Share the Care, Inc

Share the Care, Inc.
Providing Services to Family Caregivers
since 1986

November 2019

407.423.5311 (phone)

A Few Words from Mary Ellen
Gratitude. It is that time of year again. I guess the name of the holiday says it all - Thanksgiving.
After some reflection caused by a conversation with an old friend about parenthood, it occurred to me that we may need to be reminded what we have to be grateful for...
ACT One: Someone who loves you (your mother) does something unpleasant but necessary to help you. At the time this act of love is executed, you not only don't appreciate it, it makes you angry or upset. You choose not to see the true motivations of the person trying to help you. In fact, you say hurtful things and behave badly in response.
Skip forward in time.
Act Two: Someone you love (your child) requires that you do something unpleasant but necessary to help them. They not only don't thank you they get angry and lash out at you. They do not understand your true motivation they only see how the act has made them uncomfortable. They say and do hurtful things.
At the time these things occur there is rarely (if ever) a thank you. Recently, my most challenging child told me that as he has grown older he realizes that I was mostly right when he was a kid. (The other, easier kids, expressed this years ago) Not exactly a thank you, but close. It was an important moment for me. There were times when it would have been easier to let things go, to ignore the self-destructive behavior that the one you love is exhibiting. It is easier to avoid than to confront. But, because we care, we confront.
I am abundantly grateful. I am grateful that my Mother did the difficult things that she had to do to appropriately guide me into adulthood. I am grateful that she didn't take the easy path and that she loved me even when I wasn't lovable. I am grateful that because of my Mother, I was strong enough to confront the difficult parts of parenting. She taught me that sometimes I would not be popular and that was okay.
Skip forward again.
Act Three: Someone you love (your Mother) requires that you do something unpleasant but necessary to help them. They not only don't thank you they get angry and lash out at you. They do not understand your true motivation they only see how the act has made them uncomfortable.
When the time came that my Mother needed someone to care for her, she did not like it. My suggestions were met with defensive banter. She was a grown woman and she could take care of herself. I was the child and should remember that. In the end she could no longer deny that she needed me. We both became graceful in our new roles. And, in the end, she was grateful.
Because there was an Act One, Two and Three there will be an inevitable Act Four. I'm hopeful that because I was who I was when my kids needed me, that they will find the strength to be the same when I need them. I am hopeful that they will understand when I am not always lovable. But, most of all, I hope they will know that I was grateful.
With Gratitude,
Mary Ellen


Thank you to our Sponsors
Senior Resource Alliance
Lake Co. Economic Development & Tourism Dept.
Net Conversion
Shuffield Lowman & Wilson, P.A.
Southeast Medical Services, Inc.
CJ Henry Law Firm PLLC
Valentine & Company
Cornerstone Hospice
Meals on Wheels, Etc.
Derrick Sudeall
Lassiter Ware
AIMS Agency Information Management Systems
Senior Helpers
Sabrina's Retirement Resort Inc. 1,2,4
The Keewin Real Property Company
The Sheridan at Windermere
Always First Home Care Companion
Washington Shores Church

Thank you to our Vendor Exhibitors
Bioclinica Research
Connect America
Cornerstone Hospice
Orlando Health Center for Aging
Parkinson's Assoc. of Central FL
Seni USA
Seniors First
Senior Resource Alliance
Shuffield Lowman & Wilson PA
Vitas Healthcare

Thank you to our Community Supporters for your Donation to the Silent Auction
Adult Day Care Center Updates
Click on the Center of Your Choice to Link to the November Updates for that location: 

In This Issue
Caregiver Forum
Adult Day Care Center Updates

Holiday Hours

Adult Day Centers and the Office will be closed:

November 28 & 29
December 23-27
January 1

Caregiver Appreciation Brunch

November 20, 2019
10:00 AM - 12:00 noon

Leu Gardens
1920 N. Forrest Ave., Orlando

Free for family caregivers; $5 for guests

RSVP to 407-423-5311

Save the Date

Caregiver Cabinet
Tues., December 10, 2019

This is your change to educate lawmakers about caregiving issues.

Call us at 407-423-5311 for  information
Pictures from the 2019 Caregiver Forum
Plenary Speaker Father Miguel Gonzalez 

Conga Line at the Opening Reception

Advocacy Panel at the Opening Breakfast

Costume Contest at the Caregiver Speakeasy

Check out our Facebook page to see more pictures. Facebook/Sharethecareinc
Square CaregiverCentral logo
An online self-assessment for family caregivers

2019 Member Providers

Comfort Keepers Altamonte Springs
Always First Homecare  Companion Service
Connect America USA
STC Color Photo BMP Converted


Call  407.423.5311  or email us at  to find out how we can best serve you and your loved ones.