OkEq eNews                                               March 16th, 2017
Oklahomans For Equality Enews Weekly

Mark Linholm & Kenneth Joslin Sponsor the Day
March 19, 2017

Mark and Kenneth are sponsoring the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center on March 19 in honor of  their  5th wedding anniversary and nearly 20 years as a couple

Mark & Kenneth!

If you would like to sponsor the center to honor your special day  click here
  • Birthdays - Yours, your spouses, your children, your parents, your friends, even your dog's
  • Anniversary's - Wedding, sobriety, adoption, coming out date
  • To honor a loved one's memory
  • Special events
  • Mothers day, Fathers day, any holiday.
  • Just because                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Kenneth Joslin and Mark Linholm pictured with their                                                                                                                                                daughter Audrey Linholm in Times Square on their                                                                                                                                                    wedding day. 
Miss Richfield 1981
Saturday, March 18, 8:00 p.m.
Tulsa Performing Arts Center - John H. Williams Theater
110 E 2nd St, Tulsa, OK 74103
In her all new show, "2020 Vision," Miss Richfield 1981 offers a survival guide for the new world. With comedic songs, videos, and her unique take on audience participation, Miss Richfield will help calm any post-election panic and provide tools to prevent the apocalypse!

Miss Richfield 1981 dedicates her life to the friendly citizens and responsible merchants of her hometown - Richfield, MN. Her live performances across the country receive critical acclaim with The New York Post declaring Miss R "the must-see act in Provincetown" and The Chicago Sun-Times describing her as "Garrison Keillor meets Mary Tyler Moore." Miss R's wide appeal includes riotous appearances on "The Tonight Show" & "Today" on NBC, "Cake Boss" on TLC, and "Watch What Happens Live" on Bravo, along with being a national spokesperson for Orbitz and Palm Springs, CA. Each year her schedule of more than 100 shows sell out theaters and nightclubs across the country, including a summer residence at the Crown & Anchor in Provincetown, MA, and frequent tours with Atlantis Events cruise ships and resorts.

This event is a benefit for Oklahomans for Equality.  Click here for ticket information
2017 Equality Gala
Saturday, April 29th, 2017, 6:30 pm
Cox Business Center

100 Civic Center, Tulsa, OK 74103
Third Street and Houston Avenue  

With special guests Meredith Baxter and Comedian Suzanne Westenhoefer
Alison Anthony and Mark Wilson - Honorary Chairs

Paul Allen and Debbie McDaniel - Chairs
(No ticket sales will be available at the door.) 
2016 Donation Tax Donation Letters

Tax receipts for donations made to Oklahomans for Equality in 2016 were recently mailed. If you have not received your tax receipt or have questions regarding your receipt, please contact  Paul Allen,  OkEq  Treasurer,
2017 Tulsa Pride Bingo
March 25, 6:30 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St. Tulsa, OK 74120

Join us for March's Tulsa Pride Bingo 2017. The beautiful and outrageous Nicole Carrington will be our host once again. Nicole has invited Rainbow Granny and Trailer Trash Teresa to join her for our biggest pride fundraiser this Pride season. Super Hot DJ Crystal will be spinning the beat for our rapid rounds of Pride Bingo and DJing our Lip Sync Contest. 

Proceeds go toward Tulsa Pride 2017. Click corresponding link above to purchase tickets. 

For more information contact  olivia.cotter@okeq.org
*Tickets for March bingo have sold out. Then next Pride Bingo will be April 15. 
Sisters In Song present: Romance & Chocolates 2017 - "How Deep Is Your Love?"
Saturday, March 25, 2017, 6:00 p.m.
Eastside Christian Church Fellowship Hall
1438 S. Indianapolis
Tulsa OK   74112 

6:00 PM  Hor D'oerves and wine with social mingling
6:45 PM Dinner with wine and Concert featuring 70's music

Come join us for an great evening of 70's music, including the Bee Gees, Queen, Joe Cocker, Pat Benetar and others. Tickets are $30/person and include wine, gnoshies, dinner with wine, and chocolates and champagne for desert in addition to the concert. There will also be raffle tickets available for a Samsung 55" 4K UHD Smart TV, a XBox 1 with a game and controller and a $30 Best Buy gift card. Please contact 918-630-9794 for tickets or more information. Just remember, seating is limited and you sure don't want to miss out on a fantastic time!!!!
Volunteer of the Month
March 2017
Jonathan Green

Jonathan has been volunteering at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center since June of 2016. They felt like OKEQ would be a great place to meet people and get non profit experience. Since volunteering they have enjoyed getting to see all the work that goes into the programming offered at Oklahomans for Equality (OkEq). "The staff and volunteers all work really hard to 
make every program and event a success" Jonathan says. 

