October 2019 E-News
Transitions Large and Small
“If there is no struggle, there is no progress.”
-- Frederick Douglas --
Any change carries with it challenges. Change that we haven’t chosen, or that is thrust upon us is a particular burden. You know what these are: the health crisis or death of a loved one; the pink slip or major change of responsibilities pushed upon us at work; the unexpected breakup; the decision of a friend or family member that reverberates in our own life. 

These kind of changes are difficult for many reasons, not least of which is that we feel out of control. We didn’t choose it. Because I spend so much of my life at least pretending to be in control, I don’t do well when I am cast into this kind of ‘liminal space.’  
On a recent Lumunos retreat, a man spoke about a time he was in liminal space. A move across the country had been forced on him due to his spouse's job change. He felt lost and disoriented. When I asked him what helped, he said, “Going to Target!” In the midst of so much newness, going someplace that felt familiar and comfortable helped.

"Going to Target" has become my new phrase for the act of returning to the familiar. Literally going to Target doesn’t do it for me, but when I feel disoriented, returning to some familiar practice or person does. I thank God for those people, places and practices that save us in times of change. And for Target.
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Life's Smaller Curve Balls

Our theme this year has been all about transitions – particularly big ones that are life changing. But, at the other end of the spectrum, we all face daily mini-transitions.

What springs to mind is the idea that our daily “to-do” list rarely mirrors our daily “got ‘er done” list. The idea that “life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans” covers little curve balls thrown our way, too.

One example, top-of-mind right now, is the list of things I told myself I needed to get done before this day is out. At the same time, I’m yet again tangling with my daily struggle to find some time to keep my (supposedly) daily centering prayer/meditation practice going. Like exercising every day, I know that committing to a daily contemplative practice is a really good idea. But, what about that spreadsheet and those emails that seem right now to be so essential? The sun might not rise tomorrow if I don’t get to all of it.

For those of you who have read what Keating, Merton, Rohr, Bourgeault, Finley or others have said about contemplative prayer, you know they argue it’s not a “nice-to-have” thing. They say it’s a life-changing thing. I’m convinced they’re right.

So, time to wrap up this little ramble and go sit quietly for a bit. One less thing is going to get done this day, but so be it. Maybe I’ll be that much better prepared to face tomorrow’s change-up pitches.

Dan Quinlan
Reflection Question
What do you find helpful in times of unexpected change?
What is your "Going to Target"?
Navigating Transition Fog
Brenda Reynolds

Aging Well:
A Two-Part "LumZoom" Conversation About the Transitions of Aging
October 8, 2019, 8-9 PM (ET)&
November 12, 2019, 8-9 PM (ET)

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To register, contact becca@lumunos.org

Waking Up:
A Four-Part "LumZoom" Conversation on Mystics and What They Can Teach Us Today
November 13 & 20, 2019, 8-9 PM (ET)&
December 4 & 11, 2019, 8-9 PM (ET)

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To register: CLICK HERE

D.C. Area Transitions Mini-Retreat
View change in your life through a spiritual lens
Germantown, MD
November 17, 2019

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Doug Wysockey-Johnson   doug@lumunos.org     
Dan Quinlan   dan@lumunos.org  
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