outside elevator. One of the men had brought his son. The child went up to the door to call his friend to come out to play. He attended school with a child living at Frederick Place. It was wonderful to see this 'homeless' child playing outside with his classmate. At that moment Frederick Place was his home.
Tribute Corner

In Memory of

Bill Miller
Harry Kroll

Past Events




We held our Budding Artist fundraiser with local artist Thomas Barnett. We created a beautiful oil painting. We raised over $300 with this event. Watch for more "Budding Artist" events coming in the next few months.
Partner Corner


Thank you to the Lights of the Northwoods for presenting Tammy Modic with a check towards operations of Frederick Place.
Faces of NATH
by Susan Statezny
Resentment is the “number one” offender. It destroys more alcoholics than anything else.
~ Alcoholics Anonymous page 64

I last talked to Dominic in mid-April. He had drunk dialed Frederick Place looking for some sympathy. I chuckled and informed him that he had called the wrong person, because I don’t buy into the poor me game or, as Robin Williams said in his act, the “poor me…poor me…pour me another drink.” But, being the stubborn ethanol challenged individual he was, Dominic did his best to evoke a hint of sympathy from me. I finally had enough and told him he was going to die if he didn’t quit drinking. He replied, “I know.” I told Dominic, as I had, multiple times, that he had to let go of his anger if he wanted to live. He replied that he wanted to live but couldn’t forgive this person and never would. I told him yet again that he would die if he did not. He replied, “I know.” This dialogue repeated itself for at least ten minutes. It was about the sixth time we had this very chat. He had ceased listening to anything I said and kept repeating himself. I finally became frustrated and concerned so I threatened to have a health and welfare check done on him. He WAS listening! The venom that spewed forth from his mouth through the phone was so forceful I almost hung up on him. I did not because I understood why he reacted the way he did, because I had reacted the same way several times during my active alcoholism. A health and welfare check is one of the most feared occasions in an alcoholic’s life. They can result in a trip to the hospital and detox. Dominic had been to the hospital and detox multiple times in the past few weeks and wasn’t going back. I did not pursue a check because he promised me he would be detoxing the old- fashioned way at his sponsor’s the next day.

During that last phone call, I mentioned Fleur’s passing (If you recall, I wrote about her in April), and he became so angry at me that he accused me of not telling him and hung up on me. Dominic and Fleur were here together in 2017 and rented rooms in the same house when they left. Together they gave me the beautiful wood and metal Serenity Prayer plaque I mentioned in April. They truly cared about each other which is why Dominic was the first person I contacted to share that Fleur had passed away.
I wasn’t upset when he hung up on me. I “got” that he was mad at himself, because I’d done the same thing. I stared at the phone for a while, and it hit me that my friend had given up. I began mourning Dominic that minute.

Dominic was the male version of me in many ways. For that reason, I have an advantage over others because I understood all too well what made him drink. Dominic called Frederick Place home for the first time in 2017. He had recently lost his wife in a car accident. He relocated to Rhinelander from California because he wanted to be geographically closer to one of his sons and grandchildren.

Unfortunately, he quickly found out living with his son was not going to be an option.  In 2018 he lost both of his parents within months of each other, and his biological family all but quit talking to him. He didn’t understand why. In our last call I tried telling him that they were saving themselves just as my family had. People who love an alcoholic eventually get to the point that they just can’t watch a person they love self-destruct anymore. Dominic just couldn’t grasp that because he felt Sober Dominic and Drunk Dominic were one in the same. I tried telling him he was the classic Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde alcoholic, but he did not believe that - even as he was berating his family. Everything had been done TO him, and he was a victim. It is the victim way of thinking that would not allow him to let go of a gargantuan resentment, even though he knew he would die if he did not. Now, to all you normies that sounds somewhat ridiculous. Who wouldn’t forgive someone in order to live? The short answer, in my opinion, is an alcoholic who wants to keep drinking.  We resurrect the painful memories we’ve protected and nurtured and drink to dull the pain, all the while self-righteously exclaiming, “You’d drink like me if you’d lived my life too!” I did that very thing from the day my mom passed away in 1998 until my fifth tour of duty in a treatment center.

With four treatments under my belt, I knew I had to find a way to let go of my anger and resentment toward God for taking my mom away too soon. I knew if I did not, I would continue to drink, and each relapse I’d had thus far had been worse than the one before. I was ready to listen and go to any length to remove that resentment. My counselor gave me two poster-sized pieces of paper to do a collage project which I thought was a stupid waste of time. By the time I filled up both posters, I was no longer thinking it was stupid and meekly asked for more paper. I’m not sure exactly how creating a collage from magazine pictures evoked forgiveness, and I don’t need to know. I just know my resentment toward God was gone. I told Dominic that story and suggested he make a collage. He just laughed.

I tried in vain to explain what forgiveness had given me my sobriety. Dominic said he’d work on it, but he never did. Dominic left Frederick Place abruptly and returned to the apartment he was sure he would be evicted from. That day I knew with 100% certainty he would drink. I still had a little hope he would recover. He had a sponsor who would do anything for him. His sponsor truly cared about Dominic. He had the staff and former housemates of Frederick Place who cared deeply for him. In the end, the people who were currently in his life pulling for him were not enough to save him.