Jonathan has made new friends in their time at OkEq and believes the staff to be wonderful human beings. They would highly recommend volunteering at OkEq to anyone who is looking for a way to support the LGBTQ community. Jonathan states, "for a relatively small commitment, front desk volunteers ensure that the day to day operations of the center run smoothly." 

One of Jonathan's favorite aspects of OkEq is the monthly show in the gallery. They say "The work shown there varies greatly and I think that is important for a community space. Young artists and seasoned professionals alike get the chance to show their art to an audience outside the typical art scene."

When they are not volunteering, they are working on their own art, going to local punk and metal shows, and playing board games with friends. Jonathan is excited to have some of their art shown at OkEq for the first time this April in the Oklahoma Figure Art Alliance group exhibition.

We thank you for your dedication Jonathan!
If you would like to volunteer contact Jose Vega at  jose.vega@okeq.org


Guys Dine Too
Tuesday April 4, 6:30 p.m.
Burn Co. Barbeque
1738 S. Boston Ave., Tulsa, OK 74119

Cost of the dinner will be around $25-$30. This will include your dinner, dessert and drink. Alcohol and Beer are not included in this price but the bar will be open.

Adam at BurnCo BBQ is opening the doors of his restaurant just for our group. So everyone please be sure to thank him and his employees for their time and great food.

If you are coming please RSVP. I need a headcount for the reservation.
We have always loved cooking and enjoyed the primal fulfillment of doing it over wood fire. Adam Myers experience at Tulsa based Hasty Bake Charcoal Grills, combined with Robby Corcoran's decade plus experience in the restaurant industry comes together to create a truly distinctive flavor.

After successful endeavors as caterers, Burn Co BBQ was launched in January of 2011. Utilizing utilitarian d├ęcor and amenities, Burn Co focuses on the food, crafting a " one of a kind", Backyard BBQ Flavor. We cut our coleslaw by hand, trim and smoke our meats daily, and relish the finest bits and pieces of all meats. We offer local products when possible, and are always trying to figure out how to shock and wow our customers with exclusive specials.
RSVP to Richard Haley at 
First Thursday Art Opening 
Tuesday April 6, 6:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Tulsa,  OK 74120
The April Oklahomans for Equality (OkEq) showcase and exhibit of local artists at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center will feature the works of OKFAA - a group of artists presenting works based on the human form, beginning with a reception on Thursday, April 6th from  6-9pm and continuing throughout the month.
OkFAA was formed in 2016 by a group of six artists united by an interest in creating works based on the human form.  Their goal, through art, is to promote all manner of dynamic, figure based art, provide encouragement to artists wishing to explore this genre, and educate the public as to the contemporary value and long tradition of portraying the figure, both clothed and nude, in art. One of the artists, Kaylee says, "We couldn't think of a more fitting place for our inaugural show than Tulsa's Equality Center and hope more art spaces in Tulsa and Oklahoma, both for profit and not for profit, decide to follow its lead by befriending free artistic expression, especially as it relates to the human body in art".

The show begins with a reception on Thursday, April 6th from  6-9pm where there will be a door prize drawn of the artist's work. The show continues throughout the month.  www.okeq.org

Oklahomans for Equality 2017 Pride Mural project

The Dennis R. Neill Equality Center and OkEq are excited to announce the 2017 Pride Mural project. The upcoming renovation and subsequent repainting scheduled for fall have offered up a unique opportunity to put our Pride out there for all to see this summer.

April and May seem like a pretty good time to do the work. Paintings should be done by  May 28th, so that all is all ready for Pride Month kick off on June 2nd with the Rainbow Run.

