MAY 2019
Greetings!

MY MOTHER KEPT A GARDEN
My Mother kept a garden,
a garden of the heart,
She planted all the good things
that gave my life its start. 
She turned me to the sunshine
and encouraged me to dream,
Fostering and nurturing
the seeds of self-esteem... 
And when the winds and rain came,
she protected me enough-
But not too much because she knew
I'd need to stand up strong and tough. 
Her constant good example
always taught me right from wrong-
Markers for my pathway
that will last a lifetime long. 
I am my Mother's garden.
I am her legacy-
And I hope today she feels the love
reflected back from me. 
~ Unknown

Join us for Mother’s tea on Thursday, May 9 at 3:30! Wishing all our amazing mothers a HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!! Thank you for allowing us to be part of your child’s life!!
CENTER HAPPENINGS
FUN DAYS IN MAY
Tuesday, May 7 - Bring in favorite animal!
Thursday, May 9 - Mother’s Day Tea!
Monday, May 13 - Hat Day!
Thursday, May 16 - Wear your favorite color!
Wednesday May 22 - Favorite Sports Team!
Thursday, May 30 - Farmer Day
Friday, May 31 - Bike Day
PARENT REMINDERS
EFC CLOSED
Friday, May 24, and Monday, May 27, for Professional Development and Memorial Day.
Thursday, July 4 and Friday, July 5 for Independence Day!!
August 30 and September 2 for Professional Development and Labor Day!
SUMMER REMINDERS
Feels like we just sent home snow gear and now its time for Sunscreen!! Please label and bring in a bottle of sunscreen for your child. NO AEROSOLS PLEASE!

For your child’s safety we do not allow sandals on the playground. Please make sure your child has close toed shoes for outside play. 
ESPECIALLY FOR PARENTS
SUPPORTING A GROWTH MINDSET

“A person who grows up getting too frequent rewards will not have persistence, because they’ll quit when the rewards disappear.”

Dr. Robert Cloninger, Center for Well-Being
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Happily, it is now the season for pulling out bikes and scooters; heading to the park, field, or playground to play; and creating masterpieces with sidewalk chalk. Last night our girls, ages 6 and 4, whizzed up and down the driveway on their scooters, enjoying the warm air and sunshine. At one point I exclaimed to our younger daughter, “You are so fast!” This was immediately followed by a question from our older daughter, “Mommy, am I doing a good job too?” “Yes!” I replied, “You are doing great!”

In spite of what I have learned time and again about the negative consequences for children of too much praise, it is a hard habit to break. And yet as I think about the spring and summer months and the opportunities they afford our girls to learn and develop new skills, I am reminded of the importance of fostering a growth mindset--and that too much praise can be an obstacle to this.

Psychologist Carol Dweck is a leading researcher on the concept of fixed versus growth mindsets. While a fixed mindset assumes that you can’t materially change your capabilities, intelligence, or character, a growth mindset thrives on challenge and embraces new opportunities to learn and expand a base of knowledge. People with a growth mindset are intrinsically motivated to learn.

Dweck has found that children develop their mindsets—their beliefs about themselves and their abilities—very early in life. She has discovered that praising children can foster a fixed mindset as children become focused on proving themselves for the purpose of receiving praise, versus engaging in the learning process for the purpose of obtaining knowledge.

It is instinctive for most parents to praise their children, so one way praise can be used more effectively is to praise a child’s effort rather than his or her ability. As Dweck notes from her research,

“…ability praise pushed students right into the fixed mindset, and they showed all the signs of it, too: When we gave them a choice, they rejected a challenging new task that they could learn from. They didn’t want to do anything that could expose their flaws and call into question their talent.

In contrast, when students were praised for effort, 90 percent of them wanted the challenging new task that they could learn from.”

Parents can also substitute praise with an observation or an open-ended question, which have the benefits of increasing vocabulary and critical thinking skills.

Next time I’m tempted to say, “Good job!” as our daughter crosses the monkey bars, I think I will try an observation such as, “You used your arm muscles to get all the way across that time!” Or maybe I’ll try a question: “Why do you think they are called monkey bars?” 

Check out the Parent Blog for Carol Dweck’s TED Talk.

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