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The Boy Conversation
There is a reason that publishing a book is often compared to birthing a baby: they're both long on anticipation and then, when the end product finally comes out, the reward is a tangible gift. A gift that requires endless energy in the form of caring and feeding around the clock, 24/7 -- in the case of a baby literally; in the case of book publicity, nearly. The physical and emotional toll is all at once euphoric and exhausting, and just when you swear there's no chance you'll ever do it again, that’s when amnesia sets in. Which may explain why I keep publishing.
 
           Unlike the common postpartum plight of feeling trapped at home, book tours offer the opportunity to travel across the country and engage with people from all walks of life. It is on my book tours that I learn the generalizability of a concept: how common – or uncommon, for that matter – is an issue I may have spent the past year writing about in my silo?
 
           Last week I spoke to big audiences at schools and to small groups gathered in homes or common spaces. Regardless of the venue, the questions were remarkably similar, with parents asking how to engage their sons in conversations. Like, really How To.  Walk me through the steps, Cara , they would ask.  So the door is shut, now what do I do?  Some parents voiced concerns about sex or consent issues or porn (lots worried out loud about porn); others wanted to focus on body image, developing early, or living life as a late bloomer whose friends all look like men while he is still all boy. The circumstances of the questions varied, but there wasn’t a group that didn’t crave advice about engaging with boys in the first place. Even the parents whose sons are still talkers, because they desperately want to keep things that way.
 
           In case I haven’t made it to a city where you live (at least yet), I have dedicated this newsletter to some of the press about  Decoding Boys . Forgive what looks like bragging – I am sharing because this seems to be a conversation that parents want to have, and so I encourage you all to have it. Use the tips and tricks in the links below to bite the bullet, get over the anxiety, knock on that door and start talking to your sons.
From the Podcasting Universe...
Dr. Cara Natterson joins us on Atomic Moms to demystify puberty and talk about her new book for parents  Decoding Boys: The Subtle Art of Raising Sons . In this honest and informative conversation we discuss when to have "the talk" with our kids about their changing bodies, raising teens in the digital age (yes, we're talking about porn too), and how to.... Read More
From the New York Times ...
Both Peggy Orenstein and Cara Natterson have children who — deliberately, I assume — are mentioned only occasionally in their excellent books about raising better boys. Instead, Orenstein relies on the revealing and sometimes painfully intimate interviews she conducted over the course of two years with boys aged 16 to 22, and Natterson draws... Read More
From Parenting Sites...
The  retreat of our boys  is so common, it is almost a diagnostic symptom of adolescent maleness. Some parents really fight me on this, adamant that their boys still talk to them all the time, adding for extra measure, "We have a great relationship." Congratulations! Not every kid experiences every symptom of puberty. But the vast majority of parents are grateful to read that their son isn’t the only... Read More
From Lifestyle Influencers...
When we were kids, if our parents didn't talk about what was happening to our bodies (many didn't) and our schools didn't teach about it (again, most didn't), then we were left to seek out information from either our friends or a textbook with a few clinical diagrams, and both the friends and the books seemed to evoke in equal parts disgust... Read More
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