Mural spaces are designated as 12ft tall and 15ft wide and face the existing parking lot. Designs may be created by an individual or group .

All materials will be supplied by the artist(s). OkEq is supplying only space, and no remuneration or compensation for the artwork, just the exposure for all of Tulsa to see in the gateway to downtown!

If you are interested in this once in a lifetime opportunity please send sketches of your idea to Jose.Vega@okeq.org by March 17, 2017.

The chosen concepts will be announced on March 24, 2017 via e-mail and e-news.

Work may begin April 1st. OkEq will provide scaffolding for the safety of the artists

Voting for the People's Choice award will take place in person at the center through May 29th - June 2nd with a suggested donation of $1 for each vote.  70% of all proceeds will go to the winning artist or group. Results to be announced at Pride on June 3rd.
Equality Business Alliance Mixer
Wednesday April 19, 6:00 - 9:00 p.m.
The Garden Trug
3009 E. 101st St. Tulsa Oklahoma 74137
Our garden center, floral studio, & gift shoppe is an eclectic "urban garden" built with you in mind.  As you enter our boutique garden shoppe, you're senses will be tickled with the aromas of the season.
Listen to the soothing sounds of wind chimes and splashing fountains. Around each corner you'll find home and garden treasures for your personal garden or gifts for friends and family.   Or, Escape to a magical world in our fairy gardening department or shop our terrarium area where we have all the items necessary to build a unique tabletop size garden. 

Our promise to you: To do our level best to create spaces to inspire you to try new and different things! Most importantly, have fun with your garden.  Come see us!

Check out The Garden Trug online at www.thegardentrug.com

The Equality Business Alliance networking mixers are terrific venues for you to meet prospective clients. Mixers are open to non-members as well as EBA members. Be sure to bring business cards, business information, brochures, etc. Hosting a networking mixer is a great way to showcase your business. You may host at your establishment or use the Equality Center. If you would like to host a mixer, send an email to  jose.vega@okeq.org for more information.
The Garden Trug

Tulsa Metro Softball League
TMSL 2017 Spring Season
Sundays March 26 - May 21, 2017 12:00 - 4:00 p.m.
Carl Smith Sports Complex
17120 E. 21st St., Tulsa, OK 74134

Hey TMSL members and fans!

As the weather begins to warm up, it only means one thing: SOFTBALL SEASON! TMSL 2017 Spring Season is just right around the corner! Season will begin on  Sunday, March 26th and will last 9 Sundays until  May 21st, exluding Mother's Day and Easter weekends. Game times will be from  12pm-4pm at Carl Smith Sports Complex. Cost is $40/person. Anyone and everyone is welcome to join, so grab your friends and sign up today as we go into our 7th year of laughter, fun, a little bit of competition, and life long friendships!

For those of you who are curious about the Gay Softball World Series, 2017 GSWS will be in Portland, OR! The dates are  September 3rd to September 10th. If you as a team or player have any questions/interest regarding GSWS, please give us a shout and we will gladly help you!

If you have any other questions or inquiries, please do not hestitate to contact us at  info@tulsametrosoftball.com . We look forward to seeing you out this year!

TMSL Board

Registration is open at:  htosports.com         
You can also check out TSML on Facebook 
March Video eNews

Equality Center Pride Store
Show your pride with one (or more) of our colorful pride buttons. 
Available in the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center Pride Store. Prices vary from $1.00 - $3.00 

Be sure to "Like" the OkEq Pride Store Facebook page to keep up with the new items and new sale items
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Nancy and Joe McDonald Rainbow Library
"Stardust Girl: A memior"  
By: Jan Welles

The true story of a popular singer who broke all the rules and paid the ultimate price.

A stunning, velvety-voiced crooner who drew raves from Walter Winchell and Cole Porter, Jan Welles was perched on the brink of stardom, when she faced an impossible choice: deny her lesbianism or abandon the career she had worked a lifetime to achieve. Ranging from the dazzling lights of Broadway to dusty bullfighting rings in the Dominican Republic, flings with Lana Turner and Paulette Goddard to an attempted rape by Broadway impresario Billy Rose, Jan Welles's tale is a saucy story of achievement, danger, and the ultimate triumph of being true to yourself.

