From the heart of Amanda Martin...
Welcome to fall Wauhatchie Families!
We have been enjoying the chill in the air as we wake up and make our way to school. This beautiful season reminds us of the importance of slowing down and tending to ourselves. This core practice of tending to our nervous system and overall well being can easily be put off in the busyness of summer as well as the beginning of the school year. We are being called to pause, ponder, and let go.
As I reflect on my own needs during this season, I wanted to share something I read this week from a blog I follow called Forest Schooled. It really touches on our approach to learning and the “tending to” we are committed to here at Wauhatchie School.
“This morning I witnessed something both simple and profound. A young boy turned over a log and found a worm. Now that doesn't sound all that profound, you might say. But there is much more to this story of course...
Moments before the worm was unearthed from its muddy home, the boy (just shy of 3 years old) had been lying on the ground with his face buried in his hands in utter despair. Usually happy most of the time, he was finding this particular morning of goodbyes with his parents difficult. He'd told me this before face planting, and was even able to express that he was uncomfortable feeling this sadness. "I want to be happy. But I'm not happy," he sulked.
In that moment, I became very aware of my own discomfort with his sadness. Oh how I just wanted to see him happy too! Briefly, the following thoughts raced through my head... What could I do or say to make him feel better? Should I offer a distraction, show him something fun he could play with? Should I try to make him laugh?
I was able to quiet those thoughts much more quickly than I used to.
I know now that to support this child, my response should not be determined by a desire to avoid my own discomfort. Nor is it my role to interrupt his emotional process and release. So all I did was say with heartfelt empathy, "I know, it's so hard to be away from the ones we love." I sat down next to him and said, "I'm here with you."
We stayed there together on the ground for quite a while. Several times I felt an urge to do something more, but I resisted, waited, and merely offered a comforting presence. Soon he sat up and moved gently onto my lap. I continued to stay quiet. Then he began picking at the bark on a log next to us. Then he rolled the log over. And found a worm.
The rest of the day was filled with active, engaged play and learning.”
After teaching at Wauhatchie for two years and now entering into this beautiful new role as the Head of School, I can say I have experienced and witnessed this act of slowing down, connecting and tending to multiple times each week at each of our campuses. It is a gift to be a part of something so tender and consistent every day. We are all a part of something that is disrupting our current education system so beautifully. I’m grateful for that. The natural world helps us self-regulate. And when we choose to immerse ourselves into it, we really have no choice but to learn that it is only when we are connected to our own calm, that we can then provide a true safe space for others feelings, no matter how big or small.
So as we begin this fall season, I encourage you to give yourself permission to slow down, feel, reflect, and let go when you’re ready. Give yourself the same tender care we give your wonderful children here in the forest each day.
Happy October everyone!
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