September, 2011


 Feelings are Friends



As people on this planet, I believe the ultimate "objective" on the journey is to befriend - eventually - everything about the human experience. The befriending process takes time, intention and practice. But eventually we arrive at that place where our hearts are expanded and we may easily welcome those distractions, beliefs, sensations, and afflictions that we used to reject and that caused us suffering and confusion.


Feelings, yes feelings, are the lifelong befriending opportunity.  How we view feelings, and solidify them into emotions, causes everyone problems.  To assist with understanding the difference between feelings and emotions, I consulted Often the two words are used interchangeably; even the dictionary indicated they are synonyms. That can be where our confusion, and pain, begin.


Feelings are:  1. the function or the power of perceiving by touch. 2. physical sensation not connected with sight, hearing, taste, or smell. 3. a particular sensation of this kind: a feeling of warmth; a feeling of pain. 4. the general state of consciousness considered independently of particular sensations, thoughts, etc. 5. a consciousness or vague awareness.


Emotions are:  1. an affective state of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like, is experienced, as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness. 2. any of the feelings of joy, sorrow, fear, hate, love, etc. 3. any strong agitation of the feelings actuated by experiencing love, hate, fear, etc., and usually accompanied by certain physiological changes.


Look at the subtle differences. Feelings catalyze emotions.  Feelings arise, and emotions carry out the manifestation of the feeling. Feelings are integral to being human. Emotions are also part of the human experience. They are not a problem. In fact they are a delight and differentiate us from other sentient beings on the planet. We perceive feelings as unfriendly when we allow our emotions to take hold and grip our minds with ideas, beliefs, concepts and stories.


You may ask, why is this important?  Where is Gayle going with this?


As long as we inhabit these bodies, we will experience feelings - of all kinds. Unless we learn how to welcome, embrace and feel our feelings (please see this month's 5-Minute Try It), we will remain in a cycle of suffering - of our own design.  Our suffering was sustained when we crystallized an emotion into a story created by our imagination. The feeling - the energetic sensation in our body - was never felt.  It was hijacked by an emotion - usually anger, fear or sadness. And then that anger, fear or sadness was solidified into a well-developed story, which served the purpose of allowing the ego to feel safe.


This cycle of suffering ends once you begin to make friends with your feelings by allowing them to express themselves in your life, authentically.


Feeling deeply,


In This Issue
5-Minute TRY It!
This Month's Article: "Financial Fear"
Be Moved...
Be Inspired...
5-Minute TRY It


Feelings are Friends - FEEL Them!*


1.  Minute one:  Sitting or standing comfortably, bring to mind a situation that causes you distress.  Mentally intensify the situation.


2.  Minute two:  Quickly determine what primary emotion arises when you bring to mind this situation. Holding this emotion lightly, take your awareness to your entire felt sense of your body.


3.  Minute three:  What area of your body is calling your attention?  Place your full attention on this area and describe your sensations. (i.e. thick, hot, tingly, pulsing, streaming ...)


4.  Minute four:  Stay with the sensations, fully bringing your breath to that area of your body.  Notice any shifts in the sensations.


5.  Minute five: As the sensations shift, notice any changes in your physical, emotional or mental state, and any "space" or distance that has now arisen around the situation.


6.  Complete your practice by reflecting on the situation and accessing any insights from this practice. What's new? What's possible? 


*To assist you with this practice, download the Body Verbs-Body Map PDF, which you can find below, under Be Inspired.


Financial Fear

As emotions are a natural "condition" of the human experience, I invite you to look closer at the emotion most often tied to money: fear. With the markets and global economy playing on the proverbial roller coaster, again, we are called to expand our way of facing these events with new skills.  Skills that are gutsy, real, powerful - dare I say transformative? 

(Continue reading here)


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Outer circumstances are reflections of our inner state, and by changing ourselves on the inside -- the way we perceive and understand the world -- we can positively alter the conditions of our outer lives.  All is performed in the spirit of joy, laughter, and play, even to the point of absurdity.


~ Mark Havill, Ph.D., translator of The Art of Soaring 


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