Jan Welles was a singer for RKO records and was a regular on The Arthur Godfrey Show, where she was known as the Stardust Girl, as well as on The Steve Allen Show. She was also the first woman bullfighter in Mexico. She now lives in Louisville, Kentucky

Find this selection and more by visiting the   Nancy and Joe McDonald Rainbow  Library .
January 18, 2017

Unanimous Decision by the Oklahoma Supreme Court.
This decision allows "ANY" adult adoptee a way out of legal adoption and does not apply to under age adoptions.

This decision opens the door to others seeking exit of similar "ADULT" adoptions through the Oklahoma courts for whatever reason deemed in the best interest of the "ADULT" adoptee.

We wish to thank Attorney Michael C. Redman for a very long battle and for a courageous presentation of the facts and reasons that convinced the courts in this case

Jared Bruce and  Bruce Schultz

Thank you for removing the impediments that kept many Oklahoma same-sex couples from being able to marry. 


Please join The College of Monarchs, Board of Directors and Membership of  
The Imperial Court of All Oklahoma for

Hotel Information
Renaissance Hotel and Convention Center
6808 S. 107th E. Ave
Tulsa, Oklahoma 74133
Please call for reservations
and ask for Imperial Court of All Oklahoma's Room Block (Ends March 10th)
$99.00 per night

Ticket Information
Early Bird Weekend Package (Ends March 30, 2017) - $90
Weekend Package (after March 30, 2017) - $100
Friday Night,  Out of Town Show (and Bar Crawl) - $25
Saturday Night, Coronation Ceremony (includes Plated Dinner) - $50
Sunday Morning, Victory Brunch -$25
Vist the ICAO Website Webstore to purchase tickets -  http://www.impcourtok.org/apps/webstore/

Program Advertising  
Ad Deadline is Friday, March 3, 2017
Send in JPG or PDF format

for complete details and Ad forms visit our website -  http://www.impcourtok.org/program-ad-information
Complete Coronation X Information can be found on our 
Facebook ICAO Coronation Page and on our ICAO Website (www.impcourtok.com)


Compassionate Tulsa - Make Tulsa Golden

Please join us in our city-wide campaign to "Make Tulsa Golden." Using "The Golden Rule" as our guide for compassionate living, you are asked to sign the pledge to "make Tulsa golden."

The "Make Tulsa Golden" campaign encourages each of us to increase compassion in Tulsa communities by pledging to treat others as we wish to be treated.  If you are willing to make that pledge, please select the link below to be added to the list of groups and individuals working together to Make Tulsa Golden.

Sign the Pledge Here   After indicating your pledge, you can download our Make Tulsa Golden pledge certificate. 

For more information visit compassionatetulsa.org 
In This Issue
Kelly Kirby CPA
Mark Linholm & Kenneth Joslin Sponsor the Day
Miss Richfield 1981
Family Ties - 2017 Equality Gala
2016 Donation Tax Donation Letters
Tulsa Pride Bingo
Sisters In Song
Volunteer of the Month
Cityscape Mortgage
2017 Turn About Show
Guys Dine Too
First Thursday Art Opening.
2017 Pride Mural project
Equality Business Alliance Mixer
Tulsa Threat 2017 Schedule
Tulsa Metro Softball League
March Video eNews
Pride Store
Rainbow Library
Stillwater Gender SUpport
Tulsa Mr. Leather
I.C.A.O. Monarch X Elections
I.C.A.O. Coronation X
Miss Jolt
Jackpot Golf Classic
Compassionate Tulsa

Donate Now

OkEq Board Meeting

 7 p.m. Thursday, March 16
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
All Oklahomans for Equality board meetings are open to all OkEq members.
OkEq Art Exhibition
The March Oklahomans for Equality (OkEq) showcase and exhibit of local artists at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center will feature the works of Josh New in a show titled "Intimate Viewing", beginning with a reception on Thursday, March 2nd from 6-9pm and continuing throughout the month.
Josh New's works feature a series of portraits honing-in on people with intimate tattoos. So often tattoos carry with them intensely personal memories, feelings, or mottos that are chosen to be indelibly marked on bodies.  They can be to remember a loved one or special event; they can represent a location, a mantra, or an eternal goal.  Often these special images and words are hidden from every day view and only glimpsed in moments of extreme vulnerability. 

