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WAVES of HOPE

Serving OA in Rhode Island 
 
Southeastern Massachusetts

March 2019















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PHONE SUPPORT AVAILABLE ON 
MAJOR HOLIDAYS

MARATHON PHONE MEETINGS ARE HELD ON  ALL MAJOR HOLIDAYS  EVERY HOUR ON THE HOUR BEGINNING AT 8 A.M. AROUND REGULARLY SCHEDULED MEETINGS. EACH MARATHON HAS A TOPIC FOR THE DAY.

DIAL  712-432-5200
ENTER PIN  4285115#
 
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Local Meeting List
  Updated January 11, 2019
 

IMPORTANT!

GROUP CONTACT INFORMATION: Please check your group contact name and phone number on the local Ocean and Bay Meeting List. Send changes to 

Also, check your meeting listing and contact info on the Overeaters Anonymous website meeting list at  oa.org. The oa.org website listing is different than the local meeting list and must be updated by your meeting contact person.
 
* Please call ahead to verify meetings are taking place, especially during holidays. 


FIND A MEETING ACROSS THE U.S. AND BEYOND -- FACE-TO-FACE, ONLINE, AND TELEPHONE! 


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Please note that every effort has been made to adhere to OA's policy for newsletter publications. 

Opinions and experiences expressed within are those of the individual writer and not OA as a whole. 

REMINDER: This is your newsletter, so please feel free to submit your writing contributions to: oceanandbayoa@yahoo.com.

You are also invited to be one of the members who provides answers for a Q&A. Again, just send us a note to: oceanandbayoa@yahoo.com.
NEITHER SNOW, NOR SLEET....

Dear Fellow OA Member:

On Saturday, it snowed in the early morning making the roads risky to travel. For one local OA meeting, that meant many, if not all, of its members (especially those who lived two bridges away) would not be venturing out to the meeting. So, those members who were on an ongoing group text began reaching out to each other in an effort to encourage abstinence and recovery since they could not meet in person. 

One member, inspired by other OA telephone meetings, came up with the idea of organizing a telephone meeting in the afternoon using a free conference call line. A text was sent out to members with the phone and PIN numbers, and whoever was available at 2 p.m. dialed in for a one-hour meeting using the format that would have been used at the regular face-to-face meeting. Twelve members from the morning meeting hopped on board, read the Third Step from the OA 12 & 12, and shared their experience, strength, and hope. Wow! What a great way to fill the void of missing their regular meeting and support each other. Sure beats the old snow days of grazing, bingeing, and overeating on snowy days. 

My hand in yours, 

Leslie

Ocean & Bay Intergroup News
 
All OA members are welcome to attend Ocean & Bay Intergroup (OBI) meetings are held the first Tuesday of the month. 

THE NEXT MEETING IS TUESDAY, MARCH 5th at 6:30 p.m. at:

Arnold Conference Center in the Regan Building
3 Regan Court (off 111 Howard Avenue)
Cranston, RI 02920


SPECIAL APPEAL LETTER

Check to see if your meeting has received a special appeal letter to help fund sending our World Service Delegate to represent Ocean and Bay Intergoup at the World Service Business Conference in May! 

LATEST IN LITERATURE

The new second edition of Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions and its accompanying Workbook are both available for sale at Intergroup for $15.

Journals are available for $15 each; limited printing! 

ARE YOU INTERESTED IN LEARNING ABOUT INTERGROUP? Come to a meeting! Everyone is welcome. Your level of involvement is up to you -- NO PRESSURE. 

ALL OA MEMBERS are WELCOME to any and all Intergroup meetings! 

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13 th Anniversary Celebration

Big Book Step Study Meeting

SATURDAY, APRIL 6th @ 
 
 
9 a.m.

GREENVILLE PUBLIC LIBRARY
573 Putnam Pike, Route 44
Smithfield (Greenville), RI


A Room with a View Group's

22nd ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATION

GUEST SPEAKERS! 

SATURDAY, APRIL 13th @ 
9:30 a.m.

Special location! (Not the YMCA)

Calvary United Methodist Church
200 Turner Road
Middletown, RI 

REGION 6 CONVENTION

Rooted in Recovery

October 18-20, 2019

Crowne Plaza
White Plains, New York


Cape Cod Intergroup presents
Spirituality of the 12 Steps
A Day-long Retreat

Saturday, April 28th
8:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.

Carlton Hall
1006 Old Bass River Road
Dennis, RI

$10
Bev 508-566-0137 or newmom242011@gmail.com

 
FROM
OA ASK-IT
BASKET

SPONSORS: WHEN A SPONSEE IS NOT WORKING THE STEPS 

In what ways can I better serve a sponsee who is not working the Steps? Should I continue working with them no matter what? Or let them go with love and tell them to come back when they're ready? Or take another approach? 