Dominic passed away in his apartment on May 6. Instead of working on his anger and resentment, he switched from beer to vodka. If I know my friend, he was mentally singing the line, “Wine is fine, but whiskey’s quicker. Suicide is slow with liquor,” from Ozzy Osbourne’s “Suicide Solution” while walking to the liquor store.

When I got to work the night of May 6th many residents were inconsolable and feeling guilty that they ignored his multiple calls, because they just couldn’t deal with Drunk Dominic. I did my best to explain that the only person who could have helped Dominic was Dominic, and they should instead remember the Sober Dominic they’d come to love and respect. (He did have 5 months sober prior to leaving here.) The one who made them laugh and would give them the Springsteen inspired, black and white checkered flannel shirt off his back. I reminded them that Dominic knew what would happen if he continued to drink, but he drank anyway. I suggested they look at his passing as a positive event as Dominic was finally at peace. Easy to say but not so easy to do. To promote a sense of closure, Anna decided to plan a memorial. A group of residents and staff met at Hodag Park, did a little grilling, and released balloons. It was a blustery spring day so most of the balloons were out of sight in no time. One, however, remained firmly stuck in a tree. Maybe that was Dominic’s way of saying he was there as stubborn as always. As I was holding my balloon waiting for others to be ready, I thought of the lyrics from the song, “The Secret of the Bottle” by the heavy metal band Jackyl.

I feel better when I'm drinking
It just seems to ease my mind
And all my worries and troubles
They just seem to fade behind

Oh, the secret of the bottle
It may never be known
So I'll raise my glass and propose a toast
And this one (expletive) is for you

I did not talk to Dominic after that phone call. I do not feel guilty for the things I said to him during our last call. I do not feel like I could have done more to help him. I know Dominic understood why I was so hard on him. I cared deeply and had been in his shoes. I am grateful Dominic entered my life in 2017. I miss my friend. I miss our nightly “check-ins” and the laughter that accompanied them. I even miss the way he used to try to get me riled up discussing politics. I am relieved Dominic is finally at peace. However, I do wonder if Dominic would have healed and let go of his anger if, as his case manager, I had made him do a stupid collage he would call a waste of time too.

RIP you little sh*t. You were a blessing to more people than you could ever imagine. 

Thrivent Making a Difference
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Go to Thrivent.com/action team to get started. Here are some questions you may see when applying. What is the need you and your volunteer team want to tackle? How will your volunteer team spread generosity in your community? When will your project take place? How will you use your $250 seed money to make a bigger impact?

Once you submit your application, it’s typically review within a few days. When you project is approved, you will get to customize a hand packed Thrivent action kit based on what your team needs, including promotional banner, Live Generously T-shirts, step by step guides, invitations, thank you notes and a $250 Community Impact Card to use as seed money to get your project off the ground.

Some of the ways you could help NATH/Frederick Place, would be as a sponsor for Summer Raffle, Anniversary Benefit, Harvest Hoedown, Soup for Shelters, Golf Scramble or by preparing a meal or two for the house residents. Any contributions are greatly appreciated.
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Meal Providers
May
Each month many partners in the community donate meals to Frederick Place. This month NATH and Frederick Place thank the following individuals and groups. 
Ali Shoeder
Anna Detienne
Carly Ratliff
Christina & Samantha Coffen
First Congregational UCC - Rhinelander
Frederick Place Residents
Greg and Mary Dahl
Human Service Center
Immanuel Lutheran Church
Inclusa
Jasmine Baker - Ascension
Judy Grimm
Montessori School - St Germain
Nativity Parish Social Concerns Group
Pastor John Kuziej
Pioneer Lake Lutheran Confirmation
Rebecca Mahoney
Rhinelander Café and Pub
SDA Church
St Kunegunda & St Theresa
Trinity Evangelical Lutheran Church - Rhinelander
Xylina Graf & family
Meals Needed
Ever ask how you can help? Become a meal provider for the residents of Frederick Place. There are multiple ways that this can happen.

  1. You can make the meal at home, or pick up something from a local eatery and deliver it to Frederick Place.
  2. You can drop off ingredients for a meal and either staff or residents can cook the meal for the evening meal.
  3. You can bring the ingredients and cook the meal at Frederick Place and then stay and eat dinner with them.

We will call you the week prior to let you know how many residents we currently have at the house and if there are any known allergies. You will normally be cooking for approximately 16 residents and 1 staff member. You can make whatever you would like to make, we ask that you also bring a gallon of milk for dinner as well.
We have changed the way we are having people sign up and will begin to utilize Sign Up Genius for this volunteer endeavor as well. You will find the calendar below, marked with symbols that represent days that need meals. Sign Up Genius with the most updated calendar. If you would like to help out, click on the button below and find a date that will work for you and sign up to bring a meal. It is a way to bless many with one simple act of kindness.