Family Ties

Family Ties is an official program of Oklahomans for Equality and is a support network for LGBT parents and families in Oklahoma. For more information about Family Ties contact  olivia.cotter@okeq.org 

Lawyer in the Library
March 8
5:30 p.m. - 6:30 p.m.

Lawyer in the Library is an opportunity to meet with a lawyer about topics such as family law (divorce, paternity, custody, child support), landlord/tenant , estate planning, and bankruptcy. No appointment necessary..

Keep Coming Back Meditation Group

Every  Monday
 from 6:30 to 7:30

This Narcotics Anonymous  meditation meeting has  a group meditation followed by reading NA literature and sharing. Everyone is welcome regardless of age race sexual identity or religion, the only requirement for membership is the desire to stop using drugs. There are no dues or fees. We are not affiliated with any outside organization and are self-supporting through our own contributions. Whether you have a dollar for the basket or not please join us and keep coming back.

For more information contact, Deborah Spradlin  at  deborahspradlin2013@gmail.com

Healthcare Navigator
By Appointment

Do you need assistance with open enrollment for the Affordable Care Act a.k.a. Obamacare? Meet with Mary Jones, Planned Parenthood's Healthcare Navigator. She will be more than happy to help anyone and everyone who is interested in enrolling with the Affordable Care Act a.k.a. Obamacare. Contact Mary Jones at 918-587-4621 or
Counseling Services 
Counselors are donating their services to Oklahomans for Equality. Please be patient when setting up appointment times. It can take up to 2 weeks for them to find an available time to see you.
  Dr Kurt Choate
Dr. Kurt Choate
By appointment
Individual, youth, adolescent and
couples counseling is available on a
Sliding fee scale based on income.
Appointments are required
Dr. Kurt Choate, LPC at

Jenna Pike
Tuesdays and Thursdays by appointment only. Gender identity, sexual orientation, mood or anxiety concerns, and/or individuals who have experienced a traumatic event. Appointments are required.
Contact Jenna at jennifer.pike@okstate.edu

Tiffany Zwart
Monday -Thursday by appointment only. Gender identity, sexual orientation, mood or anxiety concerns, and/or individuals who have experienced a traumatic event. Appointments are required.
Contact Tiffany at tzwart@okstate.edu

Andria Whipple
Monday -Thursday by appointment only. Issues surrounding gender identity, sexual orientation, mood or anxiety concerns, and/or individuals who have experienced a traumatic event. Appointments are required.
Contact Andria at
Jess White
I am available for appointments  on Tuesday  from  8am-4pm  and  Thursday  from  8am-11:30am . I have experience working with anxiety, depression, gender identity, sexual/affectional orientation, trauma, and life transitions. I also have experience working with children and adolescents. You can contact me at  jess.white@okstate.edu   or 

Brendan Glon
Brendon is available for appointments from 8-3pm on Tuesday and from 2-6pm on Wednesdays. He is experienced with working with clients in the rainbow community, including sexual or affectional orientation, gender identity, spirituality, trauma history, depression, anxiety, and social issues. He works from a values oriented and humanistic theoretical model. Contact Brendon atglon@okstate.edu or by contacting the OSU Tulsa Counseling Center at 

Fallyn Lee
Fallyn Lee graduated with a Master's degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Ball State University in 2015. She is currently a doctoral student in Oklahoma State University's Counseling Psychology program. Fallyn has experience working with intimate partner violence, sexual assault, spiritual concerns, and trauma. She has also worked with children and adolescents using both talk and play therapy. Contact Fallyn at
Non-Binary Support Group
Third Wednesday of each month from 7-9 p.m. 
A new support group for folks who identify with non-binary genders, including but not limited to, genderqueer, genderfluid, agender, bigender, neutrois, genderflux, and more. This group will be a safe space to discuss our identities, receive support, and build a strong non-binary community in Tulsa. For information contact Vic Wiener at 


SOS Group


7:00 pm 
This open Secular Organizations for Sobriety (SOS) Recovery and Sobriety Group meets every Monday at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. For more information, visit www.SOSTulsa.org 

Live Free!
Coming Out
1st & 3rd Tuesdays of the month
7:00 - 8:00 pm.
Facilitated by
James Prather
James Prather

Brought to You Bi the Letter B 

 Second Tuesday and fourth Thursday of each month at 
7:00 p.m.