There are, of course, many approaches to sponsoring in Overeaters Anonymous. Some of us are very structured in working with sponsees. Others of us vary the tools we use based on the particular needs of the person we are sponsoring. It is not a secret that working the Twelve Steps is key to long-term abstinence and recovery in OA. Without the Steps, we would just be another "diet with fellowship," and there are those who use OA that way-at first. Overeaters Anonymous offers many wonderful resources for understanding and support in sponsoring. Hopefully, one or more of these will help you find the answers you are looking for. The first and most readily available resource is your own sponsor, who likely has more experience than you have. And, knowing you, your sponsor will be a good sounding board for your specific concerns. The OA bookstore (bookstore.oa.org) carries a Sponsorship Kit (#210). which includes the pamphlets The Tools of Recovery (#160), Sponsoring Through the Twelve Steps (# 220), A Guide For Sponsors (#200), the Strong Abstinence Checklist and Writing Exercises (#415), a list of other abstinence resource materials, a packet of Lifeline stories about sponsorship, and the wallet card Twelve Stepping a Problem (#420). The wallet card might be the tool to use first when reviewing the situation with your own sponsor and also as a way to approach your sponsee. You might ask them if they would like to use the wallet card with you to help clarify the obstacles they're up against in working the Steps. Other wonderful resources are also available at oa.org/documents. Look under "Twelfth Step Within" for more supportive resources and ideas for both you and your sponsee.  Every sponsoring relationship can be an opportunity for emotional and spiritual growth for both sponsor and sponsee. Hopefully, these suggestions will help guide you to understanding, clarity, and a decision that works for both of you.


MEETINGS: CROSS TALK - GIVING FEEDBACK WHEN REQUESTED 

During a group discussion about cross talk and feedback, I heard that years ago you could give feedback if someone requested it in a meeting. I had never heard of giving feedback in a meeting. What is OA protocol? 

Years ago, we did give people feedback and do some cross talk, especially if people asked for it. We did not understand the importance of keeping the meeting a safe place for people to share without anything coming back at them. People even had discussions in a couple of meetings. After attending OA meetings without cross talk for more than fifteen years, I attended a Twelve Step meeting that did not observe the tradition of no cross talk. I remember feeling fear about sharing my emotional pain. I feared someone would try to tell me what to do or feel or that it was not okay to have my own ideas. Like many of us, I have had people in my past tell me what to feel or think. Since my experience at that meeting, I have been a strong proponent of no cross talk in meetings. Having a place where it is my turn to say whatever works for me without other people telling me what they think is wonderful. Then I need to shut up and listen to what other members say, without judgment or comment.

Sometimes people go overboard criticizing those who roll their eyes or nod their heads, which some members interpret as cross talk. I am grateful today that we discourage cross talk within the meetings. I love having this safe place to share. An excellent statement on cross talk is in the Suggested Meeting Format: "Feedback, cross talk and advice-giving are discouraged here. Cross talk during an OA meeting is giving advice to others who have already shared, speaking directly to another person rather than to the group, and questioning or interrupting the person speaking/sharing at the time."

From OA.ORG

NEW Pamphlet Replaces Newcomer's Packet
Only $1!
 
OA's NEW NEWCOMER PAMPHLET: 

Where Do I Start? Everything a Newcomer Needs to Know

Now available for $1.00:  Where Do I Start? Everything a Newcomer Needs to Know (#705) is OA's new pamphlet for newcomers. Composed from the five pamphlets in OA's Newcomer Packet, Where Do I Start? eliminates repetition, packing key information about OA's Twelve Step program of recovery into a single 32-page pamphlet. Includes: the Fifteen Questions, Tools (abridged), Plans of Eating, OA Promise, AA Third and Seventh Step Prayers, "Welcome Home," and so much more. Groups, service bodies, fellows: Welcome newcomers and help them get started in OA with our new, comprehensive pamphlet. Order Where Do I Start? Everything a Newcomer Needs to Know at   bookstore.oa.org

 Treasure Chest
HEARD AT MEETINGS

Recovery builds on itself. 

How do you find God? You look for Him! 

Why did you pick up the snake when you know it was going to bite you? 

Life is good. I recommend it to everybody. 

You get what you get when you do what you do. 
Ocean & Bay Intergroup 
P.O. Box 41273, Providence RI, 02940
Tel: 401-438-1301 | Email:   oceanandbayoa@yahoo.com