October 2014

Bazinga! Social Skills for Gifted Children

Sheldon Cooper. Have you heard of him? He is the main character on the TV show, The Big Bang Theory. The idea is that these super smart scientists band together and create their own peer group; the equivalent of the kids they would sit with at the lunch table in elementary school. As an audience, we are cheering for them as they find the acceptance as adults that they were missing as children. We root for them to overcome their various issues and learn to interact with the larger community to form satisfying relationships. As the show progresses, they have more or less success with this adventure. While TV is certainly not reality, there are bits and pieces of it that we see and can relate to either from our own experiences or those of our friends and family. It would not be so successful if we had nothing in common as viewers.

As I watch it from the standpoint of a therapist, you can imagine the things that I am thinking. This is especially true for me, because I have devoted my entire professional life to helping children and families with social skills deficits. Some of what I see them doing zings right to my brain. I can't help mentally applying some of the strategies we use in our Stepping Stones groups to the character's behaviors and wondering how the outcome would be different if they had nurtured these skill sets as children. How would their lives be different if they had focused themselves in a well-rounded way, as opposed to only on their intellect?
Dear Cathi,


What do you do when you tell your daughter you are going to take away her phone and she says no and keeps it?  


Eventually I won't be able to physically take it from her. I feel helpless and I think she doesn't respect my authority.


What should I do?


Tanya R.



Dear Tanya,


I can't tell from your email what actions proceeded your wanting to take your child's phone away, but my intuition tells me a rule was broken the consequence of which was phone removal. I feel your frustration and commend you on making the choice NOT to engage in a physical tussle with your child over the phone in question.




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For over two decades, Cathi Cohen's passion has been helping children gain confidence and learn new ways to interact successfully with their peers-in effect, to raise their social IQs. Cathi's newly launched website site offers articles, coaching strategies and resources to help parents raise happier, more socially connected kids.

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