The group is open to all bi, pan, queer, fluid folks and their allies. 
John Madigan
SAGE Tulsa 
(Service & Advocacy
For Gay Elders)

Every Tuesday

10:00 am to 1:00 pm

"drop in

for coffee" 

Facilitated by
John Madigan


Tulsa Area Prime Timers
Tulsa Area
Prime Timers
2nd Tuesday of
every month
7:00 pm
A social organization for mature minded Gay and Bisexual men age 21 and over. The purpose is to establish friendship and support through social interaction. Visit
more information.

Yoga by Zach

$5.00 per Session



Gender Support Program


7:30 pm 

(First time interview required before attending)

Email sharon.queen@okeq.org

The program is providing support, education and social opportunities for transgender and intersex individuals.

Lambda Al-Anon Group

Every Friday

7 p.m.


Survivors of Incest Anonymous
Every Saturday
12:30 pm

SIA strives to empower those who have survived childhood sexual abuse (who are not abusing any child), who want to become survivors and thrivers. For more information, visit siawso.org



Game Night


7:00 - 9:00 pm

 Join old friends and make new friends as you play some great board and card games at the Center!

All are welcome!

Facilitated by

Saturday Volunteers Richard Haley and

Teresa Reno 


Dennis R. Neill
Equality Center
Room Rentals

The Dennis R. Neill Equality Center has many spaces for your next meeting or event. To check dates, reserve your next event or receive pricing information, contact sharon.queen@okeq.org  Stop by for a quick view of the Event Center and pick up a space

rental sheet.  

EBA Logo 2012

EBA Directory

The Equality

Business Alliance fosters a sharing of information, ideas, contacts, products and services, and also strengthens and expands our businesses, careers and community.

Workforce OK
Workforce Oklahoma
Access Point

Open every day
Workforce Oklahoma maintains a resource area at the Equality Center that includes computers, a printer and fax machine, as well as step-by-step instructions on how to register with
Oklahoma JobLink.

HIV Testing Schedule
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center 
Tuesday 4 - 8 pm
Wednesday 4 - 8 pm
Friday 4 - 8 pm
Saturday 4 - 7 pm
Testing provided by H.O.P.E. Testing
Check www.okeq.org for testing dates.
 Intimate Partner Violence& Sexual Assault Survivor Support Group
First Wednesday of each month from 5:30 - 7:30 p.m.
Domestic violence is the use of physical, sexual, threatening or emotional force to frighten, intimidate and control an intimate partner. This support and educational group is for individuals who have survived domestic violence and are ready to explore their personal healing process and find hope. The group will provide emotional support, information and resources to help participants recover from their ordeal, and may include specific goals such as creating a safety plan, reducing risk of future violence, increasing positive coping skills and addressing the impact of trauma.

Sexual assault is any forced or coerced sexual activity, such as unwanted touching or forced penetration committed against a person's will or without consent. This support group will meet together to discuss their experiences, share ideas, and provide emotional support for one another. Additionally, highly trained providers will offer information and resources to help participants recover from their ordeal. Specific goals for sessions may include crises stabilization, safety planning, increasing self-regulatory skills, addressing trauma through cognitive processing, reconnecting to support systems, family and the community,
 and preventing re-victimization. 

All services are free of charge, and confidentiality is  paramount. For more information contact Jim Scholl at 918.631.2722.
Oklahomans for Equality (OkEq) seeks equal rights for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) individuals and families through advocacy, education, programs, alliances and the operation of the
Dennis R. Neill
Equality Center.
Toby Jenkins
Toby Jenkins
Executive Director

Olivia Cotter
Office Manager

Sharon Queen
Facilities Coordinator

Jose Vega
Program Coordinator

Alex Wade
Special Projects
Oklahoman's For Equality
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
Hours: Mon - Sat Noon-9 p.m. Sun Noon-6 p.m.
Oklahomans for Equality | 621 E. 4th Street | Tulsa, OK 74120 | 918.743.4297