In loving memory of Jackie “Bebe” Harris

NCSF is saddened to hear of the passing of Jackie “Bebe” Harris on October 12, 2023 in St. Louis, MO.

Jackie was always such a bright light in every room, and a vibrant presence in our communities. She cannot be replaced, but she will always be loved and remembered. Her friends and colleagues at NCSF honor her 9 years of service, both as a Board Member and her dedicated outreach in bringing people together.

The Visitation will take place on October 17, 2023 from 5:00 p.m. - 7:00 p.m. at the Irwin Chapel on 3960 Maryville Rd in Granite City, IL.

Tell Meta to Stop Denouncing

Kink and Non-monogamy

It’s important for institutions like Meta to stop stigmatizing normal sexual behavior as unhealthy or harmful. Tell Meta what you think by signing OPEN’s petition!

Meta’s new AI dating coach is telling users that kink and non-monogamy are “harmful.” Gizmodo reports the AI coach calls swinging “potential harmful activities” and BDSM a “red flag.”

"NCSF urges Meta to stop spreading false information and stigmatizing kink and non-monogamy,” says Susan Wright, NCSF Spokesperson. “These behaviors are common, with the Sexual Diversity in America survey finding that at least 30% of adults in America have engaged in kink and 14% have had threesomes. When institutions like Meta perpetuate negative stereotypes, it promotes discrimination and harmful mental health repercussions."

"When it comes to Meta's new AI chatbots, this can be dangerous for those who are new to exploring the swinger and kink lifestyle,” says Kiley George, NCSF's Swing Lifestyle Liaison and producer of the Pineapple Express podcast. “As an influencer on social media that helps new people navigate swinging, non-monogamy and kink, Meta’s hostile remarks toward swinging are not only controversial but it takes away our freedom of speech even when we aren’t violating any community standards. Social media can be a valuable tool for those embracing the swinging lifestyle; it provides a platform to connect, share experiences, and build a supportive community. If AI chatbots are using language like ‘sexual assault’ or ‘abuse’ this can turn people away from those flourishing, safe and supportive communities.”

NCSF Celebrates National Kink Month with

an Interview with Goddess Lakshimi

"Right now my biggest project is to do something for the Carter Johnson Library every month. Those buildings don’t run on air. I think that that particular project is noteworthy because it deals with everything from masochism, sadism, sexuality. To find just old love notes and old love stories. I love books. That is the way we love. Not that conventional. There are new books there every time I go. I find the book and I go to sleep with it. I am amazed and mesmerized with Lucifer the Light Bearer, which is the newspaper that Mama Vi has in her collection that was written from about 1883 to 1903, I think. I have so much to thank the Library for because now there’s a section that’s strictly on human sexuality. There’s a Scholars Room for goodness sake. You can go there and just be in the books. And my father, Papa Nathan has an entire room dedicated to him. And yes, I was out to my mother and father."

NCSF Media Updates

NCSF Media Updates are a sampling of recent stories printed in US newspapers, magazines, and selected websites containing significant mention of BDSM-leather-fetish, polyamory, or Lifestyle issues and topics that are posted on the NCSF Blog. These stories may be positive, negative, accurate, inaccurate or anywhere in between. NCSF urges everyone to make comments that dispute stereotypes about alternative sexuality.