For most people, the holidays evoke thoughts of family togetherness. This can be hard if you’re experiencing your first holiday since your divorce. You won’t have a partner in the home, and the children may be spending time with the other parent. This means you might be spending the holidays alone.
This can seem depressing, but it doesn’t have to be that way. After a divorce, you no longer have to follow previous family traditions. Feel free to be flexible and create your own. Focus on your happiness this holiday season and you’ll look forward to the holidays every year.
Things may not go as planned during your first holiday as a single parent. Emotions may be still running high. You may be fighting over custody with the other parent. Don’t get overwhelmed. Get rid of the pressure involved with the holidays and go easy on yourself. Trust that things will get better as time goes on.
Don’t feel like you need to be set in your ways. Christmas doesn’t have to occur on December 25. If the other parent insists on having the kids for both Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, it’s not the end of the world. You can celebrate with the kids before or after. As an added bonus, your kids will get two Christmases, which to them might seem like a positive.
Be amicable toward the other parent for the sake of your children. Fighting during the holidays only adds more stress to the situation. Push your negative feelings aside and make the holidays a wonderful time of year for the kids. Find a way to compromise and work things out.
Don’t Feel Isolated
Many people want to help loved ones during the holidays, so you’ll likely get invitations to spend holidays with friends, neighbors and loved ones. Take advantage of the opportunity to get out of the house and spend time with others. It will keep you busy and get your mind off the divorce and your emotions.
Volunteering at your church or in your community or simply helping a neighbor in need will help you recognize that there are people who are less fortunate. Reach out and see how you can help others this holiday season. Your recipient will be grateful to you, and you’ll feel better as well. It’s a win-win situation!
The holidays can seem lonely and depressing after a divorce. But with the right attitude, you can make this holiday season a positive and memorable one. By being proactive and adjusting to the changes, you can enjoy time with friends and family.