May/June 2024 Newsletter

Cultivating Joy in the Face of Suffering

Participate joyfully in the sorrows of the world.

We cannot cure the world of sorrows, but we can choose to live in joy.

The warrior's approach is to say “yes” to life: “yea” to it all.

Joseph Campbell

Dear Michael,

I've recently returned from an enlightening week in Boone, North Carolina, where I joined my teacher, Thomas HĂĽbl, and two hundred other dedicated students, therapists, and meditators. We immersed ourselves in the intricate and complex layers of individual, ancestral, and collective trauma, recognizing its deep impact on our ability to connect with and influence the world through our commitment to living a healing journey. Our exploration helped us to understand how we can make a positive difference by embracing and exploring our personal, ancestral, and collective trauma through conscious actions, heightened awareness, and embracing what is.

During our discussions in small groups and the larger collective, I was struck by the profound recognition of the Buddha's First Noble Truth: There is suffering. Delving into our own and others' suffering requires courage, but it can initiate a profound journey of exploration and awakening. This excursion can foster deep personal healing and has the power to influence the collective and address our ancestral wounds, which affect us just as the collective impacts us. I left our retreat with the sense that the world's healing is interdependent with our personal healing and growth process.

"The medicine is already within the pain and suffering. Realize it has been there the whole time. To feel the problems of our world is to know its suffering, but this requires compassionate “response-ability.”

Thomas HĂĽbl

Trauma is commonly perceived as a disease, pathology, or brokenness. Still, a shift in perspective reveals it as a testament to our nervous system's profound intelligence and protective capacity. Trauma symptoms, such as tension or numbness in our bodies, reflect unintegrated past experiences. Integration occurs as we learn to be present with whatever arises rather than trying to avoid or overcome trauma triggers and symptoms. By embracing the dissociated parts of ourselves that were suppressed in moments of overwhelming pain when we weren't seen, soothed, felt, or protected, we honor the wisdom of our nervous system and cultivate our healing and integration process.

When we encounter struggles or overwhelming challenges, we often view them as obstacles to our growth. However, these difficulties are not in our way; they are the way forward. By embracing our challenges rather than attempting to bypass or eliminate them, we allow them to teach us what we need and how to integrate them into our history rather than persisting as unresolved and reactivating issues. This integration isn't achieved through deliberate thought, intention, or coercion but by deepening our awareness and experiencing the emotions and overwhelm that our nervous system has shielded us from.

People must become aware of their sensations and how their bodies interact with the world around them to change. Physical self-awareness is the first step in releasing the tyranny of the past.

 Bessel A. van der Kolk

Most of us have physically numbed parts of ourselves to survive overwhelming experiences. The healing process starts with cultivating a felt sense in the body and building emotional awareness, which allows us to connect more deeply with ourselves and others. As Bessel van der Kolk says, “The body keeps the score.” For many of us, there has been a coup where the head has overridden the heart and the body's innate intelligence. By deepening our awareness of the spacious inner body and merging our perception and resolution with our physical and emotional sensations, we increase our capacity for creativity, connection, innovation, and insight.

We can still be connected, even intimate, with those we disagree with.  We must develop this crucial skill to heal the wounds that separate, alienate, and marginalize us from the larger collective. I invite you to begin to practice connecting with and getting to know those who hold vastly different perspectives. Can we listen and open to the sorrows of our world and still be joyful? This is the practice I am cultivating for myself, and I hope you will join me.

If you can accept yourself as you are, then you have the ability to change.

Fritz Perls

I will focus on completing my book this summer, so I will only write every other month. In the fall, I will start new closed groups here in Nevada City and offer another live Relational Intimacy Course sometime in September. It is a beautiful time to visit our little mountain community. I will still be available to work with a few private online sessions if you need support.


Thank you for participating in our programs and our mutual commitment to a world that works for all life.


With love and blessings,

michael

Healing means releasing yourself from the version of you

that you created for survival.

Alice Miller

Video of the Month


The Exercise That Could End Your Suffering


With Oprah and Pema Chodron

The Upshift: The Path to Healing and Evolution on Planet Earth

by Ervin Laszlo


Ervin Laszlo is considered one of our time's greatest thinkers and humanists. His book, The Path to Healing and Evolution on Planet Earth, is an antidote to the pessimism and inaction spreading worldwide. It offers hope amid today's challenges and disruptions.


Laszlo presents two paths: one towards healing and evolution, the other towards crises and chaos. This book serves as a call to action, urging engagement with pressing global issues like war, climate change, poverty, and pandemics. It provides readers with practical guidance for personal and collective transformation, offering inspiration and actionable insights for those seeking to make a difference.

Poetry Corner

For One Who Is Exhausted, a Blessing

By John O'Donohue

When the rhythm of the heart becomes hectic,

Time takes on the strain until it breaks;

Then all the unattended stress falls in

On the mind like an endless, increasing weight.


The light in the mind becomes dim.

Things you could take in your stride before

Now become laborsome events of will.


Weariness invades your spirit.

Gravity begins falling inside you,

Dragging down every bone.


The tide you never valued has gone out.

And you are marooned on unsure ground.

Something within you has closed down;

And you cannot push yourself back to life.


You have been forced to enter empty time.

The desire that drove you has relinquished.

There is nothing else to do now but rest

And patiently learn to receive the self

You have forsaken in the race of days.


At first your thinking will darken

And sadness take over like listless weather.

The flow of unwept tears will frighten you.


You have traveled too fast over false ground;

Now your soul has come to take you back.


Take refuge in your senses, open up

To all the small miracles you rushed through.


Become inclined to watch the way of rain

When it falls slow and free.


Imitate the habit of twilight,

Taking time to open the well of color

That fostered the brightness of day.


Draw alongside the silence of stone

Until its calmness can claim you.

Be excessively gentle with yourself.


Stay clear of those vexed in spirit.

Learn to linger around someone of ease

Who feels they have all the time in the world.


Gradually, you will return to yourself,

Having learned a new respect for your heart

And the joy that dwells far within slow time.

About Michael Stone

Michael Stone is a spiritual author, mentor, shamanic practitioner, radio host, producer, and trauma integration facilitator who co-creates individual and group environments and experiences that support people in transcending the myth of separation, and experiencing deep and profound interconnection with others and all of life. He has been teaching and leading experiential events, classes, teleseminars and workshops on Organizational Development, Embodied Shamanism, Moving Meditation, Mysticism, Relational Intimacy, Personal Growth, Trauma Integration and Spiritual Fulfillment for over 40 years. www.WellofLight.com

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