Sunday morning, my beloved and I were strolling in the center of town. I noticed my mind going to the remainder of the day, the beginning of the week, the end of the week, circling the tasks that have been accumulating for me since my return from a five-day trip. The internal game going in my body-mind felt like one of my all-time favorite guffaw sayings: God put me on the earth to accomplish a certain number of things. Right now I am so far behind, I will never die. Then, I paused, let those future fears and hopes dissolve, and said, "I am here with you right now. This is the only reality."
Before we departed for our walk, Rich had showed me the article that houses Henry Ford's quote below under Be Moved. I don't know much about Henry but several of his quotes meet me directly and I sense he was a straight shooter. I sense he lived in naked reality. Naked: no hiding. Fully transparent to the current moment and holding presence. Reality: what is. Our incessant mind chatter, which typically leans toward hope or fear, is quiet. Silence and space allow for awareness to saturate each situation, arising without any debris. Of course, this is a practice. The mother of all practices. At its heart are the hopes and fears created by our brilliant mind. With awareness, we see that we are not present in reality but moving, toward a future hope, or away from a future fear.
About twenty years ago I heard a friend say, "I need 60 days in May." Promptly I adopted that statement; it provided a little salve to my hope and fear-filled life. Each passing year I held on to the phrase, secretly hoping it would come true or that the tasks in my life would drop or magically complete. Until I glanced at our calendar (3 birthdays, our anniversary, oldest daughter home from college, wisdom teeth surgery, son's Prom, son's performance in Romeo & Juliet, SAT's, ... and this is just a part of the family life, without business, professional, volunteer, community endeavors,) 60 days in May had been asleep.
Today I am choosing to put this motto to bed for good. Not that I live without mind chatter, or future hope and fear. With practice, however, I see the future fear, or hope, and I am brought back to naked reality.
Like life, money matters are riddled with hope and fear. Have you ever wished for more money (another version of more days)? "If only I had more money..."
Through practice I see the parallels, and I bring that awareness to work with others around money. Given that we use money for security (future fear) and aspirations (future hope), the integration of money and naked reality is an art as much as a science. We as individuals, and as a culture, are called to develop the ability to feel the naked reality of right now - "I have everything I need" and saturate our awareness in this truth. Thus we catalyze the best financial decision for now, and open the path for the next best decision. It is alarming for many, even the experts, to realize that history (or past financial experiences) is more or less bunk. Those awake enough to recognize this truth dance with naked reality.
What's now/next? Ah, yes, wrapping a birthday present.
Facing reality, (Nakedly :-) )