HO HO...HO? It’s so hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that Christmas is one week from today!? It has definitely not been the most wonderful time of year for many in 2020, (as it often isn't, but that’s another story) and my heart goes out to anyone who is suffering from any loss, loneliness, financial, mental and/or physical health issues.

The amount of change forced upon us these past 10 months has affected every level and aspect of our society - for good or for bad - and in many instances, both. It's our perspective and how we respond that makes the difference, trusting that as long as we are doing our best at any given moment, ultimately the Universe sorts everything out as it should be. It just might not look, feel or be on the timeline that us mere mortals desire! But we will be transformed for the better as a result.

In my talks, essays and coaching, I am always trying to remind you that we each have more power than we think we do to create the reality, world and existence that we want. So do not wait for permission from anyone outside of yourself to make your life better - which means don’t blame anyone for making it worse either. Think about what you need, what would make you happy, and decide on a course of action that will take care of your own unique mental, emotional, physical, financial and/or spiritual health and goals - and then be about that business to the best of your ability within whatever confines or strange circumstances you currently find yourself. I'm not saying this is easy, but in my opinion, experience and observation, the possibility to improve always exists.

Today’s PGG talks about letting go of the limitations we on impose on ourselves, liberating us to see and do things in a different way in order to create a new story that could in fact be lighter, brighter and better. But even when the restrictions are external or beyond our control, as many of us experienced in 2020, we can still find the positive in it it as proven by the 17 people who attended my The Year that was 2020: Review, Revel & Recalibrate celebration on Tuesday. Yes, I said celebration because there is always an opportunity to learn and grow, and there’s a silver lining in every cloud. Most of us confronted mental health or other internal issues or patterns, which made us stronger and more prepared to deal with whatever comes our way next.

It was an inspiring and empowering event; you can see some testimonials and clips from it here and here. (BTW, if you aren't already, I invite you to follow me on Instagram:)) If you couldn’t make the Zoom, but would like to get the worksheet (which I highly recommend to help organize your thoughts) and the 25 minute portion of me speaking (group sharing was not recorded), you can register here to receive it.

And as we approach the shortest day of the year - the Winter Solstice on 12/21 - remember that the Light is within you. Make a commitment to fan that flame and generate your light to be as strong and clear as possible as we move forward in this new world we are individually and collectively creating at this very moment. My holiday wish is that you seek the gifts within yourself and allow them to shine as bright as a star for us all to be illuminated by, even if that is simply your ability to heal and connect to your own inner authority, as we are going to need all the stars and lighthouses we can get in the months and years ahead. If you would like my help with that, my holiday sale ends this Sunday 12/20. Use coupon code HOLIDAY2020 to receive 20% off all coaching services, and schedule through 1/31/21. It’s a great opportunity to invest in yourself or give as a gift to others.

Today's PGG Video of the Week talks about the importance of creativity, and this week's Instagram post is a reminder that the Light is within you. For something a little more in-depth with my thoughts on personal growth and your part in history, check out this podcast style interview with Rick Young of What's in Your Hand Radio Show.

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Wishing you a Peaceful, Reflective, and Empowering Holiday Season!
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And in case you missed these, you can read my PGGs that specifically address the current crisis: Quality Control: How to make the best of these times of quarantine and questioning, How to cope with (and benefit from) what you can’t see during the time of corona, United We Stand and Anatomy of Awareness. You can also check out The Pain of Being, which talks about the George Floyd/BLM protests. Feel free to share those links (or any others) with anyone who could benefit.
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New Rules
Originally published on November 29, 2011

Rules are mostly made to be broken and are too often for the lazy to hide behind. ~Douglas MacArthur

There are no rules here — we’re trying to accomplish something. ~ Thomas Alva Edison

One of my all-time favorite films is Strictly Ballroom for a variety of reasons, one of which is how the main character, a world class ballroom dancer wants to use his own steps in competition and the outrage and, ultimately, delight this causes. I’ve always loved to dance but hated formal exercise. Since I’m not out at the clubs much these days, Zumba and cardio salsa at the gym have filled the gap; but I never was into doing exactly what was presented – I generally stand in the back enjoying the music and sort of go along with the group.

I recently found a new class called Nia, which is perfect for me – it includes sections for “free dance” and encourages you to “dance it your way.” It kind of looks like hippie dancing, or what you might do if you were in your room when no one was watching; it’s a great workout that speaks to my body in a way that makes me feel good.

This time of year especially is filled with many traditions and routines, along with thoughts about the changes we want to make in the New Year. My mom has always made the holidays extra-special with borderline excessive (but not at all tacky) decorations around her home, and this year she just wasn’t feeling it. When I suggested she could put up the tree up with a few accent pieces instead of doing the whole Winter Wonderland/Santa’s Workshop, she thought it was impossible – it had to be all or nothing.

I insisted it could be done and took some of the items she put in the same place every year and used them differently. She fought with me tooth and nail, until I proved they would indeed fit in spots she said they wouldn’t. The house looks festive and the mission was accomplished; it feels like a maximum amount of decor with minimal amount of effort! But it was her resistance to change and incredulity that several options and alternatives existed that were the hardest parts to tackle – she simply couldn’t see any other way than how she’s done it year after year.

Tradition can be a good thing, but it’s important to know when those traditions and routines are serving or restricting us. Sometimes you just gotta break the rules, think out of the box, do it "your way". Where we would we be without the hundreds and thousands of rule-breakers both known and unknown, in every field - especially the arts, science, fashion and civil rights?

But the truth is that often our most fervent rules and regulations have been totally self-imposed, and/or are no longer necessary. It’s easy to get caught up in doing the same old thing just because that’s the way we’ve always done it. Sometimes we need a fresh eye, another brain, to look at the same situation and come up with a new solution, a new way of doing things that we couldn’t see because you were too close or it was too engrained in our psyche.

Wondering if change will serve you better than reinforcing the "rules" you have in place right now, or which walls need to come Tumblin Down and be replaced with some new Moves Like JaggerGive me a buzz and I’ll be the law enforcement that looks the other way and the instructor that helps you create the right combination of funky steps you can dance to the beat of your own drum!

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