The most frequent response I hear after telling someone they are a perfectionist is, "Oh no, I never get it perfect!" That very statement is a confirmation of my reading. Invariably, people with perfectionist tendencies never think they got it perfect. For many perfectionists, their idea of something being perfect is, in fact, quite unattainable.
This newsletter will focus on 3 different aspects of perfectionism that can be read on any face. First, there is the person who operates under the belief that there is only one right way to do something and every other way is wrong. The second type wants to listen so carefully that they are sure they got it right and the third type hates being wrong so much they will double check themselves if they have any doubts.
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Perfectionist lines
 If you have three or more vertical lines between your eyebrows, you are a perfectionist. You may have been raised in an environment where there was a right way to do things and everything else was the wrong way. Or, you may have had a strict discipline imposed you like military or religious training. You may have the feeling that everything has a place and everything should be in its proper place.
Theory: The intense focus it takes to make sure that something is free of error manifests itself as the lines between the eyebrows.These people may be difficult to work with because they seem so picky; but, they are even harder on themselves and feel they are giving everyone else a break. If you have these lines you may need to ease up and enjoy life a little more. |
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Low ears
 You have a "do it right" approach. A patient listener, you gather information carefully in order to be sure you got it right. You may feel you will miss something or something will be overlooked if you are rushed. You prefer a slow, steady and careful approach to matters and are always ready to hear more.
Theory: When the ear lobes are below an imaginary line drawn horizontally below the nose, the person wants to be careful about what they hear and will take the time to get things right. If you have this trait it is good to make some nodding gestures or listening sounds so the speaker will know you are still with them.
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Crooked teeth
 Your gift is in being able to see both sides of an issue. You may be good in debate because you can defend either side. The real question for you is, "Which is the correct side?" You know there is more than one choice and you hate being wrong. In real life, you are probably very seldom wrong because if you have any doubts you will double check yourself. Your challenge is holding yourself to such an impossibly high standard. For example, whenever you wonder," Did I lock the door?", you will always go back and check it even though 99% of the time you find you had locked it after all.
Theory: Physiology may affect psychology. People with crooked bottom teeth are acutely aware that things are not always the way they are supposed to be. In their experience, life is not smooth and even. It is full of all sorts of sorts of unexpected in's and out's and occasional rough spots. For them, there may be as many different positions and ways to view something as there are in the different positions of their teeth. Any crooked teeth can be read as a person who sets impossibly high standards and hates being wrong; but, it especially applies to people with crooked bottom teeth.
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Living With a Perfectionist
We live in a world where we almost automatically expect that things will work as they should. Without even a second thought, we fly and ride in machines whose malfunction could spell our instant deaths. We also live with tight schedules and we expect that everything from the time the TV program will air to the time the bus will arrive or the meeting will start will have a degree of timeliness and predictability. We expect our technological devices will work instantly and correctly whether it is a computer, a cell phone, a GPS or an I-Pod.Yet, none of this would be possible without perfectionists. Without the standards of numerous perfectionists in many walks of life, the world as we know it would quickly turn to chaos.
Of course to some degree we all have to be perfectionist. We live within an accepted margin of error. Even when we are driving a car we know we must keep it between the lines and we know to not blow dry our hair in the bath tub. But, if you have any or all of the features mentioned above, you may have taken perfectionism to a whole different level. The world may owe you a debt of gratitude and you may have garnered cheers along the way for your efforts, but how are you seen by others?
Have people ever told you that you were too picky? Have you ever been told that you think everything has to be your way? Were you ever accused of having to always be right? Go look in the mirror and see if you have one of the above features on your face. (You can also include even eyebrows and angled eyebrows.) The friction you are encountering may be caused by the difficulty that other people have in trying to live up to your standards.
You may not even realize why they are complaining because measured by your own self expectations, your requirements of them were not that high. Truthfully, most perfectionists have learned to never expect from others what they demand from themselves.
The solution for the friction you may occasionally experience with others is to accept that you are a perfectionist and be willing to cut them some slack. While you are at it, you might find you would be happier if you cut yourself some slack too. Having a sense of humor about your own perfectionism will allow others to feel more comfortable around you.
Life as a perfectionist is not easy. You often suffer from your own constant self judgment and are puzzled and wounded when others have negative reactions toward you. If you are wanting to soften some of your perfectionist tendencies realize that being so hard on yourself is what put all those lines between your eyebrows. So, lighten up and save your face!
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Mac
Mac Fulfer
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Me and Dad in 1984
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Earlier this year my new and much improved website was posted on line. I wanted it to be a place for people to "hang out" and browse through many articles on face reading and learn more about what we offer.
This new website was made possible through the extreme hard work of Ronda Fulfer, my sister. Lucky for me, her business is website design. I can't thank her enough for her patience with me in this effort
This newsletter is dedicated to my dad, James E. Fulfer. Before his death, at age 54 he was a carpenter, and he was a perfectionist. As a kid I often resented working with dad because everything we did had to be perfect no matter how hard it was or long it took. However, when we finished a project it was flawless. I often wonder if dad's impossibly high standards wasn't a contributing factor in his early demise. I just know that I sure do miss him.
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